Post # 1
I love my SO and intially we really wanted to elope. When we realized how harsh an elopement would be for our families, we started to plan a wedding with immediate family only. Well now seven months out I am dreading it. I have been doubting every decision I have made regarding the wedding like my dress, the ceremony site, the reception, the photographer, EVERYTHING. Now I feel like I have sign up to spend all this money on something that I never even wanted. Has anyone else experienced this?
Post # 3
I really really REALLY did not want to plan a wedding. I wanted to go to city hall and have a lovely romantic dinner with my SO afterwards…but he wasn’t having it. He said it would kill his parents.
After much debating and compromise, we came up with destination wedding. Would that be an option? There are lots of “ready made” packages when it comes to destination weddings, especially in places like Mexico.
Post # 4
@mscuppycake: Well, we have already sent out save the dates and put a deposit in the photographer so I can’t really change it now. The photographer wasn’t cheap so I don’t want to loose what we have already spent.
Post # 5
My advice now would be just stick it out. I knew deep down I couldn’t bring myself to do somthing fancy (even finding ways to cut back costs to $6000 was really to much for me at least). Although we did elope last July and kept it a secret until yesterday from oif families to make sure that the elopement really was okay for us. Especial an elopement that didn’t involve anything other then the reveal meaning for us no reception.
For your situation though I see to paths. One go through with everything Ceremony and Reception. Or 2 since you just have money down for a photography do a courthouse wedding with the photograph taking photos followed by (maybe) a small reception with the photographer still taking pictures.
Post # 6
@S0InL0v3: I doubted everything as well. Anxiety so bad I couldn’t sleep.
But it was too late – had already invited folks.
Day came and it was nearly perfect. Wonderful memory. Lots of positive feedback even though I knew nothing about planning a wedding when I started.
The costs added up, though, even though we kept it small.
Post # 7
@Carolsays: Thank you so much that is what I needed to hear!
Post # 8
@S0InL0v3: You sound just like me. I can.not.wait. for this day to be over. If it were up to me, I’d elope and never ever turn back. =)
BUT I honestly do have hope that it will be a nice day (and at least we will get some pretty pictures). Some family members are getting excited, and I am trying to keep that in mind. And as for money…it still makes me sick to my stomach even though we aren’t even doing all the bells and whistles. I’m just forging ahead with the expenses. I won’t be in debt for the wedding, but I’m sucking it up for the sake of a hopefully good memory!
We can do this! Just stay positive and know that it will be over soon. whew!