Post # 1
Apparently my ex that i dated 3 years ago, has told my FI that he still loves me, and he isn’t going to let me marry the wrong guy.
Yes, you read this right. Apparantly my life is now an episode of The Hills.
Are you serious ex boyfriend? Did you not get the hint that I broke up with YOU? That I never said I love you? That I’M ENGAGED?!
I am going crazy. And so is my FI. This is just ridiculous.
I am far too angry to tell said ex to, how should i put it lightly, stay the hell away from me, with out using a few more choice words and a very raised voice.
Should i even say anything to him? Or, because it is so ridiculous, to just ignore it??
Post # 3
Oh my goodness! I’m so sorry you’re going through this drama. 🙁
How did your FI handle this unwelcome news from the ex? Did he tell him to back off then and there?
I don’t know the specifics, but I wouldn’t contact the ex at all if you can. If you’re forced to see him for any reason (school, work, mutual friends), I would tell him to lay off proactively. I’m hoping that your FI just ran into him randomly and that’s not the case though. Of course, if he starts bugging you or trying to get in touch, I would tell him to back the hell off, completely.
Post # 4
I just went through this but with the EX talking to me. If he had spoken to BF I would have been livid.
I would just ignore him if he’s come back to annoy you and FI because he realized he has no chance now that you’re engaged and starting a new life. Although if he did push it I would say something.
Like Jean, I hope he didn’t go tracking down FI to tell him that.
Post # 5
Ex still sends me text messages asking me how I am and saying that he misses me. Teddy knows that the ex and I are DONE permanently and it doesnt bother him. EX is in another state so that is prob easier…how did this occur? Was it a random bump in?
Post # 6
They both have friends of friends who live together. So through a huge grapevine of people they wound up at the same guy’s house for a party.
Post # 7
Hmmm…that is tough since you are both in the same social circles. I think it would be wise to ignore the EX…although it is hard…because I kind of just would want to go slap him around a bit haha. If you really dont want to run into him again…I would consider not going to social events where he may be there…although I dont really like the idea of not going to see your friends because he may or may not be there…
Post # 8
Ok, I don’t want you to take this the wrong way… but why are you even still talking to your ex? I’m going to be honest. You know if someone still have feelings for you. When I say “you” I mean any one of us. We know. It’s that women’s intution thing. Why are you even still talking to him if you had any inkling that he wasn’t over you.
You didn’t really go into the background other than that they ran into each other, so I’m going under the impression that you guys talk on a regular basis. If this isn’t the case, then that is just really really bizarre and hopefully your FI can keep a cool head about this and just move forward.
Post # 9
Ug. This sounds like something my crazy ex would do, thus I feel for you. Since they ran into each other by happenstance, fortunately, it hopefully won’t come to anything. You say it was at a party… was your ex by any chance drinking at the time? Or in other ways un-sober? Because it’s possible it was an empty boast/threat due to inebriation.
How did your FI respond at the time? If he’s already been direct with your ex, I’d say leave well enough alone. If not… well, you might use that grapevine to your advantage – using the shortest possible link of people (maybe one good, mutual friend?) ask someone you trust to firmly tell him to back off and that you’re not interested. Stress to said friend that it shouldn’t be a matter of you being upset by what he said, or in any other way emotionally affected.
I know it sounds jr high, but it’s a better alternative (in my mind) than you contacting the guy, or your FI slugging him out.
Post # 10
TO Mrs. Louboutin :
I have not talked to my ex in over a year. After we broke up there would be an occasional text “hey how are you doing” type of thing. But NO contoct at all in the past 14 months.