Post # 1
I need advice and want to hear other bee’s POV’s and experiences as well. AND THERE IS A POLL 🙂
Since I was in high school, I have dreamed of working at my current job. A few years out of college and I was offered a position here as a paralegal and it has truly been (mostly) amazing. I have a great boss, the job is interesting, rewarding and I have a lot of freedom and time off, reasonable commute, my own office. I only hate it about 10% of the time. The catch: it pays very very very little (FI pays most of the bills for us, but we are not able plan for a future (house, kids, etc), build a savings or spend money for “fun” things and are not paying down his credit/student loan debt because of my salary). My job also doesn’t allow for raises because the budget is what it is and there is no way to move “up” because I am not becoming an attorney. Because of this, I interviewed for a position that has great learning potential (Executive Asst.), would allow for career advancements down the road, and pays literally double my current salary, but would have longer commute, cubicle, longer hours, etc. I have since been offered the new position. Now I am at a crossroads, do I take the job that offers double and has great potential or do I stay at a job I know I love but that I am growing to resent more and more because of the pay? I am leaning towards taking the new job since it has great potential for my future to move up and so that I can help FI with the bills finally, and start planning for our future together instead of starting our marriage in debt.
I would love to hear what other bees have done in similar situations. Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
@PrincessBride2014: “or do I stay at a job I know I love but that I am growing to resent more and more because of the pay“
This line made me decide that you might be better to choose the job that doubles your salary. If there is room for advancement, then the job you start out with might advance to a job that you love as much as your current position. The fact that there is no room for advancement and the fact that you are starting to resent your current job suggests to me that you are not going to be happy there in the long run. If you really hate the new job, there is nothing stopping you from getting a job that is similar to the one you have now.
Post # 4
You may love your job now, but if the pay sucks and theres no growth, I don’t see the point of staying. I’d leave for more money in a heartbeat. Even if I hated the new place, I’d suck it up to save some cash and then look for a new job again. Money can’t buy happiness, but lack of money can certainly cause unhappiness.
Post # 5
@MrsHS: +1 for sure! I was going to say dream job until I got to that line. If you’re starting to resent it, it doesn’t seem like it is truly your dream job. Go for the new job, it sounds like you are interested in it and it will make things a little easier on you and your FI. :]
Post # 6
You say that its your dream job, but if there is no opportunity for growth, you will eventually get bored and look to move on. I usually say that you should choose the job you love regardless of the money, but in this situation, I would say to its time to move on to a position that allows both personal and career growth.
Post # 7
I’d take the job with the most future potential.
Post # 8
My mom is a paralegal in Oakland (Bay Area) and makes almost $80k (she has 7 years experience). That’s good money, even in Boston. Have you looked at other firms? Maybe yours just doesn’t pay as well as some you could work at. I know my job (researcher in pharma) pays the same here in San Fran vs Boston because I moved here from Boston about a year ago. So, you should be able to move up a bit in salary from where you are at.
Post # 9
I would take double the salary.. Maybe a position will open up in the new company doing what you are doing now for better pay.
Post # 10
@PrincessBride2014: We have similar dilemmas!! I’ve been a paralegal for 3 years now and I’m looking to get out for the same reason you are – no growth. Being so early in my career, I just can’t see myself spending a lifetime in this job. I need variety and I hate being “chained” to a desk 8+ hours a day.
You have a long working road ahead of you. I vote take the opportunity to grow before it’s gone!
Post # 11
If you are starting to resent it, it’s no longer your dream job. 🙁 That said, I suggest option 4: Find another paralegal job where you are better paid! I worked at a large firm and they pay paralegals much better (plus overtime) than it sounds like you are getting paid. That way you can still do what you want and help pay the bills.
Post # 12
@PrincessBride2014: You had fun at your dream job for a while, but if it was me, I’d take the double pay. Gotta pay them bills!
Post # 13
I’d ideally like to have my cake and eat it to! 😉 Though, I guess if I HAD to pick, I would double my salary.
Post # 14
I’m an attorney. I passed on the jobs with way more pay (and way more hours and way more abuse) to do a job I love.
I won’t tell you what to do – that’s your decision – but there are a few things to consider. 1) If you resent your current job, it’s not your dream job anymore. 2) There are plenty of law firms out there; you may be able to increase your pay but stay in the same career field. 3) There’s a reason why being an executive assistant pays more money – it’s HARD work, LONG hours, and (many times) overbearing, jerkish bosses.
To me, doing a job I love for less pay is far more rewarding than doing a job that pays more money but would require me to work 90 hour weeks and have no life and be miserable. That’s a sacrifice *I* chose to make. However, everyone is different. Weigh your options and see where you come out.
Post # 15
@PrincessBride2014: Definitely double the salary since you say you’ve started resenting the “dream” job.
Who knows? You might like the new job more than you think you will! I would definitely give it a chance and if it doesn’t work out then I’d look for a better opportunity for me.
Post # 16
I agree with previous posters – you are going to resent your dream job for holding you back financially. Take the pay raise!