Post # 1
I have a guest who argued with me regarding if she can bring a date about mid march. Let’s call her Michelle. Her bf won’t be able to make it, so I put 1 seat reserved for her. Well I got her a job too a couple days before she got the invite and she happens to sit right in front of me and argued with me if she can bring someone… and why can’t she when that person can just replace her bf. i told her no and she kept insisting that and I said I’m not about to feed a person I don’t know for $140. So she told one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man that she wasn’t going to the bachelorette anymore right there over facebook when she’s sitting in front of me!! and her reason was because she can’t bring a date to the wedding and that she just found all this out and isn’t going to the wedding anymore. My wedding is very small, around 75 people, and it’s very expensive per person and she doesn’t understand this.
So I was like whatever you know. I don’t care if she comes or not. She was on the maybe list anyway… then I had dinner with another friend the other night and she told me that this girl contacted her and asked if she was going to my dinner and then she asked if she could bring a date. and my friend said that she was going and that she doesn’t have a date and the wedding is a very small and expensive wedding. my friend also said that we’re having steak and lobster. well michelle added that she is vegetarian… (no duh, my place caters to everyone and that’s why the rsvps say to put your dietary needs. they make a specific menu for you. holy freaken it’s a 5 star place and chris kattan got married there.) well anyway she also added “well i hope i’m saving her money”
that whole “i hope i’m saving her money” irritated me. I was already fine that she wasn’t going.
and guess what. today, she brought her rsvp to work and saying that she is going!
what should i do!????
Post # 3
“Sorry, our numbers are finalized.”
Post # 4
@futuremrshc: but the rsvp’s final date isn’t till friday. obviously she took a whole month to figure out if she was going.
Post # 5
If you were ok with her bringing her b/f and he can’t come, then I don’t see y she can’t bring another date???? But this is just my opinion.
Post # 6
I understand not wanting her to bring some rando seat filler to replace her boyfriend at your wedding. I would let her come if I were you, but only because you work together and I would want to keep the peace.
Post # 7
@Happy_Bee: because even to begin with her bf was on the maybe list… and it just happens to be convenient that he can’t come. our rule is only if they have been together over a year or living together. and they have only been together a few months. why would she bring a random person if it’s not her bf! that just sounds retarded to me. plus it’s so unfair for her to bring some random person when we had to cut ppl off our list of friends. it’s not like she doesn’t know my friends. she knows all of them!
Post # 8
@Spoonoutmyheart: wow. i feel for you and TOTALLY understand this. our wedding is 50ppl at a very expensive restaurant as well. I would let her come cause she did rsvp in time, but I wouldn’t want her invited to any bridal parties and I would probably put her in the corner… BUT thats just me and I’m bitter. what I’m telling people is that if my brother and sister aren’t allow a guest, you aren’t either unless you’re married or in a long establish relationship. Thankfully most guest are family.
Post # 9
If it were me, I would let her come to the wedding… since I invited her. But I wouldn’t budge on a guest. She either comes by herself or not at all.
Post # 10
She is being childish if she comes she comes I guess, But if you dont want her there that has to be you to let her know.
Post # 11
“I already listed you as a ‘not attending’.”
Post # 12
Well, i don’t know if this crossed your mind. But I would be worried that she is RSVPing yes, but is going to do a no show. After repeatedly saying she’s not coming and mentioning that you’ll be saving money if she doesn’t come, then RSVPing yes…I dunno, it sounds like an odd situation. Do you think she is vindictive like that?
Post # 13
Like lee ann said. I would be worried about paying for her plate now to, now that she said she is coming. It depends on how you catering does it. Do they have need a final count then they charge your, or would they able to take off or deduct as needed if people dont show. But im with your on the guest situation. I wouldnt want to spend extra on someone i dont know.
Post # 14
I’ve got to agree with some other PPs here, let her know you’ve already marked her as ‘not attending’ and all of your numbers have been finalized. I personally would lie and say I’ve already heard back from all the other guests, and when she verbally told you she wasn’t coming, you turned in your guest count to x,y,z vendors. True the deadline hasn’t hit yet, but if everyone RSVPs early, why keep waiting to get the ball rolling, right?
Post # 15
my vendors take the headcount from what I have given them and we have to pay 2 weeks before the wedding. any alcohol/drinks consumed during the wedding will be charged the night of the wedding.
she didn’t tell me she wasn’t coming. she told 2 of my friends that she wasn’t coming because of the date situation. but really the whole “saving me money” was a really dumb thing to say.
i think i’m just going to count her as going since i have to see her at work. i’m just not going to be friendly anymore. and yesteday she said that there’s a lot of tension at work. HAHA.