Post # 1
So lately my SO and I have been talking about someday getting married/getting engaged (married after I get out of grad school, which I just applied for). I’m so happy, and thrilled that my SO has also been thinking about getting married. We live together, get along super well, and have future plans that match up really well. We are perfect for each other 🙂
The weird thing is, I’ve been having occasional, annoying dreams about my obnoxious high school/college ex-boyfriend. . . who is apparently applying for the same grad school as I am–probably even for the same program (I know this through my hometown grapevine, not because I’ve been sleuthing or something). Blech! I would be quite content to not ever see my ex again, but as we’re in the same field for work and come from the same town we do see each other occasionally. Eew. And we both go to the same social-dancing events sometimes (which is where I met my SO, by the way :). . . that’s the way my small state is–everyone’s connected somehow). Basically I’m having to deal with the idea that I’ll probably have to go to school with my disagreeable ex AGAIN. . . I am so over him. . .
I think I’ve been having these dreams because of applying for grad school, many jobs, etc. has been making me stressed and a little insecure since I might have to move away from our house for the summer. Blahhh!
Anyway, has anyone else had dreams of unpleasant exes despite being in a healthy, happy relationship?
Post # 3
I haven’t told anyone this, but I have. And it was also someone I knew for years and years. I woke up feeling grateful and thankful for the man lying next to me.
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Post # 5
@Creiddylad: But yeah I was also slightly horrified when I woke up. Haven’t told a soul!
Post # 6
I have. I am so happy with my fiance, and they aren’t romantic dreams, but just dreams where we talk or something. It’s so odd, because I wouldn’t even want to talk to my exes! haha
Post # 7
Yeah I’ve had dreams about exes and been disgusted upon waking. They’re just dreams.
Post # 7
I have also, and they seem so real. I wake up feeling like I did something wrong!
Post # 8
I had a terrible dream last night about my ex. I dreamt he got married on the same day as me, and his wedding was waaaay better than ours. (He arrived in on an elephant!)
I was also getting married that same day, but it wasn’t clear if I was getting married to FH or if I was getting married (against my will) to my ex as his 2nd wife. It was a horrible dream, and I woke up all depressed. Ugh.
Post # 9
I have before! and ironically, like you, right around the time my Fiance and I were talking seriously about getting married. I think its totally normal.
Post # 10
@Ms. Blue: yes, totally! and I feel guilty in the morning too! which is weird, because I never felt that way in my previous relationships… I’d have those dreams and think nothing of it. I think because I wasn’t fully commited. now that I am fully monogamous for the first time (and happy!) i feel bad if I dream about someone else. so strange and interesting how our subconscious minds work…
Post # 11
I started having very vivid dreams about 2 of my ex boyfriends a few months ago – just when we really got in to planning the wedding… gotta love how the brain works 😛 One of them was from when I was 15. I woke up thinking “REALLY?!” I hadnt thought about him in years. So strange.
Post # 12
I hate to admit this, but there is one ex that I always have sexual dreams about. They are repulsive when I am awake and understand what’s up, but while I’m dreaming, it’s a different story. Not sure how to make that stop… Gross.
Post # 13
It makes sense that it’s happening when you’re discussing marriage & such. SO & I will be getting engaged in the near future & I’ve had a handful of dreams about my most recent ex (some of them where we seem to be dating). In no way do I want to date my ex again. Nice guy, but we just didn’t click, you know? I think it’s just reflection, but turned into certain scenarios b/c hey, dreams are weird, man.
I was a little “wtf” about it after I had a couple. Felt almost guilty, but I have dreams about all sorts of people. It just happens. Plus, It’s kind of cool to wake up, look over @ the SO, & know it was just a reminder that I upgraded to the whole package. 🙂
Post # 14
If its finished once, its finished… There is no turning back or dreaming about him/her!
Do not ruin your life with these thoughts!
Post # 15
oh my, im so glad im not alone in this! I have had dreams too and wake up really mad at myself and just feel blah……