Post # 1
I hate to vent, but when I bring any of my dress stress into a conversation with my family and friends it becomes a real head-meets-wall situation. This may be a tad long-winded, but I’ll try to be concise.
My fiance and I got engaged just before Christmas last year, and as my Christmas present my FMIL gave me tickets to a local bridal fair. When we went there was a local bridal boutique with all their sample dresses ready for the ladies to try on. I figured I’d try a few on with my MOH and FSIL just to get a feel for it. As a size 18 in a wedding dress, I learned very quickly that sample dresses were not going to be my friend. It was either a tent or it was pretty but too small for me. So when I found dress A and put it on, the fact that it fit and that I had had enough already prompted me to put a deposit on it. The motivating factor in buying it was that it was cheap- I was in no way in love with it. Long story short, FI found out that I only put a deposit on it to save us money and told me to cancel it because he didn’t want our wedding to become an exercise in settling for the absolute cheapest thing.
So after Dress A, I left wedding dresses alone for a while because like regular clothes shopping I already hated it like the plague. MOH convinced me it was a good idea however to look again at a local salon we had both found our grad dresses at years before. We found one that I liked, but was told by the consultant looked awful on me:
And was then told that “girls like me” were meant for the types of dresses that follow:
Needless to say I hated them. I’ve since seen a Maggie Sottero Vogue Royale (sorry, no pics) on me, which I love but is $2300 and I’ve received mixed opinions on how it looks on me.
I’m so torn Bees! I feel like if I buy the Maggie, then I’m wasting money that could go to other more important things/could potentially make me look even bigger than I already am- but I’ve pretty much hated everything else. Are any of these silhouettes right for me? Should I just give up and go back to the original cheap dress to get this over with?
Post # 3
Your body is shaped very similar to mine, I tried Davids Bridal and LOVE so many gowns. I think there are better styles for you than these. Give it a try!
Post # 4
I like dress A and the one that cow told you looked bad on you, the most. Don’t stress how little your dress costs, the way it makes you feel is more important.
Post # 5
I am sorry you are having dress stress issues, and that consultant was extremely rude and should never had said that to you. That said, I actually prefer dress “A” on you. It looks beautiful on you, IMHO. I can’t comment on the Maggie because I you can’t show us a picture. I think you should with what you feel most comfortable in.
Post # 6
I think you look AMAZING in dress A and dress B. They are much better than the third and fourth dress – that consultant should be fired.
Get a dress that you love and you feel comfortable in. A cheaper dress may seem practical now, but if you regret it later it won’t be worth the money you save!
Post # 7
First of all, mad props to your FI and his (correct and awesome) opinion that your wedding shouldn’t be about settling, especially when it comes to your dress! 🙂
Second, shame on that bridal consultant for saying a line like “girls like you.” Ugh! Not cool. And the dresses she suggested aren’t that great, IMO.
Really, you should wear what you feel beautiful and comfortable in. I mean yes, you want to pick something that’s flattering, but ultimately, if you feel beautiful in the Maggie, then go for it! And it seems like Maggie dresses are exceptionally flattering. So if it’s what you have your heart set on, and if you can get it without breaking the bank, then in my opinion, you should get that one!
(FWIW, I think the first “cheap” dress really looks nice on you! But if you don’t love it, you made the right choice not to get it.)
Post # 8
I agree with @futuremrshc:. The first one you put a deposit on and the first one you listed after that both look really good on you. They both accentuate your figure nicely. The shop clerk who said the one looked bad on you was just being an ass.
Sorry, hard to comment on the Maggie dress without seeing it on you. :/
Post # 9
I wish I could- I love the look of the White by Vera Wang collection. But alas, I am a mere Canadian, and we are not so fortunate as to have a David’s 🙁
I’m glad SOMEONE likes that dress other than me. I was beginning to wonder if I just have really suspect taste or something. I wouldn’t go back to that salon again though.
Post # 10
OP: Review that shop on EVERY website you can. Consultants should NEVER say anything like that about a bride in a dress. Even if it’s true. (which is isn’t in your case!)
Post # 11
I didn’t even read your post all the way through- I just looked at the photos for an unbiased opinion and honestly like Dress A the best (regardless of price). Then I read your post and Dress A is the cheapest- wow! If you like it, I’d say go for it….
But the Maggie dress that was posted last is a completely different style from the other dresses. Hard to judge without seeing a pic of you actually wearing it 🙂
I would say go with what you like the best and what fits your overall look/feel of the wedding.
Post # 12
Thanks! And yeah, he’s a pretty good egg ;). I really love the Maggie I tried on, but the salon I found it at nearly had to be threatened with torture to tell me who the designer was (they tear the labels out of their samples). I’d like to try more of hers though- the plus size Sottero thread is pretty encouraging!
I’m really sorry about not having any Sottero pics, I know it makes it hard to tell. The salon I found it at is a stickler about the no-photos rule. They took our purses at the door.
Post # 13
I really like dress A. It is very figure flattering. Dresses B and C are okay. Dress D looks reminds me of an vintage prom dress. I don’t know exactly why. Did you try on the Maggie? It may look lovely on you, but it would be hard to tell without seeing how it looks on you.
Post # 14
I actually never thought to review them at all, but I will now- thanks! My area has some pretty brutal bridal salons, and this one was always made out to be one of the better ones. I wouldn’t want someone else to go through that crap.
Really? Maybe I’m just odd- I think A looks the cheapest. Maybe it’s just because I know how much it costs. For $300 it isn’t too bad though.
Post # 15
I actually really like A the best on you. I think it’s gorgeous. I like B second best. I don’t know what that consultant was talking about. Your figure looks great in that dress.
Post # 16
Dress A I love on you. As a plus size girl who got a Sottero and Midgley Fit-N-Flare. I say go for it. You can always resell the Maggie and recoup some of the money back. Be brave and get the dress you love.