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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    Hi all,

    This is my first posting on here, but I'm hoping to get some help.  I fell in L-O-V-E with the look of a Blue by Enzoani dress, the style name is Accra.  So, I put a deposit on it with the promise from my bridal salon that they could make the train a few feet longer.  They were also going to try to make it a little more full.  So I go through all this, then get a call the next day with them saying the designer will not make any changes to the gown because it is from the ready to wear line.  I love the dress, but at the very least I NEED the train to be longer, it just doesn't make me feel like enough of a bride.  It has the lace and bling like I've wanted and I haven't been able to find any other dress like it.  So with all the talk, here is the dress and you can even see it in action: http://www.aisledash.com/2008/02/13/dress-of-the-day-blue-by-enzoani-accra-gown/

    You'll be able to see that when you walk the dress barely looks like it has a train.  I'm getting married in an old Catholic church that I've been a part of ever since I was born and the aisle in that place is so long so I just need more drama.  My dream dress has lace, but not too much and also a little bling in the form of some crystals and beading.  So, does anyone have any advice?  Is there a way to get the designer to work with me and make changes?  I'm so hearthbroken and stressed about the dress...and the worst part is my wedding is only 6 months away so I am in desperate need of a dress.  I just dont' know what to do and I would appreciate any help, idea, suggestions, anything really.  Thanks! 

     
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    gaudior23    8/9/08   Virginia

    Have you tried it on with an elaborate cathedral length veil?  If the veil was super long maybe that could give you the drama you want. Really the short train is going to be way more comfortable in the reception.  It would be nice to have removable drama.

     
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    quirkyparsnip    October 1, 2011   Texas

    It seems like a decent realistic length for a train. I think you could make it work well. Don't get caught up in details like the length of the train, enjoy the beauty of the rest of the dress and have a fabulious wedding day!

     
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    cupcake    September 20, 2008   Philadelphia

    I agree that it seems like an adequate train.  Have you tried on another dress with a much longer train like you're picturing?  If not, maybe that's worth a shot, because you might find that it is too much or way too heavy to deal with all day. Personally, I think some super long trains are a bit much and take away from the beauty of the rest of the dress and the beauty of the bride.

    I also think a dramatic cathedral length veil could add the drama you're looking for, without having to find a new dress (and without being as heavy and clunky as a longer train). Maybe go back to the shop that has your dress and try on the sample again with the longest veil you can find!

    And ultimately, I believe with quirkyparsnip — try not to get too caught up in one detail like the length of your train, if this dress is everything else you wanted.  People will be looking at your face and the emotions you're showing more than your dress!  Your dress is just an accessory to your happiness.

     
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    MrsJones    August 17 2008   vancouver, bc

    I think the dress is absolutely gorgeous as is.   I agree with the others that a longer train will only get in the way during the reception.  And you have to think alot about what it will look like bustled, as you will have your dress on bustled much longer than you'll be wearing it with the train.  More train will only add bulk to your back and it isn't always a good look, some that I tried on looked really unbalanced when they were buslted.  That said, I think that the store should have contacted the designer to discuss changes before taking your non-refundable deposit.  They should know their dresses and know which designers are open to changes and which are not.  

    With all of that being said, if you really have your heart set on a longer train... maybe you could order additional fabric and have another layer of fabric added under the current one that was longer.  The seamstress could probably make this removable  as well so you could remove it for the reception.  Depends on what your budget is though, as ordering fabric from the designers is generally quite expensive.  You could always use the panel of fabric and have another dress made out of it later as well, how cute would it be to have a dress to wear on your anniversary made out of your train from your wedding dress?  I am certainly no seamstress, so I would take  your pictures to a professional and ask their advice.  

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    Thank you all for the suggestions, I REALLY appreciate it!  Some really great food for thought.  I have the appt tomorrow to try the dress on again.  I also found out last minute that there is a trunk show with this designer close to this area today so I'm going to try to make my way over there today.  Thanks so much!

     
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    misschickie    Feb or March 2009--he's planning it so I don't know!   Boston, MA

    in the video you can't quite see how long the train is since the model is already walking back and she doesn't do any turns.  the way the lighting & shadows fall it looks to me like the train is probably about 2-3 ft.  Also, how tall are you?  The models are usually close to 6' with heels.  If you're shorter you can have the dress hemmed on an angle so that it's shorter in front but keep the length in the back.  It may only add 2-6 inches, but sometimes that's all the extra length you need. 

     
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    bride    July 2008 and December 2008   Southern California

    unless you are 5'9" and up, you should have plenty of train. :) 

     

    and definitely just using a long veil is an option. 

     

    the dress is GORGEOUS!!!!  

     
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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    I agree that unless you are really tall, the train is probably enough.  I also agree that, if you really think you want lots more train, you should try on some dresses with that much train.  I was stunned at how heavy and uncomfortable the larger skirted dresses were.  Great if you think you are going to wear it an hour and then change for the reception, but totally impractical to wear all evening.  Once you try to walk in all that dress you might rethink your vision.

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    So I went and tried the dress on again last night.  I love the look of the dress, but I don't think I'm going to buy it...it's just missing some of the elements I would really like it to have.  I would like a longer train, I would like it to be a little fuller, and I prefer at least a slight sweetheart neckline.  I've looked everywhere and can't seem to find a dress like I have in my head except for a Vera Wang one that I'm sure costs too much money.  The dress in my head is similar to this: http://abbyjean.typepad.com/.shared/image.html?/photos/uncategorized/2007/04/25/abby_dress_2.jpg

    The only change I would make to that dress would be fore it to have more of a sweetheart neckline.  Also, I haven't seen the in person and don't know if it would even be what I do have in mind.  Anyway, I'm searching high and low for this lace dress with all the other details that seems to only exist in my head. Dress Dilemma :  wedding Icon Sad Dress Dilemma :  wedding Icon Confused

     
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    penguin    June 7, 2008   Berkeley, Ca

    I second (or third or fourth) the long cathedral veil to spice it up! 

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    Ok, so I've figured it out and here are pictures of me in the actual dress.

    I had questions that possibly some of you would know regarding a good seamstress since the designer is not willing to make any changes to the dress whatsoever.  Both the times I tried the dress on there wasn't a seamstress there to talk things over with.  Would a seamstress be able to make the neckline slightly sweetheart?  Also, for the lining I think you can see in a picture or two it bunches up under the lace, so would there be a way to redo it so it actually matches up to the end of the lace? Like by my legs it practially hugs my legs which is kind of annoying for walking.  And while I'm on the lining subjectt, is there something that would make the dress stay a little fluffed out as if someone had fluffed it?  Like something that wouldn't be visible from the outside of the dress that would make it look weird.  Because as soon as you move he dress just bunches kind of a lot. 

    Oh and from the previous questions, no I'm not 5'9" or anything.  I'm actually 5', I know a shorty, and I'll probably be wearing about 3 inch heels. 

    I know lots of questions once again, sorry for that. I just want to say once again, though, thank you all SOOO much for all of your help, you have some great advice!

     

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