Post # 1
The location: Tropical island, on the grounds of a vintage house (1850’s) surrounded by a garden.
I loved this dress (Alvina Valenta 9105):
but I just couldn’t bring myself to ask my mother to buy it for me (she insists on buying my dress), at $3000. It seemed absurd to spend that much on a dress for one day and even though she said I should get what I want, it made me feel sick at night knowing how hard she works and how little she spends on herself.
So then I found another dress, a discontinued Anne Barge sample (LF 158) in excellent condition on sale for $1000. I liked that it was a vintage style (fits with the old house) and the price was amazing (a new gown in this style, if it were still available, would be $3000+). I cried at the bridal shop knowing I could have such a gorgeous gown at a price that would not strain my mother’s wallet. You can’t see the swiss dot pattern on the overlay or the crystal detailing in this photo, but it is absolutely lovely.
I bought it on the spot (well, called my mom and had her purchase it over the phone), and I was so happy that the decision was over.
Two weeks later and I am falling into regret mode. Though I love the vintage look, I am not sure that it is “me.” I keep thinking about the first dress and how stunning it made me feel. Yet I’m not even sure that the first dress would be appropriate for the outdoor garden wedding setting. And then I still have the guilt of the price tag (even more so since another dress has already been purchased). I feel that I have really messed everything up now. Please give me your advice!
Post # 3
Which one felt like THE ONE when you put it on? Honestly…i know you are SUPPOSED to get a dress that suits your venue…but I dont really agree w/ that, to an extent…my dress is a little more formal that what some may say I shoud get to go w/ my venue (cabin on the lake, evening wedding), but I say who cares if your dress doesnt FIT your setting? You are the bride, and it is your day, so go with what you want 🙂
Post # 4
Honestly I like the second dress best. It’s soft and I love how flowey it looks. Perfect for a garden wedding.
Post # 6
@CRL110282: I second this!
My venue? A rustic, stone built, large beam museum. We are getting married outside. My dress? A draped silk-satin A-line gown with a drop waist and corset back. Totally does not suit it at all, but I love it.
As other bee’s have said, my theme is “Things takemyhand loves”, more so than rustic/outdoorsy.
Post # 7
That second dress is gorgeous!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I think the second one is truly stunning, and will be the best choice in terms of when you look back on your wedding day. It isn’t “trendy” so the classic style is something you’d be proud to hang pictures of you and hubby around the house for years and years, you won’t have lingering guilt about your mom, so you’ll breathe easier day-of, and it fits your theme really well so you can keep that whimsical princessy living-my-fantasy feeling all day long 🙂
Post # 9
The SECOND dress is without a question way more beautiful than the first. I can’t say I like one thing about the first dress. Seriously, that first dress is not worth 3000!!! But, thats just my opinion.
If you are having regrets, explore your options. Would you be able to afford the first dress? I know you said you couldn’t bring yourself to allow your mom to spend 3000 on a dress… Which I think is pretty great of you!
Your dress looks so beautiful, flowy, dreamy, light. Think of it in pictures on a beach, all the tulle flowing in the wind.. Ahhh GORGEOUS!
Post # 10
I had the same issue when looking for dresses. I fell in love with a dress I just couldn’t have and I planned on settling for other dresses I thought were stunning and breathtaking that I wasn’t in love with through. After months and months of looking I just wanted it to be done with it all but instead of buying the beautiful dresses I saw I took a break from looking cleared my head and went back to the search. Soon I found new dresses that gave me the same feelings the original one gave me. I still love the the first one but I love the new ones just the same if not more. If you aren’t in love let it go and keep looking. you’ll find something else you’ll really love.
funny sidenote: my fiance just looked over my shoulder, read a bit, then asked if I was talking about him 😀
Post # 11
Also I love the first dress! It looks chic and light. I wanted a 3000 dollar dress and didn’t want to ask my parents to pay for it (because they are paying for my whole wedding) so I asked my fiance if we could purchase it. I just told my mom that he very much wanted to give me a gift for our wedding and what better gift could he give me than my dress.
Post # 12
ok last thing. i brought two dresses I changed my mind about and sold them online for the exact same price i brought them for and they sold in two weeks. If the dress is priced at 3000+ and you got it for 1000 and it’s in perfect condition you could easily sell it
Post # 13
Thanks everyone! I do love the dress I bought and I am going to stick with it.
Post # 14
I have to agree with all the other bees who commented on the second dress. I was in the same dilemma two days ago – regret. But now I love my dress. You just need to go with what you love b/c it’s your opinion that matters.
Post # 15
I love the second dress! You can accessorize it to hell, it’s awesome. You can wear an awesome headband with it, too, like this (So jealous!):
Post # 16
@kariface: It’s so funny that you say that – I actually did purchase a gorgeous headband to go with it! The catch is that my fiance really does NOT like headbands. But since the headband I got is very flexible on a ribbon I am going to see if my hairdresser can work with it more at the crown of my head than the front.