Post # 1
So, this summer I got engaged. We set a date in May 2014, told our friends, and got to work on the wedding. I found out that my budget was simply not goin to allow for everything I wanted, so I compromised. Cut corners. Gave in.
Well, two weeks ago, he broke my heart. Humiliated me, called off the engagement, and threw my carefully planned life into total upheaval. Needless to say, everything I had purchased for our wedding is now gone, including the dress (which was not my favorite, but corners were cut).
Tonight I stumbled upon a wedding dress for sale, and not just any dress, but my DREAM DRESS. The one that two weeks ago I would have said was beyond all hope of my obtaining. Unfortunately, I simply can’t drop 5,000 dollars on a dress I have no plans of wearing in the immediate future.
My question is this; If you were interested in the same dress, would you personally be willing to split the cost of the dress? You would be wearing it first, and then I would hold on to it until I could find some reason to wear it? Is that like a thing that happens? Thoughts, anyone? I want to know if this is something that people would do, because I am simply crazy about this dress, and if I ever get a second chance at happiness, I don’t want to compromise.
Post # 3
I don’t think I’d be able to do this.
Who gets to keep the dress afterwards?
Not to mention I have kind of a strange body type (very very short/slender) so I imagine alterations would be a huge pain.
Honestly? I’d probably try to wait it out. New gowns come out every year, and you have no idea when you’ll get married- something 10 times more gorgeous might catch your eye between now and then.
Post # 4
I would be happy to do it if I were the one wearing it first.
I would be a little nervous about spending money on a dress with the knowledge that someone else would be wearing it before me, simply because I would worry about it getting ripped or stained. Also, if the person wearing it first were a little bit shorter than me or a little bit thinner than me then I would worry about whether it would be possible to have it altered to fit me after she had worn it.
Post # 5
I find this to be a very odd request and I doubt you would find a lot of support on the issue. Also, you didn’t post a photo of the dress, so who knows if anyone would even have interest in it.
I’m very sorry to hear hear about your breakup, and I hope you can continue forth in life without focussing on wedding details and work on your own self-healing. It sounds like planning a wedding is the last thing you should be think about right now…
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
You will find a dress you love, for a price you can handle, when the time comes. You don’t have to compromise your dream dress because of cost there are lots of alternative shopping choices, online stores, trunk sales, demo dresses. I don’t think many people would go for that. If someone is willing to pay 2500 for a dress they want to keep it forever.
Post # 7
I’m not sure whether your post was to gather interest from another bride to share the cost of a dress with you, or just to get some opinions. At any rate, I feel like the last thing you should be doing right now is buying a wedding dress. Yes, you could meet someone tomorrow and be married six months from now, but that could also be a year, two years, three years or more down the track. How do you know you’ll even still love your dress then?
And in terms of the logistics of dress-sharing, I just don’t think it would work. Personally I would only consider it if I was the first bride to be wearing the dress.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I had high school friends who were twin sisters that shared their dress. They each bought their own accessories to wear with it such as Sister A wore a cathedral viel with simple jewelry. Sister B wore a fingertip veil I think and more statement jewelry. They each wore a different belt too.
If I were on a budget I’d split the dress with someone. That said though, what if you don’t get married for another 5 years. In that time your tastes change, your wedding vision changes and the dress you want now isn’t the dress you want then? Would you be ok with wearing this dress or would you want to wear your new dream dress?
I was engaged 10 years ago and had a dress in mind, we broke up also. Now that I’m older the wedding I would have picked then is not the wedding I would want now. My tastes have completely changed. Just something to think about.