Post # 1
I’m in a bit of a pickle and need some advice from all you gorgeous bees!
I was engaged over a year ago, and bought a dress (it was my dream dress and fairly inexpensive at $950) I’m about to be engaged to someone else…
Should I get a different dress or should I still wear the one I already have? I’m a plus size girl and dress shopping was a nightmare the first time around (the stores I went to didn’t have anything but really BIG samples or really SMALL samples) and I will only be engaged for about 10 weeks total before we are married (so no time to order anything in). Plus, I don’t think my parents would buy another dress, so I’d have to pay for it myself. Worth the hassle? Is it fair to my FI to wear the dress I bought to marry someone else?
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t wear the dress. I am not superstition or anything, but it just wouldn’t feel right to me. If you are okay with it, then go for it!
Where did you get the dress? Could you exchange it for something else?
You could also try selling it and using the money to buy a new dress!
Post # 4
Do what your gut tells you. Since you already have the dress I say wear it. Your time frame and the fact that it still cost you a grand says to me why not. But… if your gut is telling you something just isn’t right.. then start fresh and get a new dress. It’s your gut’s call 🙂
Post # 5
I agree, I wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing the same dress that was meant to celebrate a wedding with someone else.
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it! The dress is more about you…I mean, I know I’d pick the same dress no matter who I was marrying. If he’s a reasonable person, he won’t mind at all.
Post # 7
@katie90: Eh, I’d honestly probably try to sell it and then get another dress. I think I’d just feel a little strange wearing a dress that I bought when I was planning to marry another guy. As much as I love the dress I bought for my wedding this November, if something happened (nothing will, but if it did!) and my fiance and I ended things, I’d want to get rid of the dress. I bought it to wear for him … I wouldn’t feel right wearing it for another guy.
Post # 8
As you didn’t actually Marry the previous person I can’t see why it would be a problem but, of course its up to you.
Post # 9
Thanks babes! You’re all wonderful!
I bought it from a store that specializes in modest dresses (it has cap sleeves)… the store has a no returns policy even though it still has the tags on it and has had no alterations. I’ve been conflicted about it. My new FI doesn’t see anything wrong with me wearing it… but when I look at it it reminds me of how a good relationship can go wrong.
This is a bad picture the dress btw. It’s got a long train with bling on it and bling around the neck. It has a queen anne collar too.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t wear it- it would be weird karma? I’m sure you could get a sample off-the-rack dress and have it altered in time for your wedding! I definitely think it’s worth the hassle- think of it as a fun challenge and you get to try on dresses- it will be fun!!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would keep it if you love it and you don’t want to deal with dress shopping again. It’s YOUR dress, not the dress that symbolized the other guy.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I would probably wear the dress if you didn’t have any negative association with it, but since you said that it makes you think about how relationships can go wrong, I wouldn’t want that taint around me on the big day
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room
The big question was if he was fine with it or not… and you said it yourself, he doesn’t see anything wrong with it. Time to give that wonderful dress some life. It doesn’t have a past because it never got a chance to have one. It never made it near the aisle, it just made it into your closet a little early 🙂
Post # 15
@mrstaylortobe: Thanks girly! (: you’re a doll!
Post # 16
@NovaGrey: You worded that so perfectly it actually made me tear up a bit!!! Thank you!