(Closed) Dramas with Mum and where I am having my wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes there is a tradition that it’s in the bride’s home town… but that goes with the tradition that the bride’s parents pay for it.

From a practical point of view, it should be near to whoever’s organising it. From a “moral” point of view, it should be near whoever’s paying (whoever pays gets to choose).

So… who’s paying? If it’s you, then certainly have it in the South. If your parents are paying, then that gives them a say, though it also means they’ll need to do a fair bit of the organising if they want it in the North.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes there is a tradition that you get married where the bride is from. But that was before women left their family home before marriage. And when moving to the other side of the world didn’t happen. I think you should have your wedding on the south island, have you explained your reasoning to your mum? Has she explained her reservations beyond that’s what she did?

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