Post # 1
I know this must have happened to some of you in the hive before, so please give me all your wisdom.
You might remember that I got talked in to buying a size 10 dress when I first purchased it. At the time, I was skeptical, but the woman in the salon kept assuring me that the sample size 8 was stretched out, and that my measurement at the hip matched a 10 even though everything else measured out at a 6 or an 8. Well, lesson learned… Only I know myself best, and I should have known that the 8 was right for me.
Fast forward to my dress fittings. I had my first fitting and we decided to bring in the bodice (a lot). We basically altered the dress down to an 8. I felt pretty confident that at my final fitting everything would be ok.
Well, today I went and was horrified to find out that the laces on the corset touch and the dress is still too big, 11 days out from the wedding.
My lovely seamstress could alter the dress down more to essentially a 4 or 6, but she said if I keep losing weight like I am, it’s not going to matter.
I can’t help it, I’m not trying to lose weight at this point… it’s just wedding stress. I’m still working out because I want to look and feel my best, but if I’m not careful I’m going to look and feel my best in a dress that’s falling down 🙁
How do you (or did you) balance 1) feeling good about yourself 2) stress 3) your wedding dress size? I’m kind of beside myself right now because I feel like I can pig out and stop exercising and feel like a slob but look great in the dress or stay where I’m at and be pulling up my dress all night.
What to do???!
Post # 3
Relaxing would work…. luckily you lose weight when stressed (I’m on the other team, hehehe) so it could be worse.
If I were you, I would tone down the working out by cutting 10=15 minutes from each workout, or cutting out one day completely a week. I would also allow myself a great snack a day, something you like that isn’t overly unhealthy (low fat ice cream, Breyer’s smooth and dreamy is half the fat and very yummy!).
Also see if they can put stretchy bands in the dress that will hold the dress up, they usually hide it in the bodice somewhere.
I’m sure you are going to look beautiful on your wedding day.
Post # 4
Well, I obviously I don’t think you should stop working out altogether. Can you stop working out so intensely? You could do more low-impact workouts like walks, yoga, etc… that would still give you stress release and keep you feeling good without burning so many calories.
Also, one of my good friends had a hypermetabolism problem in high school and her doctor recommended drinking 1 protein drink a day in addition to her normal caloric intake so she wouldn’t lose too much weight. Could you try adding a protein shake into your diet? At the very least it might not gain you any weight back but it might help you stop losing weight.
This might not work either, but is there anyway you can bulk up on undergarments to fill in some of the wiggle room in your dress? Some underthings are a little bulkier than others, and switching a bra or corset might be an easy way to add extra volume to a dress that’s a little too big.
No matter what, you’re going to look gorgeous on your wedding day, doctorgirl! Even if your dress is a little loose, you’re going to look fantastic! And I bet your Fi agrees!
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s likely that you’ll drop down two dress sizes in 11 days so just make sure you sleep well, eat well, and bulk up muscles while exercising. Make sure your seamstress alter it down to 6 if that is indeed the size that fits you at this moment. Priority is still to feel healthy and energized on ur wedding day. I wouldn’t think that living like a slob would make you look great on your wedding day.
I’m not familiar w/ tailoring but there are some tricks I’m sure the seamstress can add to your bodice that can accomodate fluctuations in size within 1 or 1.5 inches, I believe. Don’t really know how to describe them….that’s the most important part of the dress that prevents your dress from falling down. Bust, you can pad and Hip is no problem either. Good luck!
Post # 6
I agree with Chela429. Just relax and cut back on your working out and eat something fun within some limits. But most importantly relax. It will work out. I promise. I know that isnt much help but sometime just a little shove of positive thinking helps
Post # 7
I hear you doctorGirl. I’ve lost >10% of my body weight in the past 8 mos. I guess I’m lucky that I lost the bulk of it in the areas that count by the time they made the pattern for my dress (also helps that it’s custom and I’ve been having fittings over the past several months). But some of my Indian clothes were a bit big to begin with, and I’m afraid they’ll be enormous when the time comes. I’m reading teh suggestions intently for myself too.
I haven’t been cutting work outs, b/c they really help fuel my appetite. But maybe more anaerobic weights instead of fat burning cario? I am also being more lenient with my diet…though not adding junk food b/c growing a belly in the next 3 weeks isn’t going to help my dress fit better in my ribs. BTW, do you think just generically gaining weight by pigging out will help your dress fit better? B/c if yes, maybe that is the route to go (reminds me of Lily in HIMYM).
BTW, I agree with PP that it’s unlikely that you’re going to drop much more in the next 11 days, so you’re probably fine if it fits after your final fitting.
Post # 8
I don’t think pigging out will help. It’ll fill out my belly, but that’s not what I need…
I’m going anaerobic on the work outs and heavy on the proteins, I think. I spent the afternoon brainstorming and I hope I’ll be ok. The sad thing is that I like the way I look right now and I feel great about it. Its just that the dress doesn’t match the body.
Ugh, I could kick myself for getting the size 10. What was I thinking! If I had gotten the 8, I could still be burning up the cardio workouts and feeling like a rockstar. I don’t want to be laden down and bloated with ice cream instead 🙁
Post # 9
I wish you could feel happier about the dress. Can it really not be taken in any more at the sides to make the bodice smaller?
Also, you are right in there being no need to make yourself feel heavier by eating ice cream or other junk foods.
It looks like you have a good plan, and I’m sure it will all work out in the end.
Post # 10
Do you have a good bustier bra? If you get one that fits like a glove you can have the dress attached to it so it won’t slip down and you dont need to worry about pulling it up.
Post # 11
This reminds me of the episode of HIMYM where lilly’s wedding dress doesn’t fit and so she pigs out.
It really pisses me off that they always try to get you to buy a size bigger. All 3 times that I was a bridesmaid they tried to get me to buy a bigger dress but my Mom used to be a seamstress and she told them the smaller size would be fine. I was in a similar situation to you with the wedding dress. The size 8 in the store fit PERFECTLY but they said I was a half-inch over in my hips and that I should get a 10. Mom came to the rescue again and told them we’d be buying the 8, especially since the back is lace-up and can give a little. They also tried to get me to buy the longer version of the dress when the shorter version will fit perfectly with some 1-2 inch heels. The girl said that they sometimes come in a little short and I told her I’d wear flats if that happened. Ugh, they are just trying to make more money out of the alterations.
I wish I had some advice for you but I really don’t think you can put on significant weight in 11 days. I’d get it taken in a little more and just hope that you do’nt lose anymore weight. I know thats hard though, I’ve lost 5 lbs in the past 2 weeks and I’m not even trying :-/
Post # 12
Can I just tell you all that my seamstress is amazing!!! She is going to do a very last minute alteration on the bodice so that I have a little more room to work with. I can’t believe that we’re so close to the wire, but her last minute tweek is going to allow me to stress less about this. We’ll do another fitting this Saturday and I’ll pick up the dress right before I head to California. How’s that for service!
If anyone needs a seamstress in Seattle, you should absolutely use Darcy Martin at A Fragile Fit (425) 918-1310. She is totally wonderful, skilled and kind! I’m going to rest so much easier knowing that we’re going to do a very, very last minute change!
Post # 13
Like galandrien, I was going to recommend a bustier for under your dress. I remember once I tried to wear one under a bridesmaid dress I had but I had to go without because the dress wouldn’t zip up. It will definitely help discretely fill some space in your bodice if you need to.
Post # 14
I got a longline bustier and was wearing that for the fitting yesterday. I don’t want to pad out like a line backer and I’m so self-conscious about my "rack" anyway so I don’t want to add too much more… but I wonder if pinning to the bustier will give me a little extra security?!
Post # 15
Thank goodness you have an amazing seamstress!! I think I may end up in the same boat, I tend to lose weight when stressed. However, I could never give up my workouts, they are the only thing that help me relax. Ironic huh? I am sure you will look amazing in your wedding dress!!!
Post # 16
DaisyBride is sooooo right! I had the same thing happen to me! I usually wear a size 6 street clothes and my bridal consultant talked me into getting a size 10 dress because my hips are 1 inch bigger than the size 8 measurements…. Now, suprise, suprise…they had to take in the dress a ton (which also cost a ton) and now I feel like the look of the dress is changed. If they had just ordered the dress in the size I had asked, I wouldn’t have to pay so much for alterations and be worried about how my dress has changed!
Do you have any pictures of you in the dress?