Post # 1
We have decided to have a small, family only ceremony immediately followed by a reception for all of our friends to celebrate with us. We’re doing a Catholic ceremony so I actually feel like I’m being a good person by only inviting the to the reception! haha!
So, I’m having issues deciding what kind of dress to wear!!!! Few details…this is not my (or his) first marriage…but it IS my first wedding. Also…I’m almost 40.
I’ve tried on dresses for the last two days and I’m totally confused. I want to walk down the aisle in a “wedding dress”…but since the bigger event is really the reception, is it silly to have a fancy wedding dress at the reception? I hate to spend $1000 on a dress that only 15 people will see. So, is it ok to wear the fancy dress to the reception? Is it ok given my “few details”? Or, should I buy a more simple gown or even short wedding dress?
Post # 3
You should buy the dress that feels “right” to you. Maybe that means a long, elegant dress in a rich fabric, but fairly simple in its styling (i.e. without a lot of lace, beads, pearls). Maybe that means a lacy white dress, but knee length or tea length rather than floor length. Maybe it’s a floor-length dress, but a narrower sheath skirt rather than something poofy or full. There are a bunch of different directions you could go – your gut feeling will tell you when you find the right dress, suitable for your situation and for what looks and feels good on you.
You could also explore a bunch of alternatives to bridal salons, too, if you don’t want to spend mega bucks on a dress. You can get lovely white dresses (some labelled “wedding dresses,” some not, but any of them could be worn for a more low-key wedding) at J. Crew, Nordstrom, Ann Taylor, White House Black Market, etc. You could check out a Brides Against Breast Cancer gown sale when one comes to your area and get a wedding gown for less money, knowing that the money you do spend goes to a good cause. You could also check out Church Street Bridal in Lynchburg, VA – money spent on a gown bought through them goes to support the YWCA.
Post # 4
@alim1069: I bought a $2000 ivory wedding gown and purchased a separate $600 white reception gown. The thing is, I’d LOVE to live in my dress considering that I spent 2 grand on it, that and its simply breathtakingly gorgeous BUT its completely beaded and I don’t think it would be wise to sit in it. Also, it weighs a ton and its a sunset wedding and evening reception in Hawaii (where I live) so I carefully weighed and considered the details, options etc. and decided to buy a reception gown mostly out of practicality for movement and comfort more than anything else. The reception gown I chose is a floor length chiffon gown to match my bridesmaids dresses fabric but its a non traditional cut (one shoulder) so that it doesnt look too much like a wedding gown and its white so I still stand out! Its up to you what you want to do because it IS your day and your budget but if your dress allows for comfort and movement I’d stay in it, mines just doesnt and I don’t want to be tired, hot/sticky and put out at the end of the night, also I don’t want to ruin it either and KCKnd2 makes a good point, your dress doesnt have to be brand spanking new, neither of mine are! and I don’t feel one bit cheated. I love nice things as much as the next person but I can’t afford to spend a fortune on dresses, though some would say $2000 is exorbitant but its my dream dress and I was originally willing to spend up to $1500 and I convinced myself that I deserved to have exactly what I want and that $500 wasnt too much more, (that was BEFORE I realized I might be more comfortable and mobile in a seperate dress)….always, one darn thing leads to another with fashion but, theres my 2 cents for ya. Hope that helped some!
Post # 5
I think it’d be totally fine for you to wear your wedding dress at the reception as long as you are comfortable. I got married overseas, then had a reception 2 weeks later. I wore my wedding dress for the first 2 hours of the reception, mainly for group photos then changed in a back room of the restaurant into a really comfy dress which I wore the rest of the night