(Closed) Dream honeymoon vs reality

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Where should we go?
    5 Days in Hawaii - our dream destination : (30 votes)
    60 %
    7 days in Cape Cod - our alternative : (20 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hawaii is amazing!  You won’t regret your decision for a second.

    Post # 4
    4109 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Hawaii is our dream wedding/honeymoon destination as well! (Although due to finances, we settled on alternate places in FL). If you can swing it, I say DO IT. 

    Post # 5
    1359 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think you should wait and go to Hawaii for your anniversary. It’s not that much further away, and after the wedding you will probably be exhausted and want to mostly relax. I think it would be more fun to go to Hawaii when you get to focus on it and anticipate it for a while, and have tons of energy to do all the activities. That’s just me though; I’m sure you’ll have a blast whichever you decide!

    Post # 6
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldn’t want to start my first day at a new job with jet-lag, especially not after such a long travel day, and I wouldn’t want to rely on the airlines actually getting me home in time for the first workday.  “Dream” vacation or not, work has got to come first; you can’t jeopardize a new job just for a vacation.

    Hawaii isn’t going anywhere. Go on a more manageable getaway now, and save Hawaii for some time when the timing is more right.

    Post # 7
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t know that I would take one week to go to Hawaii, with the travel time it is can be stressful. Could you find a pretty beach on the east coast? I hear siesta key in FL is gorgeous; that way you still get a nice warm beach without so much travel. 

    Post # 8
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d wait and go on your 1st anniversary. Our flight to Hawaii was 10hrs and I thought that was brutal.

    Post # 10
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Um, take it from the girl whose dream honeymoon has been Hawaii for as long as she’s had a dream honeymoon but who can’t afford it and is going to the DR instead and please go to Hawaii. 🙂

    PS – I took the red eye home from a vacation once and went straight to work (like, with my suitcase lol).  Sure it sucked a little, but I was on such an exhaustion high that I made it through the day, then played a hockey game in the evening – and actually couldn’t sleep that night!

    Post # 11
    14337 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You seem unsure that you’d end up going for a 1st aniversary trip, so I vote go for the honeymoon.    Jet lagged for a few days, even for first days on a job isnt a big deal imo.  First few days, people expect you to just be settling in anyways.  I think there’s more of a chance of regretting NOT going, than the chance that you regret going.  But if you could be certain you would go in the near future, then I’d wait and not rush the trip since the five days is pretty short for so much travel time.

    Post # 12
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We faced a similar issue.  We went on a “mini-moon” for 5 days at an island inn in Maine.  And then, around 6 months after our wedding, we booked our dream 2-week vacation (African safari) and will depart on our 11-month-iversary.  We were really exhausted after our wedding, so I’m glad that we wound up at a lower key destination that week.

    ETA: I wouldn’t be too concerned about jet lag at work after your trip.  It’s always possible to power through.  But I would be concerned about being jet lagged half of the time you’re on vacation.

    Post # 13
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My random perspective: I’d do Cape Cod now, Hawaii for your anniversary. Sometimes honeymoons make people have these unrealistic expectations of their dream trips. Like, even if you’re at an amazing place, you feel like you’re supposed to be having an even more amazing time because it’s your honeymoon. And any little thing that goes wrong might make you think, “Why is this happening on our honeymoon?” I’ve talked to a few newly married couples who’ve felt this way on their honeymoons.

    So, I would say go to Cape Cod for your honeymoon because you know it and love it and it fits your needs for now. Then, save your money and have a fantastic Hawaiian trip in a year without any of that “I need to be enjoying my honeymoon” pressure.

    Post # 14
    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Can you postpone the homeymoon for a couple of months (until Fiance is settled in his job) and then go to Hawaii? After the wedding you can do a quick weekend away to relax and be together. Then you get the best of both!

    Post # 15
    674 posts
    Busy bee

    Do Cape Cod. I never thought I would say that – ever.

    Seriously, I love Hawaii. You can’t possibly get bored there, and it is a dream vacation.

    However, that jetlag when you come back isn’t something to ignore. We slept for a solid day after we returned (also East Coasters), and even then, my guy was still “off” from it for another week until he could pretty much sleep the entire weekend.

    When you fly from the East Coast to Hawaii, you go nearly a quarter of the way around the planet, so you need to build in time for jetlag.

    Consider that if you get up every morning at dawn in Hawaii, that’s still like sleeping in until 11am on the East Coast. It takes several days to get back into the groove, so your guy will really be suffering in a new job if he has to come right back.

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