Post # 1
I have a dress that my fiance and I love and I’m wearing it for our nondenominational garden reception ceremony. It’s the BIG day. However in order to appease both sets of parents we are having the Chinese ceremony and the Catholic church ceremony 2 days before.
FMIL surprised us by also booking us a fantastic hotel room at the best hotel in NYC along with a limo for that day even though it’s supposed to be more low key than the actual wedding day. Suddenly the church ceremony seems a little bit more fancy than I had envisioned.
Do I wear the dress I intended to on the actual wedding day and risk losing that "first look" feeling from him and that’s specialness? Or do I get another, but more low-key dress for the church–would that seem insensitive to my FMIL because she’s pulling out all the stops for us?
I would love advice ladies!
Post # 3
Lily- I would love to help you. Do you have pictures of the dresses and/or venue? That might get you some more responses.
In a generic sense, both days seem like fancy wedding days to me now. You might be one of those people who needs to be a genuine 2 dress bride… with 2 spectacular wedding dresses, though if I was trying to figure out when to wear a more low key dress, I would probably think the outdoor venue, unless it was a formal garden.
Even as I said that, though, I hedged because I know you got *your* dress for the special day that you planned in the garden.
Maybe you can find a really nice dress used from Once Wed or Classifieds to use as your church dress?
Post # 4
Hi Doctorgirl! The venue is at Westbury Manor, which is an old English garden complete with free roaming peacocks, and a small lake of waterfowl. The dress is a Jim Hjelm 8763 for the garden wedding.
Post # 5
I think its totally appropriate for the church if that’s what you want. Perhaps add a shawl or bolero to cover your shoulders (some churches require that) to mix it up a bit.
However, if keeping this dress for your dream wedding day is important to you I don’t see anything wrong with getting another dress. There was a post on here with some short dresses that I think would be perfect for this type of occasion. Or a gorgous suit ala Carrie from SATC would totally work as well.
What are you doing after the Church ceremony? Going to dinner? I think that would also help us help you make a decision.
Post # 6
I loved the dress you are wearing on the picture, but i should say yes, wear 2 dresses.
Post # 7
I think you should make the two distinct. To me, the lace dress is romantic in an airy, flowy way that is perfect for a garden wedding. I actually would find it out of place in a church wedding if the church wedding isn’t followed by a garden-style reception (although it can be done, because really, who pays attention to how much the dress matches the reception? I just pay attention to how beautiful the bride is).
The second dress doesn’t have to be more low-key. Perhaps for the church ceremony, your dress could be shorter but made of more formal material (silk satin, taffeta, etc), and you can dress it up with the right accessories and a beautiful bouquet? Take Mrs. Onion’s dress on short dress brides. (http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/02/16/short-dress-brides/). None of these gowns are particularly informal, they’re just different. If you pick one that is different enough in style from your gorgeous Jim Hjelm, you won’t lose the "first look" effect with your fiance. Good luck!!
Post # 8
That is quite a gorgeous dress!
I personally like the idea of keeping that dress for your garden wedding and getting a "short" dress (with a cute pair of heels, of course) for the church wedding. Then, if you go out to dinner/where ever after the church wedding, you won’t have to worry about getting your dress dirty before the other wedding.
Post # 9
I love the idea of a gorgeous white suit for the church. Save your gorgeous lace dress for your actual garden ceremony.
Post # 10
Since you are getting married at a catholic church why not chose a dress that is more covered up and a little more simple.
BTW: Westbury Manor is gorgeous and the service is amazing.