Post # 1
So I’ve gone dress shopping a few times, and I’m headed out again tomorrow (hoping to pick a dress then), but I’ve realized I can’t pick a dress because I’m torn between two styles:
My wedding is outdoors, at a vineyard, with the dinner on a patio overlooking the vines (in August). Because of that, I started out looking at lighter, more comfortable dresses without trains.
Then I started looking at some more traditionally bridal dresses. They look incredible on, but I’m worried about being uncomfortable on my wedding day in the heat, or the train getting dirty since it’s outdoors (though I think adding an aisle runner might help slightly with that).
So here’s my question: Did you go practical, or extravagant bridal. And any regrets about either choice?
I’ve attached pics of the three dresses I keep going back to — the first (super sparkly bodice, chiffon bottom) is super comfortable, flowy and romantic, and I really love it, but I’m worried I might regret not going “bigger” for bridal. I also think my FI might love the soft ‘touchable’ fabric on the bottom.
The second is super simple, classic and lace (and very comfortable). I think people would focus more on me than the dress, but I don’t know if it’s missing “something”.
The third is definitely the most bridal, but I’m worried all that structure will make me uncomfortable, or that I’d be worried about getting it dirty with the train. I’m also torn — my FI mentioned he likes ‘soft’ fabrics over things like lace and lots of beading, but I think when he see’s the fit he might forget all about that.
I’ve added a poll for the three dresses above as well. Thanks bees!!!
Post # 2
NOTLBride: #3 is beyond flattering on you! All three choices are so different though so I see your dellima! I think it all comes down to how you envision yourself on your wedding day!
My top picks would be #2 and #3.
Post # 3
NOTLBride: the one thing we can’t help you with is how each dress makes you feel – only you can answer that.
I tend to scoff at a notion of “bridal” and “non-bridal” dresses. One person’s “bridal” is another one’s “not bridal enough”.
All that should matter is whether it’s suitable and appropriate for the venue (hey, even jeans are fine for a backyard wedding, but not for a cathedral), practical, suits you, reflects your own sense of style and makes you feel good.
With that said, I think you look smoking hot in the more structured dresses, especially the third one. Provided you can sit and walk in it easily it looks like it is practical enough – so unless you want to breakdance in it or 100% comfort and freedom are important to you, it looks manageable. I agree with you about the train, but that can be bustled for the reception, so again – manageable.
Post # 4
3 is so gorgeous on you if you are comfortable in it!
Post # 5
They are all very pretty dresses with lovely details that make them distinctively bridal. I agree with other bees that the third dress is very flattering to your figure. Could you have it made without a big train? Otherwise a bustle will work well.
Post # 6
I am of the camp that you should go with whatever makes you feel the most awesome and beautiful and amazing (within your budget). So go with that, regardless of practicality, and you will work out the logistics around it. You can always change into another short lightweight dress later in the evening, if you feel uncomfortable.
Post # 7
#3 is amazing. The train can be bustled post ceremony. Me personally- practicality be damned I’m getting the prettiest dress that makes me feel the most beautiful. I am also having an outdoor wedding so no ballgown, and yes corsets are uncomfortable but they also make a body ahmazing. So I am looks > comfort for the wedding day.
Post # 8
I think they are all beautiful, especially number 2. I really wouldn’t worry about getting the dress dirty – I assume you’re not planning on wearing it again any time soon anyway! Besides, any dress that drags on the floor will get somewhat messy along the lining – dry cleaning or washing can help that.
As far as comfort goes, yes, the structured dresses are harder to sit in, but you can make it work. Another option is to have a formal dress for the ceremony and a lighter, more casual reception dress. If that’s in the budget, it’s worth considering.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
You NEED number 3!!! Stunning!
Post # 10
Toronto2014: A quick comment about the bustle idea – I’ve been to several weddings recently where the bride had a bustle, and in at least three of them (including my own) the bustle just plain broke within about half an hour and let the train back down. We all had different seamstresses. So I would be quite hesitant to rely on the bustle staying put.
Post # 11
#3 looks amazing on you!!! Here’s a little secret from a bride/photographer to you….your dress, no matter the size, will get dirty on the bottom so don’t let that deter you! Even the smallest of train will need a bustle, so you will not be dragging it around all night. The hem will most certainly get dirty no matter if you choose a light dress or the more detailed dress. Choose what you feel most beautiful in.
Post # 12
The lightest dress that I tried on was full on bridal. The fuller organza skirt was cooler than the fit and flare/column styles. I was also more comfortable with more structure because I knew I wouldn’t be pulling up the dress all night.
That said, your first dress is my favorite for a vineyard wedding. I’m sure you could find a way to make the skirt fuller with a slip to feel more bridal. The third is gorgeous too.
Post # 13
Penang1885: I agree – the last 2 weddings I went to the brides’ bustles broke.
You look amazing in all 3 dresses! The structured dress (#3) will become a bit more uncomfortable as the night goes us, plus, because it is structured, it will slip a little further down when you sit down; your girls look dangerously close to falling out just standing there!
My wedding was indoors in the winter and I picked a dress that was both comfortable and practical (Wtoo Catalina). It was a ballgown style so I didn’t have a problem moving around, sitting or dancing. It came with a train but I ordered it without it. It was also very shimmery and I was a bit concerned at first because DH once said he didn’t like “crunchy” dresses, but once he saw me he had forgotten all about that comment and said I looked absolutely beautiful.
At first I was kind of meh with the dress but once I was all made up, with my hair and makeup done, I felt beautiful and amazing. If there is a dress that you already feel beautiful in, that’s the one I would go with. This is the one day you can get away with wearing something that isn’t 100% practical! Go with your heart!
Post # 14
Thanks everyone! It’s definitely good to know that the whole longer train doesn’t immeditaly mean a dirtier looking dress all night!
Post # 15
NOTLBride: Not even a contest, the 3rd dress hands down! It looks beautiful on you and is in my opinion the prettiest dress!
I love the lace and neckline, very flattering.