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Yeah, I've had a few dreams like that. I feel a little bit guilty too, but I think that maybe it's my subconscious telling me that it's natural to find other men attractive, even when your'e engaged or married. And since I'd never cheat on him in real life, I don't feel that bad.
Yup, sure have. It's a dream, so I don't really freak out. I think maybe talking to your FI about it might help you feel better. Or not, depending on whether he would feel slighted. But that's what I do!
Marriage is a big commitment for everyone, so I think it is normal to have anxiety about it that could come out in a dream like that.
I've had those dreams, and I find them rather amusing. The dreams that freak me out are the ones where we break up!
I've had both - me cheating and FH cheating. And the one where he cheated, he wanted the other woman to move in with us. I was mad at him all day, even though it was my dream! And I told him about it and he said "Wow - dream me has some balls, huh?"
Ex Libris -- I've never dreamed about breaking up! I guess that can balance out my guilt for these dreams haha.
Wow, I was so surprised to check the poll and see 7 yes and 0 no! I feel much better.
Sadly, yes I have had these dreams. They are very upsetting. During the dream I'm always thinking what I'm doing is OK and when I wake up I'm totally freaked out. Of course this would never happen in real life, but it really upsets me that I have the dreams and of course I would never tell FI.
After the wedding in real life, I had a dream that it was before the wedding and I went on vacation with my family to Mexico. I was really excited about the wedding and since my FI didn't come with me, I jumped the gun and married a Mexican man. When the FI came down to Mexico, I told him about it, but assured him that we hadn't consumated the marriage. Weirdest dream, ever. Lol!
Yes I have had these dreams. I definitely feel a sense of guilt in the morning, but then shortly after realize that it didnt really happen and it was just a dream! I think it's natural to have dreams like this - like a PP said it is probably just our subconsciouses telling us that it's normal to be attracted to other people. As long as it doesn't happen in real life I think you're fine!
Haha- I actually had a dream this morning about him cheating on me with some short blonde hair chick. LOL I woke up wanting to ask him who she is. :)
First let me say that I think it's perfectly natural and you're not a bad person at all, so don't worry. I don't think I've had any dreams like that since I've been married, but I did have some kind of a dream along those lines while I was engaged. I can't remember the details, and while I did feel kind of guilty, I brushed it off as just what it was because I know I would never cheat on hubby in real life (I don't think I was engaged in the dream though, but can't remember).
I will say that I had an odd dream the other night about an old friend that I had a HUGE crush on before I met hubby. We never dated, but he knew how I felt about him. He moved away and I haven't talked to him anymore, which is fine because I have a new life now, but the dream I had was unexpected and kind of out of the blue. I dreamed that he and I were sitting in a car, and he was SO excited to see me again (I was excited to see him too) and he just kept talking and talking about life in general, and when he finally slowed down enough, I said "Look" and showed him my wedding ring. His face froze, he buried his face in the steering wheel, and said something along the lines of "I knew this would happen! Man, I am so stupid" and I felt bad for him because I knew he was hoping that I was still single. We did not do anything in the dream except talk, and it left me with a sad feeling when I woke up because I had felt sad in the dream lol.
I don't know. Dreams are sooo weird, and can feel VERY real. Just wanted to share ;)
Hahaha Vintage2010- I've had dreams about him cheating on me and catching him and I actually have to talk myself out of being angry at him when I wake up! I know it's irrational, but I get sooooo mad at those dreams!
Don't worry, it's not symbolic, most modern scientists and psychologists will tell you that dreams have more to do with your brain "cleaning house" so to speak - every little thing that flitted through your head in the time you were awake, most of which you didn't consciously register - has the ability to show up in your dreams.
It is crazy weird to wake up with that guilty feeling though! I've woken up mad as well, because I've had dreams that R cheated on me.
Yeah I had a dream just last night that I was getting it on with my dentist, who I don't find the least bit attractive and who I haven't seen in 6 months. Random! THEN I had a dream that I was in the Bad Girls house....they're just dreams, no big deal!
I have had dreams about breaking up, and about him cheating on me, and me cheating on him. The dreams in which I cheat on him are the most bizarre, becuase they are almost always with one of his friends who I am not even remotely attracted to. I usually don't share those dreams with him, becuase I don't want to upset him unecessarily, especially where they don't mean anything. The only ones I share are the ones in which we break up. I always wake up incredibly sad, and then I snuggle closer to FI to feel better.
The other night, I had a dream that FI and I were married, and we had his boss over for dinner. His boss just happened to be David Wallace from The Office (I think his name IRL is Andy Buckley). Anywho, in the dream he kept putting moves on me, and stuff ended up happening between us while FI/husband was getting dinner ready.
It was a very bizarre dream, and my thoughts must have just played out that way because we watched the show before falling asleep.
I don't have dreams like that too often. My more bizarre dreams are when I'm supposidly with FI, but the person in my dream doesn't look or sound like him, even though he keeps saying it's him. Those are weird and freak me out.
Yea you are not alone. I think you end up having them sometimes because you we thinking about the dream too hard! It feels so good to know I am not alone:) I love my FI more than anything..I was thinking is there something wrong with me?! Love this website!!
Well, maybe it was bc of reading/responding to this post yesterday, but I had a cheating dream last night!!!
I don't remember all of it, but I remember being at a party w/o FH and wildly, passionately making out with this guy I went to middle school with and had a huge crush on. (It was a private school, and a very small one, so we are FB friends, along with just about everyone else from our class...it's not weird).
In the dream I was thrilled, like "Score! That was 14 years in the making!" (shameful!) I panicked though, when I noticed someone had been taking pictures with these huge flash cameras. (anyone see 4 weddings last night? the kind of cameras that were annoying and flashy during that one ceremony...) I was convinced that the pictures would be put up on FB, and FH would see!
Not amusing. Scary. I take back the amusing part.
I have never wanted to share this with anyone - - I feel relieved to see a thread about it. Oddly, I think weight magically lifted off my shoulders and I'm breathing better....Not only have I had these dreams but I have also had dreams involving my ex. Like, running into him with his new gf and being jealous of the new gf to the point that ex and I get into a fight then totally make up...UGH it makes me want puke that I have these dreams....
Definetly! I woke up thinking it was completely REAL. I felt so guilty all day, even though it was just a dream.
Don't worry about the dreams, this is my encore marriage and I had similar dreams like that the first time I was getting married and I had the similar dreams again this time around. It is just anxiety talking. The funny thing was that my ex husband was the one that cheated, not me!
I think that the fact that you feel so strongly in a dream that you end up waking up feeling that way is part of why it is so unnerving. Like, in my dream, I felt happy, so I woke up feeling really happy... to have been dreaming about cheating! That was the guilt more than the dream itself. But you can't help it! I am glad that so many people feel better because of this thread and to know that they are not alone. It helped me feel better to get it out, and even though it is still a crappy feeling to wake up with (sorry that this thread caused you to have a scary dream, Ex Libris), it is nice to know that it's not a big deal and others have gone through it. :)
I've had those dreams before and it's just so strange becuase I would never in real life! I have also had the dreams (just twice) that my FI broke up with me and he would wake up to find me crying in my sleep and when he would try to console me, while half asleep, I'd smack him! HAHA When he'd try to get me to wake up so I'd stop smacking him I'd tell him what happened and then cry again. HAHA He loves to tell that story how I beat him up while sleeping.
I have dreams of my fiance cheating on me AND me cheating on him. I don't get too freaked out about it, I think it's just my sleeping mind playing out all the things that "could" go wrong. I frequently have dreams of relative and close friends dying, too. I'm a worrier=I(
twalila -- Me, too! I am a terrible sleeper in general, but when it comes to dreams, mine are very vivid and always awful whem I am stressed. For a while, I kept having the "bad guy is chasing me" dream. Though there were multiple variations of bad guys and where, they all ended with me killing him in self defense. Not just like something simple, I am talking graphic and I could swear I felt it happening (like, in one, I stabbed the guy and felt the knife get stuck in his ribs when I tried to pull it back out). It's pretty messed up. Those are always worse than the cheating dreams, even if I am technically victorious over said evil person.
@jackie-o I had a dream I cheated on him with an ex too... yuck!
I have dreams where I get drunk and hook up with someone else, then realize what I've done and try to hide it from FI. I think it's my subconcious being afraid of messing up now that the big day is approaching. I laugh them off and remind myself never to get that drunk in real life.
OH man I am so glad there are other people out there that have dreams like this. I get them... very rarely, but I've had them more than once. What's worse is that sometimes I am cheating on him with my EX!! AGH. And in my dream I know I'm cheating and I do it anyways. I wake up feeling so upset and so guilty... I would never EVER do this IRL!! But those kind of dreams always make me feel so crappy throughout the day... I am just glad to see that I am not the only one! (I would also never, ever ever tell my SO that I have had these dreams....)
I've had all of these dreams, that I'm with someone else, that my fiance is with someone else... And yeah, I either wake up relaxed and happy or angry. Totally just the mind going to crazytown. I never dwell on what it might mean.
I've had them before and it does feel really weird. I haven't seen FI in 2 months, so let just say that my hormones are through the roof!!! I don't think that guys would feel ackward about having dreams like that though.
I don't know if i was cheating or not (i remember DH in my dream, but not sure if it was in the form of a memory or a conscious "i'm with him" thing), but I dreamt I was dating Bobby Flay from Food Network. I woke up seriously confused. DH has had weird dreams like this before...they don't bother me. It's not like he's purposely thinking of them. It's his subconscious. Which is crazy =]
Yes, I actually have a cheating dream like once a week. It's weird... I have never actually given in, besides once. But it was Jude Law, and who could resist that? lol.
Haha, yeah I've totally had that dream! The one that stands out in my memory the most was when it was the day of our wedding, and I told FI that I wasn't going to marry him, I was going to marry HIM--->(pointed out the window at a random dude walking around in the yard). The look on FI's face in my dream was so heartbreaking! He left, and after a couple minutes I realized my mistake and went off to try and find him... I never did find him, though.
When I told FI about it, he cracked up and said "Yeah, please don't do that to me, ok?". I think it's my feelings of "oh god, I'm going to do something stupid to mess this up!" letting me know that they aren't COMPLETELY gone! :P
OMG- I totally had this dream last night.
I woke up all upset and freaked out. Then my information seeking self, started researching all of the reasons why people cheat. It was only a dream- I need to get a grip.
Thanks for sharing, I do feel better now.
hah! a friend of mine just asked me if all my "naughty" dreams were with my fiance now. I had a dream not too long ago (I usually remember them pretty well day-of but beyond that it gets hard) that i BELIEVE i was still engaged to my fiance and I ended up making out with a good friend of ours. IRL I told my fiance about it and he thought it was hilarious. I believe he said "Was he any good at it?" I did feel really weird toward my friend for a couple days though....
I feel a lot better reading all of your posts! I rarely remember my dreams but I remember the bad ones...cheating, breaking up, or someone dying. I had a dream where I did the dirty with this kid I had a crush on in high school. I haven't seen him in years, it was so strange and I felt sooooooooo guilty about it when I woke up. glad to hear other people have these dreams
Yes, I have. I don't really think much of them. I hate when I dream that we break up, though!
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OK, so this is really embarrassing, but I am wondering if I am the only one out there. Have any of you bees had dreams in which you cheat on your FI (not just a dream about hooking up with someone else, like in the dream, you are still engaged but cheat anyway)? Though the contexts and extent of the actions have differed, I have dreamed this twice in the last three weeks. I know I can't really help it, but it makes me feel guilty, and FI would be sooooo upset if he were to find out! I am definitely obviously not consciously thinking about cheating on my FI, and our intimate life is great, so this is just really weird. Anyone else?