Post # 1
I’m just posting this to get it off my chest. I can’t tell my Fiance because he would get mad, but its not my fault I cant control what i dream about at night. For two nights in a row I have dreamt about my EX. And no nothing in the sexual way. It was mostly that he lived across from me, and we saw each other all the time. and other random stuff happened that I dont know to explain. None of it really maks since. But in my dreams we never talked, we just looked at each other. I dont know what it could mean?
My EX was my best firend for 10 years. we dated for 2 years then broke up. Which was 4 years ago. We used to talk (before i met my FI), mostly because he was a important person in my life for 10 years. It was hard to throw it all away. But eventually we stopped talking because it was akward for us when we had other relationships. I haven’t seen him in over 2 years, hes in the Army now. I just dont understand why all of a sudden i dream about him, and not just once, twice in a row. Now i cant stop thinking about what my dream meant. Its just really bugging me.
Thanks for listening, I know this post really doesnt make a lot of sense, I just had to tell someone.
Post # 3
Why would your Fiance get mad at you for something you can’t control?
Post # 4
Recently my dreams have included: being trapped in the walls of my old high school, trying to go horse riding with no arms, doing karaoke at my work and a lot of other bizarre things. I’m in the camp of “our brains do some crazy things at night, not many dreams make a lot of sense” but that’s just me. You did nothing wrong – don’t feel bad!
Post # 5
I think its normal actually. I always dream about people from my past… They were once part of my life so different things trigger memories etc.
I wouldn’t worry about it – I don’t think that it means anything..
Post # 6
@kat2014: Ha you have some crazy dreams.
Thanks ladies, I dont why it was bothering me so much.
Post # 7
@s.renea9: Yeah…. Those aren’t even the worst of them!
Post # 8
Are we twins? I had a dream about my ex who was my best friend last night too!! it was not sexual, but it made me realize I do miss his friendship. random!!
Post # 9
I’ve seriously been having the same thing happen to me. Every night this past week (5 nights…in a row!) I’ve dreamt of my ex. We didn’t speak to one another, but we knew each other and we stayed near each other in multiple situations. I remember thinking, “Is this ____? Yeah, it’s him for sure.” And last night in my dream, he died. I’m trying not to freak out about that, but people have often told me how easily I predict what they’re going to say next; and I’ve often had it happen where I would dream something and it would come true, exactly as I dreamed. So, I doubt I need to worry, (and why should I, anyway? My ex is a total a-hole), but he’s in the military, so I often worry. 😛
Post # 10
I have dreams about my ex…. One was weird- I was engaged to Fiance and felt like I needed to go say goodbye to my ex and his mom….. WTH???? It was all fine, and seemed soooo real!
I’ve had dreams about my FI’s ex. Right after we got engaged I had this long dream that she went on a picnic with us…and she drove him- and I had to follow them in a car… I woke up so mad and upset- I told him, I think- and he thought it was funny.
I don’t think its anything you can control or that he should be mad about. A lot of times, the dreams I actually remember, are just acknowledging things buried in the back of my mind- usually things that I don’t want to really “deal” with- but I’m not sure everyone’s dreams are the same way… I also rarely remember any of my dreams.
Post # 11
Wow i feel so much better now that ik mostly everyone does dream about their EX(or Fiance EX. lol). I am going to tell my Fiance because I hate keeping things from him, I hope he wont get mad. But ill feel better once he knows. Thanks everyone =]
Post # 12
I think it’s pretty normal. I’ve had quite a few dreams about exes, particularly one whom I was pretty much best friends with before we tried dating. My theory is the dreams mean you miss the friendship or have regrets about losing the friendship. I know for me it has absolutely nothing to do with romance or attraction. I tell my husband everytime I have these dreams, he totally understands why I have them.
Post # 13
People that I havn’t seen in awhile, including exs, find a way into my dreams alot of the time. It dosn’t mean anything. Although one time…
I had a dream about an ex that I hadn’t seen in 5 years, the next day I saw him at the grocery store….. weird…
Post # 14
I dream about my ex and his current wife, who was once a very close friend, ALL the time. It saddens me more than anything. The nutshell of the situation is that after he and I split, she and he started dating, and she decided it would be too difficult to stay friends with me, and told me she had to sever our friendship entirely. That broke my heart. To this day, 6 or so years later, I wish it could have been different. I miss her, I miss him (his friendship, not our relationship), and I miss getting to know them as a couple.
Anyway the dreams are almost always the same – I see the ex somewhere, he won’t talk to me because she is not with him. I beg him to talk to me and tell him how happy I am for him to have found love with her, but he refuses to talk to me. She is rarely in the dreams, they’re almost always about her missing from the picture. I always wake from them feeling sad, but always come around by being reminded that my current life, my fiance, and the way things have come to be, are exactly how they are supposed to be.
Based on my experience, I advise you that you probably haven’t seen the end of these dreams. Not what you want to hear, I’m sure! But dreams have a way of helping to work some things out in your heart and mind.
Post # 15
i’ve definitely had dreams about my ex before. it happens. don’t worry about it.
last night i had an actual sex dream- my fiance was NOT in it. it was an unknown dude. i don’t think my fiance existed in the dream. it was bizarre.
i’ve also had dreams where my fiance DID exist and i was on a date with someone or kissing someone and i couldn’t figure out how to stop. disconcerning!
Post # 16
It’s normal! You are a makeup of your memories and experiences. Just because you ended that part of your life does not mean your subconcious mind forgot about it, and erased the memories you have stored.