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    Simplicitydal    April 12, 2013   Dallas, TX

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    What do your ladies think about the dress? Honestly I spent almost $4000 now including the expensive dry cleaning cost, but now I want to sell it and buy something else which will cost like $7000. I will look similiar to this, but the lace is slightly different and little brighter white than this. This is bright Ivory white and the one I want is little bit brighter white comparing to this one. I have so much headache with selling it even I am taking a big loss to sell. I am asking for $3000 and if I can sell I will put in another $4000 to buy my dream dress only when it get closer to the wedding because I still more than a year until the wedding at this point. My wedding just got postponed recently that is also another reason why I hesitate to keep this dress.

    I probably will wear an embellish crytal Ivory sash with this dress if I end up keeping it or wear any other dress for that matter. I think it is still a pretty gorgeous dress and it fits perfect, but I feel like I am settling if I end up having to wear this. My FI advises that I shoud keep the dress because he sees how much headache I have to deal with selling a dress, he hasn't fully seen it but had a quick glimpse of it when i tried it on in our bathroom. But he also wants me to wear the dress that will make me happy despite of the fact I will take a big loss to sell.

    We are also building a house and plan a nice wedding of 200 guests so I want to be realistic on budget for the dress/wardrobe department too. Beside this dress, I wil also be wearing a reception dress and an nice after party dress, but I know the white wedding gown is the most important wardrobe for any bride so I want to make sure I make a right decision.

     

     

     
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    bellagio    October 1, 2011   Arizona

    I guess if you have the extra money and you really hate your current dress, get what you love. It may take you a while to sell the old one though (like a year, from what other bees have said). Honestly, your current dress is stunning, and it doesn't sound like the one you're describing is much different, but you're the one who will be wearing it. :)

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    This is a Monique right? I remember your headaches when you first bought the dress used, and then trying to sell it. Now that the dress is cleaned, I think it look faboulous on you, and I especially love the chantilly lace! What is the other dress you're thinking about?

     
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    MrsMcGyro    July 9, 2011   New York

    Your body is rockin in that dress! You could totally jazz it up by adding a sash/belt and a broach at the bustle. What about the dress don't you like?

     
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    Simplicitydal    April 12, 2013   Dallas, TX

     

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    @meliss: This is the dress I want, and it is also Monique, but it is from Fall 2011.

    The preowned one I purchased is also Monique, but from a few seasons ago.

     

     
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    Simplicitydal    April 12, 2013   Dallas, TX

     although the dress is pretty, I hate to be reminded of the shady seller looking at the my wedding photos for years to come and feel like I am settling. Well, if you know anyone is size 0/2 and looking for a dress, I consider selling it if I can find a buyer. I just can't go out and order $7000 dress before I sell this dress.

     
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    lefeymw    April 16, 2011   CT

    The dress you want and the dress you have look almost identical in the pictures anyway. Are you sure its worth the extra money for the second dress?

    Have you tried preownedweddingdress.com? That is supposed to be the most successful site for selling dresses, but it may take a few months.

     
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    Prewitt    June 19, 2011   England

    I think the dress you have is gorgeous and it looks pretty much the same as the one you want.

     
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    blondilocks    June 11, 2011   Atlanta

    Personally, i think it looks exactly the same and you look awesome in it!

     
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    rainbow    January 1, 2011   Tampa

    Holy jesus, I love that dress on you! The dress you have now seriously looks identical to the other one. I say keep it!

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    WHy do want to sell it again?

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I think they look almost identical as well.

    I bought my two dresses from salons I absolutely hated. I got yelled at and treated horribly by the sales manager in one, the other's owner had made rude and inappropriate comments about my body. In the end though, I couldn't care where they came for or if I paid a little too much for them, all I cared about is for the dress to look good. I don't believe in the karma thing either. I would wear a used dress if it was the right dress even if came from a divorced bride or whatever. The dress is just a material object designed to make you look good, nothing else.

    I think looking at your wedding photos the shady seller will be the last thing on your mind, you'll probably only think about how happy you were that day. After the wedding all those wedding planning details become fuzzy and stop mattering.

     
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    Miss Marine    September 3, 2011   Redlands, CA

    I think the dress you have is SO beautiful and flattering on you~ and the dress you want is VERY similar. If it were me, I don't know that I could justify an extra 3-4k for something that is essentially identical!

     
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    SerenaSF    October 15, 2011   San Francisco, Wedding in Mexico

    I think you look amazing in that dress!  The lace is stunning, it fits you perfectly, your body looks great... I love it!  And with your skin tone, the dress looks like a bright white. 

    But as a two dress bride myself, if you don't like it, nothing I or anyone else says is going to change that.  You need to love it.  

    I would go try on the other dresses and see how you feel... you might realize that you actually really love the one you have!  Since you look absolutely amazing in this one, I think you might have a hard time topping it :)

     
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    Simplicitydal    April 12, 2013   Dallas, TX

    Hi Bees,

    Thank you so much, I appreciate all your feedback. Yes, the dress I want is really almost identical to the one I currently have except the one i want is from most current collection and cost $6900 before tax and alteration. My only concern is the dress I have is now cleaned and ready to wear, but the wedding is postponed until late spring 2012, do you think the color of the dress will change if I have to save it for late spring 2012 wedding? Honestly if i was to get married within this year, I probably would keep it to save myself from the headache and save money too. (I didn't know about the change in my wedding plan until after I purchased the dress)

    I am very careful when I handle the dress or tried it on. I make sure to wash my hands prior to handling the dress to avoid any oil from my hand or body to transfer onto the dress since I have to save it for the wedding that is now postponed until little over a year from now. The dress is stored in my closet without any direct sunlight and in acid free breathable garment bag. So my main concern is that i worry that the dress may get discolored if it sits in my closet for a year.  That's the big reason why I would push myself to sell the dress for brides who are getting married in the next several months or in 2011 so they can still wear a nice fresh and clean dress.

     

     
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    Miss Marine    September 3, 2011   Redlands, CA

    @Simplicitydal: I'm sure that as long as you continue to handle it as carefully as you say you have, it should be just fine to wear next spring! It looks great on you!

     
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    SerenaSF    October 15, 2011   San Francisco, Wedding in Mexico

    I think the dress will still be fine by that time, especially if you are taking the precautions you described, but if that is really a big concern for you I would look into preservation.  For a couple hundred dollars you can gaurantee that it will still be white, and put your mind at ease.

     
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    monamiestephanie    July 4, 2011   New York, NY

    WOW! You look STUNNING in that dress! But then again, you would in any dress you wear Smile.  Good luck with the sale! I definitely believe that your happinese comes first, so go for your dream dress!

     

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