Post # 1
Trying to find a venue and pick a date is sooo much harder than I thought it would be. We can afford my dream venue but only if we do a Friday wedding. Never really wanted a Friday though because I don’t want a first look and thought it might be hard with people working and traveling etc. But we would get that venue.
Our other option is a Saturday wedding at a venue that I do like (my family loves) but I’m not in love with it. It is really pretty just not what I pictured.
What would you do?!
Post # 3
I would always opt for the Saturday. On Friday, people have work, they might be tired, if they have to travel they have to take the day off, etc. I would rather have a venue I like but don’t love, but have everyone I love and care about be able to come and have a great time.
Post # 4
I would go for Friday if you love the venue that much.
Post # 5
You’re just renting a venue for a few hours, you’re not buying it. No matter which one you choose, on your wedding day the actual location will barely register on your happiness meter.
Post # 6
If you’re going to regret not going with the dream venue, I would opt for that. Friday weddings are becoming more common, so I’m sure your closest friends and family would be able to make it.
Post # 7
@AdaLee: I vote for dream venue on a Friday. We had a Friday wedding and it was absolutely wonderful. We had 130 guests out of 160 people invited…in other words Friday did not scare many away. Our wedding started at 6;30 pm which allowed most people to not have to miss too much work.
I also don’t understand what a first look has to do with a Friday wedding. Regardless of the day of the week you will have the same complications and delays that come with taking photos after the ceremony….this doesn’t change.
I dont think I would be able to settle on a venue. The venue IS your wedding.
Post # 8
I’d care more about having everyone I want there rather than the dream venue.
But if you think you would always regret not having the venue then go with the venue
Post # 9
This is a tough one.
Venue was VERY important to me. I wanted it to look beautiful on the inside as well as the out. However, I would never choose a Friday as my wedding day for your exact reasons.
Is there a way you can cut something either out of your wedding or go cheaper on so you can have it at your dream venue on a Saturday?
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@likewoah: +1. What matters most on your wedding day is the feeling of happiness and joy in being surrounded by all your favorite people (and obviously your new husband). I would choose Saturday to make sure they can all be there.
Post # 11
I had a Friday wedding and not one person didn’t come because it was a Friday. Did a few people miss the ceremony, yes they did but they would have on a Saturday anyhow. It was also a traditional wedding, ceremony at 1:30, photos, cocktails started at 5pm. People LOVED it. Didn’t screw up anyone’s weekend, people came to the next day brunch still being able to have a day to themselves, and for OOT guest, one extra day to travel (although most of our ooters were retired anyhow). No one, not one single person had any issues with the fact that it was a Friday. Our briday party didn’t care one bit about taking a day off work, a lot of them just used a vacation day, and were happy to do so, the amount of jokes “I’m getting paid to be here *click champagne glasses in the limo*”!
This whole ‘but people work Friday’ is gabage. A LOT of people also work weekends and no one ever cares that they are making those people take days off work.
The people who love you, care about you, and support you are going to be there regarless of the day of the week.
Post # 12
Thanks for the votes and replies so far everyone! I keep going back and forth in my mind. I don’t know how to decide. A pro/con list didn’t help. Nothing major is standing out to help me make the decision. I want/need to book this week hopefully!
likewhoa, you make a good point. I know in the end that is what matters. Just wish I could make a choice!
Post # 13
@AdaLee: We had a wedding on friday and it was perfect! I wouldn’t have changed a thing. Most people said they were glad to have a reason to take a long weekend.
Ask the people you care about most and would be devastated if they couldnt come if it would be a problem for them. That would be the only thing to change my mind. (and that would be my deciding factor, because i know you said you seem to be having a hard time on how to make the decision) Everyone else – well it will prob weed out a few of “those” relatives you dont want coming anyways. :-P. Most people if they care will make the effort and be there for you.
Plus, you only get one day and one set of wedding pictures, you should be where you want to be.
Oh and PS. We had a 1:30 ceremony and it still didn’t deter anyone. Not a single person didn’t come because it was a friday. We only had one close friend who ended up not being able to come, and he prob couldnt have gotten there for a saturday either.
Post # 14
go with the venue you love! friday weddings are getting way more popular
Post # 15
@PoppyH: Completely agree!!
Post # 16
I’m an enormous fan of Friday weddings so this would be a plus plus for me!