(Closed) Dreading having my FH moving in

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

hahhaha, aw I know exactly how you feel, while I do miss my man when he’ not here with me, it really is nice to have independence, I would go out til 1030pm, 230am, 4am with my girlfriends and answering to no one, I cook lots of food on weekends and just reheat, going to be weird a big big change my life

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

You may want to reconsider marriage if this bothers you 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Hee hee! Enjoy your last alone days at home…and think about how wonderful it’s going to be to finally be "home" together. I moved in with my guy last summer. It was a tough decision because we HATE being apart….it seriously makes us both sooo sad and needy…but GOSH I LOVED my house…..ahhh.,..it was beautiful….but I moved in to his house, and he painted a week before in colors we had picked out, so that it was "ours". And when his mom & his sisters visit now, they love how "homey" I’ve made it with the decor…:) It’ll be wonderful to be together, just make sure you talk about who does what, like who cleans out the litter box, who does the dishes, there’s always an adjustment period, but when you fall asleep together and wake up together every day…it’s all worth it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If the problem is with his "stuff" and your place is already furnished, put most of it in storage. You’ll need to compromise a little bit, but maybe the bedroom furniture can go. Maybe you can even sell it!

You can enjoy your "secret singles behavior" right now, but you’ll also have time to yourself when he’s living there too. I’m sure you both will need some alone time as much as you’ll enjoy each other’s company. Also, take a look back on Miss Bruschetta’s post about getting things out early … if something bugs you, bring it up and work it out. 

Good luck and have fun!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My fiance just moved into my studio apartment, which we’re sharing for 6 weeks until we move into a larger place. I thought it would be terrible because it’s so small and it’s been mine all mine for the past five years, but we haven’t had any problems. I cleaned out my things before he came and gave a lot of old clothes and books to charity. When we packed up his place, we took his furniture and some boxes into a friend’s basement until we move. There’s definitely less space now that he’s here, but it is much less stressful than I imagined. See if you can move some of his big furniture into a storage space – that should help things from feeling too cramped. Also, it’s totally normal to be worried about a major life change like this – especially if you’ve been living alone for a long time. Don’t feel bad about it – just talk to your FH.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Thanks to all of you for sharing about sharing space. I have been dealing with this for the past month and felt like something was wrong with me. That I was having doubts about our marriage because I was worried about us sharing my apartment. I realized that it wasn’t the case at all. That it is a huge life change, I’ve always lived on my own, and that I was nervous of having him in "my" space all day every day. I’m glad you put this on the boards bluespurrs. It helped!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I had the same sort of thing, but our roles were reversed! Though my husband was excited for me to move in, I was moving into HIS place, and it was hard for me to stop thinking of it that way. It will definitely be tough at first, but you won’t miss packing to stay at his place for the night, and most of his stuff that you already had can always go into storage!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have trouble with this also because I’m moving into his place. What makes it worse is he ownes it with his brother. His brother doesn’t ive there but changes have to be ran by the brother. I’ve owned my own place for eight years and finally have it how I want it to be. This is going to be intresting figuring out what to keep and what to toss, especially since he doens’t really want new stuff. Argh.

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