Dreading Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I really really REALLY did not want to plan a wedding. I wanted to go to city hall and have a lovely romantic dinner with my SO afterwards…but he wasn’t having it. He said it would kill his parents.

After much debating and compromise, we came up with destination wedding. Would that be an option? There are lots of “ready made” packages when it comes to destination weddings, especially in places like Mexico.

Post # 5
295 posts
Helper bee

My advice now would be just stick it out. I knew deep down I couldn’t bring myself to do somthing fancy (even finding ways to cut back costs to $6000 was really to much for me at least). Although we did elope last July and kept it a secret until yesterday from oif families to make sure that the elopement really was okay for us. Especial an elopement that didn’t involve anything other then the reveal meaning for us no reception. 

For your situation though I see to paths. One go through with everything Ceremony and Reception. Or 2 since you just have money down for a photography do a courthouse wedding with the photograph taking photos followed by (maybe) a small reception with the photographer still taking pictures. 


Post # 6
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@S0InL0v3:  I doubted everything as well. Anxiety so bad I couldn’t sleep.

But it was too late – had already invited folks.

Day came and it was nearly perfect. Wonderful memory. Lots of positive feedback even though I knew nothing about planning a wedding when I started.

The costs added up, though, even though we kept it small.


Post # 8
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@S0InL0v3:  You sound just like me. I can.not.wait. for this day to be over.  If it were up to me, I’d elope and never ever turn back. =)


BUT I honestly do have hope that it will be a nice day (and at least we will get some pretty pictures).  Some family members are getting excited, and I am trying to keep that in mind.  And as for money…it still makes me sick to my stomach even though we aren’t even doing all the bells and whistles.  I’m just forging ahead with the expenses.  I won’t be in debt for the wedding, but I’m sucking it up for the sake of a hopefully good memory!


We can do this!  Just stay positive and know that it will be over soon. whew!

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