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Drama you DON'T miss now that you are married

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    cannotwait    February 1, 2009   TX

    So, being married can be hard, but what drama DON'T you miss now that you are married. 

    Here's mine:

    (sigh of relief)   Something today got me thinking about psycho girls I used to be friends with, and how I DON'T miss the "competition" (not started by me) from some of my "friends".

    One girl on my sports team went out of her way to befriend me.  She could tell I had a big crush on a male teammate, so she told me he was still hung up on his ex GF and wasn't dating.  She acted like "yay, another single girl to hang with" and asked me to go out drinking with her, etc. etc to meet guys.  So, I was so happy to make a new friend, and I stopped pursuing that guy.

    Next season I show up, and guess who is a couple?  Yes, that's right, she was just trying to get "the competition" out of the way instead of "winning fairly".  It's actually making me LOL to think about it!

    Sadly, I have an even WORSE story than that but it's SUPER Long.

    What's yours?

     

     
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    Lees4308    March 13, 2010   Panama City Beach, FL.

    Well I'm not married *YET*, but I will be in about 2 months! I don't miss having to deal with disguisting & immature guys. I hate going to bars where guys are so straight forward & HAVE to hit on "that group of girls." & I DON'T miss dealing with all the drama I had with previous boyfriends!!

    I love life now :)

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    The over-analyzing of every situation with a man.  That gets old no matter who is doing the talking, oneself or a friend! And you realize you're being annoying while word vomit spills out. And the overanalyzing is always for nothing, since guys really aren't that hard to read.  Boobs, beer, food, old man moccassins.

     
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    Lees4308    March 13, 2010   Panama City Beach, FL.

    OH OH & I don't miss first dates! How awkward are those!!

     
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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    Bad dates for sure! And before you're engaged all the "when are you getting married questions". Then between the engagement and wedding "why are you doing that?" "am I invited" "why don't you do this instead".

    Being a newlywed has been pure bliss! And the only person that has asked us when we are having kids so far is my 5 year old niece!

     
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    kayakgirl73    October 31, 2009   Virginia, (wedding in WV)

    Bad dates.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    Hmm, I'll admit, I didn't really have a lot of drama before the marriage. I was always a relationship person, and for the most part, they all ended well (we just grew apart). I think I maybe had one bad date my entire life, haha.

    BUT, I will say that now that we're married, we feel totally justified in staying in on Saturday nights, whereas before, we always felt obligated to go out and party with our friends (most of whom are single). The bar scene has never really been our thing, and I'm happy that we can now just say, "We're staying in together tonight with dinner and a movie" and people just assume now that we're married, it's okay and we don't get the "But it's SATURDAY night!" comments.

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    my wedding was pretty drama free, and I didn't do a lot of dating before....so to be perfectly honest, i'm at the same point with drama as I was when I was single!

     
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    okqueenbee    Dec 4, 2009   OKC

    I do NOT miss feeling insecure, or thinking that if we have an argument that's bad enough, or if I have a horrible day & act too crazy he might leave. LOL. He never gave me any reason to think that, and is still as patient with me now as he was when we were dating, but mentally I feel better. Definately more secure ;)

     
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    Halloween    October 31, 2009   Los Angeles

    I'm not going to miss my dad telling me I'm going to be an old maid.

    However, now my mom asks me every chance she gets about babies.  It's not amusing.

    It never ends. *sigh*

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    Agreed with Halloween. That is my answer, verbatim! :)

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    im not going to miss having to ever deal with the single life again!   i swear i belong to another era because some of the antics out there in single-dom is just so off base for me

     

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    Most of my friends are in couples now but the other day was having a chat with one of the single girls. She's having a good time and I'm not one to judge bc I did the same when I was single, but in the past month she has a) had to have an STD test bc an ex rang to tell her that HIS ex has chlamydia and b) spent a weekend away with a new boyfriend who seemed promising only to have him run to the bathroom any time she made a move on him. They haven't spoken since. Hearing these stories made me so glad I've found the one and don't have to deal with any of that again!

     
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    808bride    October 10, 2009   Hawaii

    wondering, who should i choose or who is it going to be?

     
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    The awkwardness of running into people you couldn't invite, I always felt so bad.

    And this isn't really drama but it's just so nice to have our own space and not be consumed with wedding to-do lists.  Just the stress caused more tension and bickering than was normal. 

     
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    lisalulu    September 19, 2009   Santa Barbara,CA

    I don't miss the bar scene and those bitchy "friends." Hmm...before my husband, I was dating a guy that was in the bar scene. I know the game, sure. But I was just gonna let him get it out of his system and meanwhile, I would stay in, rent movies, read...didn't work. I ended up having to go out to the bar scene just so he would have the "threat" that I could do the same...so basically, I don't miss the GAMES of childish relationships. I don't miss the uncertainty of dating and wondering what the guy really wants and his intentions.

    What I love about being married (let's put a positive spin on this): always having a bedmate, meals together, shared purpose, cocreating together, security, couch potatoing it with the hubby, my mom stops bugging me to get married, being able to flash my ring so I don't get hit on constantly (though some men don't care, always surprises me), having two people to support eachother financially and emotionally, being part of a team!

     

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