drama with mom

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@LilyMarie:  Either you put your big girl panties on, sit down with your mom with your final list of what YOU and your Fi want for you wedding and tell her this is what’s going on, or you give them the money back, have a longer engagement and save up money for your dream wedding.

 

Post # 4
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1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LilyMarie:  I don’t agree with “whoever pays get to make the decisions”. My parents paid for my wedding, but no way did they make any decisions. They paid for the wedding as a gift to my husband and I.

You need to sit down and have a talk with your mom about what you want out of your wedding, what you are willing to compromise on and what you are not. Your ceremony needs to be what you and your husband decide – it isn’t going to mean anything (or as much) to you if it is super religous and doesn’t reflect your relationship at all. That is not something your mom gets any say in.

I would be super pissed if my mom fired my wedding planner – that wouldn’t fly, I would probably call the wedding planner, apologize for my mom and re-hire her.

If your mom can’t work with you, I would decline the money for the wedding and pay for it myself.

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