Post # 1
I am (very) recently engaged and I have a super long (2 year) engagement planned, but I am already having bridesmaid drama. Here’s the deal! My sister is being vocal about being the maid of honor, in fact, she is demanding it. I would love to have her in the party, but she is unreliable, broke, and we DO NOT get along. My best friend is from out of town so she can’t be very much help planning or hosting plus she is also having some serious financial issues. My third lady is in the area and more than qualified to be an awesome matron of honor, and I would love for her husband to be best man too! Sooooo, how do I tell the others? My sister is going to totally flip out! I guess a visit from the drama llama was bound to happen sooner or later!
Post # 3
@impatientlypatient: Heehee, drama llama. At least the picture is fun, if the drama is not!
I’d say stick to your guns, and make the decision early. That will give her time to calm down. It sounds as if you’ve put a lot of thought into this.
If you’re really concerned, you could consider doing a Maid & a Matron of honor… but this might cause conflict if they’re not on the same page.
Post # 4
Just tell them. It’s your wedding and you don’t have to justify your choices. When they have their wedding, they can make themselves maid of honor if they want, lol.
Post # 5
my sister is Maid/Matron of Honor (by default) and shes trying to choose the rest of ny party. i nipped that in the bud and told her to back off. maybe try that! its your day, choose people you want to have your back!
Post # 6
Thanks for all the advice! Bottom line: I have two years to decide. All of my friends that choose super early were upset with at least one of their choices. Hopefully everything will fall into place!
Post # 7
Yeah, I wouldn’t make any decisions yet. I’d wait until you’re much closer. I’ve seen so many times on here about how people ask early and then regret it. I’d just tell them since it’s a long engagement you’re not planning anything like that yet and leave it be. If they keep assumming it’ll be them, that’s on them now.
Post # 8
If it had my chance again I would definetly NOT make my decision this early. Things change. In two years ppl really can change. I would wait at least a year and then decide.
Post # 9
I think you’ll definitely run into drama if you choose your bridal party based on who has money to throw parties and can help you plan the wedding. That’s not what being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is about, it is about choosing those that mean the most to stand next to you as you are married.