Post # 1
We are having a pretty formal wedding at night in the city. I am worried (based on previous experiences) that some people from my FI side of the family may not dress appropriately. Is it ok to put “formal attire” on the invitation? It’s not black tie, so I don’t want to confuse anyone. I have never seen this done before, it is tacky?
Post # 3
I think that’s fine. You could also write up a FAQ on your wedding website with that included if you don’t want it on your invite.
Post # 4
I think listing “Formal” is A-OK especially since they have a tendency to underdress. But you’ll probably have people call and ask if it’s black tie or not.
Post # 5
I’m thinking about doing this, too–or at least listing “cocktail attire” which I realize is not as formal, but will at least mean that the gents know not to wear jeans! Keep us updated on what you decide; I’m really curious to hear how this goes and whether people get confused between black tie & “formal” attire.
Post # 6
If I read ‘formal attire’ on an invitation, I would have to call the bride to double check how formal she meant. I don’t own an evening gown, which is what I assume would be formal attire. Maybe you should just use word of mouth to spread the word on his side of the family. Let his mom know to be sure to let them know.
I always go according to the formality of the invite. If it’s a very traditional invite with script lettering and formal wording at a nice place… I dress in cocktail attire. If it’s a more casual invite, I go a little less dressy. But I know about these things, and some people just don’t.
Post # 7
We’re doing black tie optional, and I’m anticipating having a lot of people call and ask what that means, if they need a tux, etc. But I’m fine with that–I’d rather have people call and check then show up in something in appropriate. As for what black tie optional means to us–if they own a tux, they should wear it (men); if they don’t, a dark suit works. For women, either a long gown or a cocktail length dressy dress would work (I would never tell someone to go out and buy a long gown). And honestly, even if you did put black tie, that does not mean that everyone will be in a t ux and long gown. It’s much more open to interpretation these days.
Post # 8
What about “Semi-Formal Attire Preferred”
Post # 9
I think it is fine- better, as a guest, to KNOW what you want before hand. I would want to be made aware. I have so been the person (at different times) who is over dressed or under dressed and it isn’t preferred!
Post # 10
I put a little blurb on my wedding website describing the prefered code of dress. i have a lot of younger frends who dont do formal a whole lot so i feel this section could be helpful for them. If you put it on the website, you will be able to list examples of “appropriate” attire even if needed!
I agree with the other guests in that it is much better to have guests call with questions than risk someone feeling uncomfortable because they are underdressed (just had to haev theat convo with my FI because he doesnt care about clothing lol)
Post # 11
We put “cocktail attire” on our invites. It’s a Saturday night wedding at a Contemporary Art Museum – we wanted everyone to look fabulous and festive!
Post # 12
we have black tie optional on the bottom right corner of the invite in smaller letters – and like one of the PP posted about that term, its about the same. Dark suits or tuxes for guys, and gowns or dressy cocktail dresses for the women.