Post # 1
So, not too long after getting engaged I jumped aboard the wedding planning train..what woamn doesn’t get excited about planning her wedding?..
well, i went to David’s Bridal looking for a dress, expecting to find nothing. However, I found “the one”..$750.
My mother told me not to buy and that I should keep looking. Well, from all the shows I watch one once said ” finding the perfect dress and to then keep looking is like finding your soul mate but letting him go and keep looking”.
Needless to say, I bought the dress. And I do LoOVE it!…
So the problem your wondering?? I’m having second thoughts!
We are having a less formal outdoor wedding reception and I just started thinking that my dress is too formal the setting. Not only that, I plan on wearing my dress the entire time so I was thinking I may want something more comfortable possibly…
I simply can not go out and just buy a new dress as I am not rich and we are on a tight budget.
WHAT DO I DO?? OPINIONS PLEASE!
(I also am not looking forward to having my mother say “I told You so”)
Post # 3
Post a pic of the dress if you can. You might get some suggestions on how to tailor it to your wedding setting. If you sell it, you’ll likely get half the value.
Post # 4
Yeah, that happened to me too. I bought a dress FIRST but then planned a wedding that didn’t match the dress AT ALL. So I asked the store if I could apply my deposit toward another dress or alterations and they were very accomodating.
Post # 5
Hey we are date twins!!! I’m a two-dress bride because I bought the first one before I finalized our theme and realized it didn’t fit. Luckily I bought it cheap ($110) so it wasn’t much of a loss and I will be using it for my TTD session.
As for your concern about being too formal, it is your wedding and you cannot be too formal for your own event. If you are concerned about comfort, maybe you can change into a reception dress. Those are considerably cheaper than getting a new wedding gown. Worse comes to worst, it is early and you can try selling your dress and getting a new one. I was told at most bridal stores that beginning of December is the latest I should order to have enough time to deliver and alter.
P.S. I’ve seen some DB bride posts here about being able to swap out their dresses for another at the store. I guess it depends on the location or person you speak with.
Post # 6
Meh. You’re the bride. I say you can never really look too dressy. I’ve seen photos of women who, for example, got married outside near a barn and did a really causal/rustic wedding, but wore a heavilyy beaded ballgown dress and still looked amazing and beautiful. I don’t think most people will think twice about the formality. The comfort level might be something you should worry about however. What particularly are you worried about?
Post # 7
sorry about the black and white but this was the only picture i got with my iphone
Post # 8
@baldor1: we randomly picked the date. we knew we wanted may and of all the saturdays in may i liked may 7th the best
i could do the whole “reception dress” thing but after paying $750 i dont want to just wear it for 20 minutes you know what i mean?
im going to contact the store and beg them to help me
im not sure exactly what the policy is but i took the sample gown from the store so its not like they custom ordered it for me. even if they were to let me get a less expensive less formal dress i would be fine wtih not getting the difference back. i just want to be happy and comfortable with what i have.
initially i would have waited but they were just about to go through a new dress change ( old dresses out and new ones in) so i didnt want to run the risk of waiting and not having the perfect dress
Post # 9
@veganglam: well, the reception is going to be in a grassy area. i wasnt really concerned about ruining the dress (with grass stains and such) but i was worried about the train..I’d be dragging it around and that might be tiresome and the dress itself is very heavy. i tried this other dress on that wasnt so fromal and was very flowy and comfortable. i actually quite loved it, just a bit less than this one. and i am a bigger bride so part of what i liked about this dress was the waist and thought it made me look skinny
but here is the dress i didnt pick and am now kind of wishing i did
Post # 10
If I’m understanding correctly, your reception is the only part that is less formal. Is that right? If that’s the case, I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t continue to wear the dress you fell in love with. Just change your accessories for the reception… Change into a more simple hair piece, exchange your ceremony jewelry for simple pearls.
If you’re having a formal ceremony and a less formal reception, I don’t think you have to make your dress less formal to fit in. Everyone expects you to be over-dressed for the entire affair!
You love the dress–WEAR IT!!!!! 🙂
Post # 11
@Loribeth: thats kind of what i was thinking. and now im thinking i shouldnt make a hasty decision and then end up changing my mind…but like i replied to another bee member im not sure how “fun” or comfortable itll be dragging my dress around all night.
and i just put my dress on again the other day( about 2 months after purchasing it) and not to sound awkward but it didnt seem like my boobs fit well enough in it..think “cone boobs”. thats what the dress has. now just thinking about it im miserable.
also a horribly bad idea but im in the preocess of losing weight.
and im not so sure that once i lose the weight i will love the dress just as much.
im also not sure if im giving myself excuses to hate the dress because i kind of want the other one??
i have no idea what to do!
Post # 12
@cllyons: Ahhhh… Well that is entirely a different thing, isn’t it?
You look gorgeous in both dresses. I don’t see the “cone” boobs…
Are you not having your dress bussled?
Post # 13
The first dress is beautiful. I tried both dresses on as well and prefered the first one. I also think the first one looks better on you.
Post # 14
It is your dress. If you love it who cares how formal it is? You’re the bride!
Post # 15
I think the second dress is so much prettier on you and also would work better for a casual wedding. Try seeing if you can sell the first one and then you could get the other one!
Post # 16
It’s a bit ballroom-like….but brides do it! If you really love the dress just wear it. You’re allowed to be the fanciest person at the party!
I was in the same situation. However, my first dress was a lot cheaper than yours. I bought it for $370 and I sold it on preownedweddingdresses for $270. I think as a brand new, unworn, unaltered dress you can probably make more than half reselling it. You will surely have some loss–but it may be your only option if the bridal shop won’t help out.