Dress advice?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Justabridetobe:  I was self consious about my arms too.  I kept thinking I’d end up wearing a shrug or a boloero. Do you have something like that you can bring with you incase you start feeling self consious?  Maybe you can ask to try a few on if they have any in stock.  Also, if it helps to know this, I had about the same ammount of time as you & I did end up toning up & getting to a place where I felt good about my arms. I wish you lots of luck & enjoyment on your journey!

Post # 4
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Congratulations on starting your dress hunt!

First off, pick something that you are comfortable in. I have a tendency to hide my arms in a sweater/shrug because I can get quite self-conscious about bad camera angles when I’m sleeveless.

Also, I wouldn’t put too much pressure on getting toned just for a dress. It’s not worth it. Get toned because you want to feel stronger.

If you love strapless dresses, you could always consider adding a matching bolero. 🙂 A lot of 1950s dresses (or around that era) are strapless. Brides would typically wear a bolero.

An example of a dress that gets pinned on Pinterest a lot:


Post # 5
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Justabridetobe:  Hi! and Welcome to the Hive!

If you like the look of a strapless dress, you can always either buy one that comes with a sheer bridal jacket or order one after you choose your dress.

Eden Jacket J1053


Post # 6
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @Justabridetobe: … I get the self consciousness about arms… I was pretty sure you might be in my age group (over 50) and suffering from “Bat Wings” like so many of my age group do as we lose muscle definition

So I checked your WBee Profile…

Oh my girl, you are just a “wee baby” in this fight against flabby arms at 20-something

Trust me what you feel is not a great feature about you truly looks fine…

Altho as you say nothing a bit of toning won’t make look even better… for that I strongly suggest either working out at the Gym with a Pull-down Machine… either that or dumb-bells and your arms (and shoulders) will look amazing in no time (also good for any dreaded back fat)

I did this myself, and I am as I say over 50, and it really made my “baby bat wings” disappear… so if it can work on “this old broad” it can most certainly work for you

Then you can wear whatever dress your heart desires without any worry.

TIP – for more In you should check out my older post on this topic for another Bee (Reply # 11) that can be found here = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/ideas-on-losing-the-back-fat#axzz2lpB3afzy

Hope this helps,


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