- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - UK
So… I bought a dress a while back. I hadn’t tried on many dresses at the time, and I had to buy it quickly for various reasons. I also had other issues at the time… one grandparent was in a coma after an accident, and another died during the shopping process.
Anyway, I always thought the dress was beautiful, but I didn’t feel beautiful in it. I couldn’t afford a new one, so I just stopped thinking about it and concentrated on other things.
Skip to final alterations yesterday. I try the dress on and try to work out how to alter the skirt to make me like it more. Two major problems:
– The dress does not zip up. I have mysteriously gained weight in the last few weeks, although I haven’t been eating. I’m guessing that my raised cortisol levels are responsible. The dressmaker echoed my assessment: I will have to lose weight. There is no way that the dress can be altered to fit, even with a corset back, because it’s already so loose in the waist and hips, which are being taken in. It won’t do up on my back, above my waist, where I seem to have mysteriously gained about 3 inches since my last appointment a few weeks ago.
– I really do not feel beautiful or confident in that dress. I’m not normally a wuss, but I could feel that prickling behind my nose which indicates that you might actually cry. I just kept saying “yes, alter it like that. Take it in here and here. It’ll be fine. It’ll be fine. It’ll be absolutely fine.” over and over until the seamstress probably thought I was nuts and said “I can see you’re stressed”.
I cannot afford a new dress. The wedding is in 3-4 weeks. I have to fit into the dress I have, and to somehow make myself not feel ugly in it. My one saving grace is that I had a sudden flash of inspiration whilst I was there, and realised that the only way I might be able to get away with it would be to style it in a massively 70s way, with some sort of floral or hippy headgear.
So… advice on how to lose 3 inches across my back, please, and also on some sort of styling. I would love to show you pics of the dress, but I’m already too recongisable from RL on here as it is, and I still have daft superstitions about that sort of thing (silly, I know).
Anyway… any help appreciated!