(Closed) Dress Code Strictly Enforced?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can put ‘dress casual’, ‘formal attire requested’, etc., on your invitation, but please don’t put anything like your last paragraph.  No prints, colors, patterns, etc?  Come on… enjoy your wedding and don’t worry about what others are wearing.  No one likes to have someone dictate what they wear.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I say go for it! Guide your guests to the best of your ability.

Where is your reception? Some venues have a dress code in place, so you can always use you venue as backup on your decsison. 

The prints and crayola yellow clause may be a bit extreme but It really depends on the mentality of the people you are inviting.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m glad that my venue enforces a dress code. So they look like the bad guy and not me! I just put their clause onto my website.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can list the requested dress code as “Formal Attire” but the rest of your post is just wishful thinking.

If it is only the taste of the +1’s you are concerned about, I doubt that these people are meaningful enough to you to be included in any pictures anyhow.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree with Kristen.  And trust me, at your own wedding the last thing on your radar will be what the guests are wearing.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This would be COMPLETELY bridezilla-ish. You’re not supposed to mention dress code unless your wedding is truly black-tie (This means girls in gowns, guys in tuxes, and a generally over-the-top wedding), but no prints or light colors? No, you cannot ask this. Hopefully your friends/guests have common sense, if not it looks bad on them, not you.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Wonderstruck: Edited. lol I read your post wrong!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

You can put “formal attire” or something but requests for “no prints” or “nothing lighter than crayola yellow” are a tad extreme and honestly, ridiculous IMO.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Miss Tattoo: Your venue has required attire, that is completely different from telling guests they cannot wear prints or light colors.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Wonderstruck: I read your post wrong. I changed it, but you answered before I got to! Sorry!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have ‘Black Tie Preferred’ on my invitatio,n which still leaves the guests open to some interpretation.  We want the gentlemen in dinner jackets and ties and the ladies in respectable dresses.  My girls are wearing knee length cocktail dresses, so I am not so hard-pressing about people being in gowns.  However, I have been to weddings where the invitation said “Formal Attire” and guests still showed up looking like they were going to a 4th of July BBQ.

You really can’t dictate color unless you are requesting something like “no one wear black” or “everyone wear white”… I’ve seen that done before.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think sometimes wedding planning can give you tunnel vision.  I truly do understand your freak out over people wearing inappropriate outfits.  I didn’t hire a band that we were considering because the band manager was wearing an inappropriate dress at the wedding we saw them at. So, I kind of understand your snap judgement based on your experience.

HOWEVER: I strongly encourage you to leave your dress code requirements at “Formal Attire Required” and leave out any reference specific prints, colors, etc.  If you tell people they can’t wear prints or any color lighter than Crayola Yellow, I can guarantee that absolutely everyone will think you are a crazy person, and once people think you’re crazy, it’s hard to convince them otherwise.

 

 

 

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