(Closed) Dream wedding? Or keep the money??

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: Host my dream wedding or keep the money for our lives together?
    Big Dream Wedding : (7 votes)
    25 %
    Money for the future : (21 votes)
    75 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    14304 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It depends on how much money you’re talking about and how long it would take you to save that up again.  Money is just money, you can always make more of it (if it’s not an obscene amount that would be unrealistic to save again with in a few years), but you do only get this one chance to have the wedding of your dreams.  If you scaled back to have a smaller, less expensive wedding so you could save something, would you be happy with that?

    Post # 4
    Member
    4496 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It really depends on how much money it is and how badly you want a big celebration for your marriage. If my parents gave me.. lets say $50,000 and it was either spend almost all of it on a wedding or save it/use it toward something else then there is no question that we would use it for something else. If it were only $5,000 then I’d put it toward a wedding. Personally I just could never spend an obscene amount of money on one day, no matter how special it is.

    Post # 7
    Member
    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It depends. My dad offered to write me a $50,000 check if I got married in Vegas. I knew I would regret not having a wedding if I took the money. So, the choice was to have the big wedding. How often do you get the change to throw a huge party?

     

    eta: FI and I are both in careers that make a pretty good amount of money – so the lack of need also solidified our decision

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 9
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    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    MONEY!!!!

    I know my wedding day is going to be perfect and beautiful, but I really wish we would’ve eloped on a beach somewhere with our immediate family and called it a day. Weddings (IMO!)= drama + stress+ SO much money!!

    I wouldn’t do all of this again. No way.

    Post # 10
    Member
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    If I had no income, I would JOP it and throw a party later when I had money coming in. To spend that money with absolutely no way to replace it…. I just could not do that.

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @Lisushi:  I think it really depends on what you value. Are you frugal in everyday life or do you like to treat yourself? 

    Post # 12
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    14304 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Lisushi:  What is your FI going to school for?  What kind of income range is typical for people in his field?  Can you make some sort of guess as to what kind of income you may have?  I mean, if he’s a art major or teacher, then it’s safe to guess (assuming youre in the US) it’d be close to 30k than someone in finance or medical field that would be upwards of 70k+. 

     

    Post # 13
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    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Given that neither of you have an income, I feel like you have your answer… 

     

    However, I would have the wedding, because like PP said, you can always make more money… 🙂

     

    I feel like the conflict is that you want the wedding, but feel that’s not the right choice. 

    Post # 16
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    4496 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Lisushi:  I think its all relative. $10,000 to one person is a lot while it might not be that much to another. I personally think $10,000 just to feed guests is too much, but thats just me. I want a really nice wedding, but I also don’t want to spend a fortune. I’d rather have a blowout honeymoon than a ridiculously priced wedding. So we got the best of both worlds by opting to have a small wedding – it’ll be 45-50 guests. We wanted to get married on Saturday, but since we didn’t meet the minimum headcount for our venue on the weekend we had to agree to a weekday wedding. We’ll be getting married on a Thursday night and we’re saving a TON of money because of it – everything is discounted – the venue, catering, DJ, photographer, lighting, etc.  The way things are working out we are really getting the best of everything (open bar, seated 5 course dinner, best venue in town, amazing cake & dessert bar, lots of attention to detail), but at a much lower cost than if we were inviting 100 people on a Saturday. Then we’ll get our two weeks in Europe so I’m happy 🙂 It was completely worth cutting down our guest list and honestly everyone has been really understanding of it. Most of them respond with, “Smart! I wish we had done that!”

    For everything (except honeymoon)we are spending about $10,000 and I am very happy with that.

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