- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
for a very long time, probably close to 11 or 12 years, i have had a major issue with david’s bridal. why? because they got BLOOD on my niece’s mom’s dress, and refused to acknowledge that it was their fault. sorry, but little blood spots all along the hem that are VISIBLE when you’re looking at the dress from standing up, and it’s on the bride? that’s unacceptable. plus the fact that they sell your information to anyone and everyone. and also because of some other issues that i have with the company and it’s customer service. plus, every experience i’ve had when going with other people for bridal? the dresses were poorly made and felt cheap to me.
but on a whim, i decided to go to one of the DB stores here in buffalo. just for shits and giggles. i was feeling bridal. and figured “what the hell? it’ll either be loads of fun and i’ll prove a point that DB is shit. or i’ll be proven wrong when i find something that i like.”
so i went. and i went up and down every aisle of dresses (for the record, they only had one little rack of plus sized dresses, which is strange, because they usually have more. maybe it was this store, but yeah. weird). i touched EVERY dress. 75% of them felt cheap, poorly made, and just like i’d expected. i grew up with my mother who knows how to sew and build clothing so it’s properly made. 75% of these dresses were made poorly. and i smiled to myself knowing that i was right.
but then,it happened. i turned the corner. and there it was.
i mean, look at it. just look. it’s so freaking pretty, and so freaking simple. so. i grabbed the biggest sample they had (which was a 12. seriously people? i haven’t been a size 12 since i was a sophomore in high school, and i practically stopped eating for like, six months). and off to a dressing room i went.
i didn’t cry. i wanted to, mostly because i felt like i’d found something just to spite myself. but honestly, it’s super pretty. it’s comfortable. it’s light, but not too light. it’s puffy but not too puffy. and it’s what i wanted in the very beginning of my dress search (i never posted it here, but this was the dress i originally wanted, when i first got engaged). it’s super simple, it’s got a tiny bit of something at the waist, and it’s just. i dunno. it doesn’t have a train. which is slightly irritating, but at the same time, i wouldn’t have to bustle anything. which makes life easier. and i could get a long long veil to make up for it. right? right.
i’m super frustrated now. because i now REALLY like this dress. like, i wanna go back and see it again today, when he comes home with the car. and drag him with me so he can see it too (i don’t freaking care about the whole “OMG THE GROOM CAN’T COME!” rule. we’re non-traditional. he’s seen me in a whole bunch of wedding dresses before. i like his opinion). and maybe drag ellen.
i emailed my mother, too. well, i texted her after i tried it on. and she was in a meeting at work, so she didn’t answer me until a couple hours later. when she said “YOU WENT WHERE? DO YOU NOT REMEMBER THE FIASCO WITH M’S DRESS? AKJGDHJDGHJSGJKH”. and yeah. but i emailed her everything. she has yet to respond.
i keep thinking about the other two dresses i’ve been trying to decide between. one is $1160, the other is $1240. that’s before alterations. honestly? i can’t stomach that cost. even if we break it into payments, it just bothers me that i’d be spending that much money on one dress. do i love them? yes. do i look good in both? yes. do i think i could wear either? mhm. did i cry? mhm. but do i honestly want to spend that much money on a dress? when you add in alterations, which i’d need, either dress is going to be close to $1500-$2000. seriously. that’s like, an entire wedding for some people. that’s 1/5 of our entire reception budget (as we stand right now, we’re looking at $10k for the reception). can i sleep at night knowing that i spent that? i don’t know.
the dress at DB is $950. that’s a bit more in my comfort range. if it needed any alterations, i could have them done (NEVER at DB. i’d take it elsewhere), and it wouldn’t be too horrible. right?
ugh. i’m so confused. someone help. someone offer me advice. am i crazy? am i settling? am i being a stuck up brat (i wouldn’t be surprised, cause i kind of am a spoiled brat)? am i crazy for potentially going against what i’ve believed for 11 years?