- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
I’m new to this site, I only got engaged 3 weeks ago. I am already having problems with my Mum over where the wedding is happening. I’m not getting married until January 2014, and as my fiancee is away in the army, we haven’t even thought about planning yet. I live in New Zealand, in the south Island, but my Mum lives in the North Island, with my siblings, and my Dad is up there also. I just assumed I would have my wedding in the South Island, where my fiancee and I live, but my mother is already making rude little comments every time I talk to her, saying I should have it at home, since this is where I’m from.
Well for a start, I’m from the UK, I’m not even from NZ, I didn’t grow up there, and I’ve lived down here for as long as I did in the North Island. I hadn’t even thought about where I was going to have the wedding, but now that I have I seem to have a few reasons why I want to have it where I live.
– My fiancees family (including extended family) is already in the south island, they are already close to where I love
– My extended family is all in the UK, so if they do come over for my wedding, its not going to make a difference to them whether I have in in the North or South
– The rest of the people i want to be at my wedding, friends etc, are all students in the South Island. Its not cheap to fly between the islands in NZ, and if I had the wedding up North, I know most of my friends wouldn’t be able to make it
So basically, if I had it in the South, the only people who would need to travel would be my parents and siblings, whereas if I had it up where Mum lives, everybody else I invite to my wedding would have to travel.
Is there some tradition that brides get married at their homes? Mum keeps telling me she went home for hers, but she was in a different situation, and in the UK, where travelling is easier.
I don’t want drama, especially this early on in my engagement, but its making the relationship with my mother very strained, and I feel like I just need to give her an answer to get her off my back.
But at the end of the day, its my wedding, and i feel like I should be able to have it where I want?
Just wondering if anybody has any advice!