Post # 1
So as maybe a lot of you know I am having FMIL dress etiquette issues but this is another question I have too!
So my bridesmaids were going to wear long dresses by Bill Levkoff but we could not find the dress anywhere. I tried it on at my bridal salon but then they said it was being discontinued which didn’t make since because it was in his new collection. But anywho so my sister who is my matron of honor went and tried on dresses (she lives in tx and I am colorado) in which I said you can pick which one you like but send me pics of you in them. So we ended up going with a tea length strapless dress in cinammon color with a camel band. Anyway since it is tea length the etiqutte book for weddings says that the MOB and FMIL should also wear tea length dresses. I am assuming maybe it says that because they don’t want the FMIL or the MOB to look more formal than the wedding party. What are ya’lls feelings on this?
I have attached the pic below, it is not in the right color but at least you get an idea for the style thanks
Post # 3
I am pretty familiar with wedding etiquette, and I am pretty sure that no one goes out of their way to follow that one. I really don’t think anyone else but you (the bride) would know this rule.
Post # 4
I think it will be fine for the mothers to wear a full-length dress, provided it’s not a ball gown so it doesn’t look excessively formal. For example, something like this would be fine:
Cute BM, dresses, by the way!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I def. think the moms should wear whatever they feel most comfortable in!
Post # 6
My BM’s have tea length dresses and the moms are wearing full length dresses. Dont think its a problem at all!
Post # 7
I agree everyone else. My mom actually felt that the BP should wear long dresses, but I didn’t really care. My MOH said that she preferred shorter b/c it’s so hot in the summer to have long satin on…but no way my mom or FMIL would be willing to show their legs at a formal affair. Pretty sure I’ve never seen FMIL in anything but long skirts or pants. My mom only rarely wears shorter skirts, and never more than tea length…and only for really casual situations. I think that the comfort of MOB and FMIL is most important…and there are plenty of long dresses that would not look more formal than the BM dress you picked.
Post # 8
I agree with the pp. I was goingto say something similar to fizicsGirl. My mother would lose it if she was told that she had to wear tea length. She won’t show her legs for anything.
Post # 9
My bridesmaids and mom all wore short (knee length) dresses, but my FMIL wore a long dress. I’ve never seen her in a skirt that was shorter than floor length, so I pretty much knew she’d prefer to wear a long dress. She actually agonized over it for a long time because she felt she should wear a short dress if my mother was going to, but she has bad varicose veins and is self-conscious about her legs. I had to tell her about 50 times to just wear a long dress, as I truly didn’t care at all.
Post # 10
It’s COMPLETELY acceptable for MOB and MOG to wear long dresses. Mine’s wearing this:
and my girls are in knee-length cocktail style dresses.
I think it’s totally ok if moms are more formal than the BP anyways. They are the moms! I’ve NEVER seen a mom (c’mon they’re probably in their 50’s right?) rock a short dress to a wedding. I’ve always always always seen long. My mom’s is by far the "sexiest" MOB dress I’ve ever seen because it’s not modest and there’s no jacket like most MOB dresses.
Post # 11
I think it’s fine for the moms to wear long dresses.
Post # 12
Maybe that rule came about for photography aesthetics?
Depending on where in the photo your mother and mother in law are standing the floor legnth dresses might not balance well with tea length?
I dunno. I don’t think mothers need to match bridesmaid length since when they are both in the picture they will usually be on opposite sides of you so it will balance out but whatever length one mother chooses I would encourage the other to follow to make sure they have some consistency.
Maybe if maids are in tea length and mothers in floor length it will actually disinguish them a bit more? Its a special day for them too
Post # 13
I think the etiquette rules on length of dresses mainly serve to make sure that everyone in the wedding is dressed at about the same level of formality. Those BM dresses are definitely formal enough (with the taffeta and satin, and especially since tea length is still relatively long) that it seems like floor-length dresses for the mothers would look just fine alongside them. I think the bigger issue is that you don’t really want the mothers to look more formally dressed than the bride (and groom).