Post # 1
Our reception is at a private member’s only country club that has a strict dress code — no jeans, jackets required for men, and afternoon or evening attire for ladies (I don’t even know what that means!) And also, the club has a rule of no use of cell phones or pagers on the grounds. (I’m not really sure what will happen if ppl do, but I do know that my FFIL who is a member will be embarrassed if some of our guests do not follow the rule.
My question is: Is it rude to put this info on the bottom of our map insert in our invitation? (It would not be on the main invite, just the map insert)
I personally am not crazy about how that would look. But I don’t have many options since we are NOT having a wedding website (I have zero time to put one together)
What should I do?
Post # 3
I’d ask the venue if the cell phone rule applies to guests at your wedding… what would happen if a guest actually brought a cell and it *gasp* rang?!
If your FFIL is *that* concerned, and if a guest would get turned away for not being in dress code – don’t leave things to chance, add it to the map insert to ensure none of your wedding guests are turned away from your wedding! You can word it in such a way that makes it somewhat clear the dress code/no technology code is not you, it’s the club!
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to word this on my map insert? I’m supposed to be printing those up this week and need to finalize the files asap :S THANKS!
Post # 5
I dunno if I would put this on your map insert…. Can you make a ‘special instructions/info about the venue’ insert????
My fiance has gone to a lot of functions where often there is a basket check in for cell phones and digi cameras. maybe you can have people check items in to be sure they adhere to the clubs policy???? And have someone be in charge of the items?
If someone doesn’t turn in or OFF their cell phones… I would make a remark about it in the wedding program- remind people to put it on vibrate or off because the club has this policy.
Post # 6
Put it on the invitation. Seriously. If it’s important, it should be on the invitation. On some part of the invite that guests are guaranteed to read (the main invite, RSVP card, or the map — BUT NOT ON THE BACK, or else people might miss it!). I really don’t get how stating "black tie dress code" and "no cell phones/pagers permitted on the reception grounds" is tacky. Sheesh.
Post # 7
You can word it as simply as "Our venue requests no jeans, men in jackets and ladies in afternoon or evening attire. Cell phones and pagers are not permitted on the grounds."
Post # 8
I agree with pp. Either put that at the bottom of the invitation, or put a separate insert that states that in bold so guests can’t miss it.
Post # 9
It may sound like an odd rule but there may be good reasoning behind it…I know of bars and restaurants that have rules like this because cells around pacemakers or other heart monitering devices can be bad. Not sure if this is the case or not but that might make it easier to understand.
I don’t see any problem adding it to the map. Maybe on the bottom you could write something like "Venue Information: ‘Name of Venue’ kindly requests jackets for men and evening attire for women. No jeans please. Also, due to grounds restrictions, cell phones and pagers are not permitted."
Post # 10
just write: strict dress code is enforced, no jeans, sneakers or tee-shirts; jackets are required for men; the venue prohibits use of cell phones and pagers
people will dress up and avoid being embarrased by being turned away
same thing in NYC we have dress codes at some places, when I invite friends to hang out I let them know if there’s a dress code