(Closed) Dress dilemma advice?? (kind of long)

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I do?
    Pay for the dress that you already have. : (2 votes)
    20 %
    Take fiance in, no big deal if he see's you. As long as you are happy on the big day! : (5 votes)
    50 %
    Go in alone, and see if they will let you off the hook. If not, that dress isn't so bad! : (0 votes)
    Other-- Explain below. : (3 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    It definitely sounds like a good idea to bring him along for the negotiations, but I also understand not wanting him in on the actual dress shopping. Would it be possible for him to go along and sit down together with the sales people to discuss the situation, then for him to leave and come back for you later? Then if there are any problems with them pressuring you, he’ll be back later to straigten things out if necessary…

    Post # 4
    Member
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think that you should take your FI in with you if you are really unhappy about the situation. Just because he goes with you, doesn’t mean he necessarily has to SEE the dress. He can help you with negotiations without physcially handling or looking at it, so I say bring him and see if he can help you out. If you’re having these kind of reservations already and feel you were pressured into something then ultimately you’re going to be unhappy about it. The dress is nice, although I can see how it’s not exactly what you’re looking for, but it could be the most gorgeous dress in the history of dresses and if you don’t think it’s the one I think you should try to get your deposit back and keep looking. And don’t let pushy salespeople pressure you next time! Take this experience as a lesson learned and I think in the future you’ll be more inclined to stand up for yourself in a situation like that.

    Post # 6
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    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I definitely agree with the other posters. Get your money back! I can’t believe that a sales associate tried t push you on one of your first dress shopping experiences. I’m also in Chicago … would you mind saying what store it was? I’m just curious because I think I went to every store in the city and ‘burbs.

    Bring your fiance with you as back up, and just say, "I really need to get my deposit back. I feel like I was pressured into the dress, and I know that it’s not the one and I’m really unhappy with it." No GOOD store will want you to buy a dress you don’t like.

    Post # 7
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    1037 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

    Especially with wedding planning, you have to take the gloves off!  This is your day, your dress, your everything, and if you decide that dress is not what you want, then don’t hesitate to ask if they will let you select another gown from the store! I would even request to speak to the manager and let her/him know about your experience and how you felt pressured from the sales lady.  That is NOT cool of her.  Wedding dress shopping is extremely important and sensitive at times, she should have been more accommodating to you!

    I totally feel your pain about being hesitant to ask for things, but you honestly will be AMAZED at what you can get by simply asking nicely.  And if, in the end you decide you’re still too scared, perhaps your FI will step in and help out with negotiating.  I wish you the best of luck!

    Oh! and P.S. – love your dream dress…I think the one that you picked in reality is definitely reminiscent of it!  I actually am going to be wearing a James Clifford myself, the J1825!

    Post # 10
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    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Ha, Eva’s was one of the few I didn’t end up going to.

    Keep us updated on your situation!

    Post # 12
    Member
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    the dresses are so similiar, you did a great job!

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