(Closed) drama with guest!! HELP!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

“Sorry, our numbers are finalized.”

Post # 5
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you were ok with her bringing her b/f and he can’t come, then I don’t see y she can’t bring another date???? But this is just my opinion.

Post # 6
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I understand not wanting her to bring some rando seat filler to replace her boyfriend at your wedding. I would let her come if I were you, but only because you work together and I would want to keep the peace.

Post # 8
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Spoonoutmyheart: wow. i feel for you and TOTALLY understand this. our wedding is 50ppl at a very expensive restaurant as well. I would let her come cause she did rsvp in time, but I wouldn’t want her invited to any bridal parties and I would probably put her in the corner… BUT thats just me and I’m bitter. what I’m telling people is that if my brother and sister aren’t allow a guest, you aren’t either unless you’re married or in a long establish relationship. Thankfully most guest are family.

Post # 9
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

If it were me, I would let her come to the wedding… since I invited her. But I wouldn’t budge on a guest. She either comes by herself or not at all.

Post # 10
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

She is being childish if she comes she comes I guess, But if you dont want her there that has to be you to let her know.

Post # 11
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

“I already listed you as a ‘not attending’.”

Post # 12
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well, i don’t know if this crossed your mind.  But I would be worried that she is RSVPing yes, but is going to do a no show.  After repeatedly saying she’s not coming and mentioning that you’ll be saving money if she doesn’t come, then RSVPing yes…I dunno, it sounds like an odd situation.  Do you think she is vindictive like that?

Post # 13
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Like lee ann said. I would be worried about paying for her plate now to, now that she said she is coming. It depends on how you catering does it. Do they have need a final count then they charge your, or would they able to take off or deduct as needed if people dont show. But im with your on the guest situation. I wouldnt want to spend extra on someone i dont know.

Good luck!

Post # 14
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve got to agree with some other PPs here, let her know you’ve already marked her as ‘not attending’ and all of your numbers have been finalized. I personally would lie and say I’ve already heard back from all the other guests, and when she verbally told you she wasn’t coming, you turned in your guest count to x,y,z vendors. True the deadline hasn’t hit yet, but if everyone RSVPs early, why keep waiting to get the ball rolling, right?

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