Drama with Guests

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

jeansarac:  This is a hard subject to broach and I don’t see any “good” way to handle it that won’t result in any hurt feelings. I would try to tell the ex-wife that your boss’ girlfriend is going to come to the wedding. 

I think she would feel extremely hurt and embarassed if she sees the two together and wasn’t told in advance. I don’t think you are obligated to tell her anything, but at least it’ll give her some time to get herself together for your wedding. You don’t want someone having a mental breakdown on your wedding day.

And if she decides not to come, then at least you can understand why. Outside of telling her that the new girlfriend is coming, I don’t think you need to do anything else. 

Post # 3
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

You have to tell her, yes. You can’t let her have a mental breakdown publicly at your wedding. She will likely be very emotional when you tell her, so be prepared. But you MUST tell her. It would be really cruel not to.

Post # 4
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

jeansarac:  Definitely give her a heads up. I’m betting she probably won’t go though. It sounds like she isn’t anywhere near accepting that her marriage is over.

Post # 5
7936 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Why the hell do they still work together? How could you invite a married man’s girlfriend to your wedding? Much less ask him to officiate! How is that guy telling you to honor your marriage vows going to mean anything!? And the wife is invited too!? Definitely give her a heads up, it’s just cruel not to. Sorry but there are so many levels of hot mess going on in that office it’s hard to even advise in a helpful way. DO NOT get involved in their marital drama… But too late I guess? 


Post # 6
1499 posts
Bumble bee

Because you just saw her break down, this is a good time to bring it up. “I know the seperation from Boss is still an ongoing source of pain for you. I just wanted you to be aware that Girlfriend is coming to the wedding as well. I just wanted to let you know befrehand so you aren’t blindsided on the day.”

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  MissLibra.
Post # 7
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

You definitely need to tell her.

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