- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Our wedding process has been an interesting journey… from a completely uninterested mother of the bride to a childish bridesmaid throwing a hissy fit and quitting 2 months before the wedding, we’ve weathered a few little storms. Throughout it all, my dad and stepmother have assured us that things are taken care of – they wanted to pay for a big portion of the wedding. Up until 2 weeks ago, all was perfectly fine and being handled. This weekend, they dropped the bombshell:
The photographer hasn’t been paid.
The reception venue hasn’t been paid.
Nothing has been paid.
We are scrambling to empty our savings to cover this wedding. Both my fiance and I are upset… although I am not surprised, as my father has let me down countless times before. I am desperately clinging to the hope that I am not being a brat, but I think it is VERY BAD of them to wait until ONE WEEK before our wedding to tell us nothing has been paid (except the DJ… excuse me while I polish the gold medal for them for paying for that). They could have told me a month ago and we could have made changes, moved things around, started making payments. I made my table numbers by hand, and my wedding programs. I am doing this as DIY as I can. My dress is from a consignment shop. See where I’m going with this?
My in-laws are in a much better financial state, but it is unfair to ask them NOW when they’ve already paid a lot for the wedding already (open bar, flowers, rehearsal dinner). My fiance is worried that his parents won’t like mine anymore once they find out. I personally don’t care. He’s not marrying my parents, he’s marrying me. I am, however, mortified at my family’s behavior. Mortified and upset.
I had originally planned a very nice dance with my dad as a tribute to him. I’d like to change this. I will smile, put on a happy face, and be his little princess on her big day. But inside, I am absolutely seething. I’d like to change my song to be something less “OMG daddy, I love you”. Less sappy. I want it to be something appropriate enough that others don’t notice, but that he does. I don’t want him to have his sappy moment in the spotlight to endorse his behavior, if that makes sense.
Suggestions for music, or am I just overreacting?
EDIT: My initial thought is, “Lullabye (Goodnight my Angel)” by Billy Joel… although it is very sappy, it sort of seems appropriate for the time. Or Here Comes the Sun by the Beatles. Are there any less sappy ones?