Post # 1
Long story short, I was engaged once before, about 4 years ago. Then-FI and I broke up 6 months before the wedding, after I found out he was a lying, cheating loser. Then met my wonderful, amazing BF. We’ll be officially engaged within a few months (just paying off the ring). We are not the richest of people, so our wedding will be very DIY and low budget.
I have a dress from my first engagement that my mom bought for me. She got it from a bridal store somewhere up north that was going out of business and selling their stock on eBay, so she jumped at the chance to get me a dress for a good deal. It’s a pretty dress, but it’s not as formal as I hoped my wedding gown would be. It’s a fitted style with some beading up top, and looks more like a dress for a beach wedding or something informal.
4 years later, I’m contemplating whether I should wear this dress or try to find another more “bridal” (formal) gown on a budget. I feel bad for considering buying another dress when that money can be put to use elsewhere, especially when it’s a dress I’ll wear for one day out of my life. However it’s not the dress I really dreamed of wearing on my wedding day, and it also seems a little weird wearing the dress I planned to marry someone else in.
Here are a couple bad cell phone pics of the dress my mom bought me:
I talked to BF about it and he says he doesn’t really care what I wear as long as I marry him. 🙂
Tell me what you think, bees!
Post # 3
It’s a beautiful dress. If you don’t love it, though, look for another dress. You can always use it as backup in case you don’t find something else.
I don’t think it has any bad mojo from the fact that it was for another wedding, but you should have what you want to have.
Post # 4
I think you should set a budget that is doable without straining your finances, and then shop for something that better fits your idea of what you want within that budget, knowing that you have a back up if you don’t find something else.
What type of dress do you really want? Maybe we can help you find affordable options 🙂
Post # 5
Call me superstitous… but you just can’t wear a dress you were going to marry someone else in. You just can’t!
Post # 6
You could always try selling the dress and then use that money to purchase a gown you really want. you may have to pitch in some extra money, but it would be cheaper than buying a new dress all together.
Post # 7
It would be a gorgeous reception dress if you could find something more dramatic for your ceremony.
Post # 8
It’s gorgeous, but I feel like I would be jinxed because it was bought for another engagement. I guess I would have that in the back of my head the entire time..Haha
Post # 9
First of all, I think that dress is fairly formal. I think it would be way too formal for a beach wedding or casual wedding because of all that beading. So I wouldn’t worry about the formality of the dress. I also don’t think that it’s got bad mojo because it was originally bought for the other wedding, especially since your diance doesn’t care. So what it really comes down to is whether or not you like the dress. If you really don’t like it, then sell it and try to find another one that is reasonably priced that you do like. If you do like it, or could like it with some alterations/additions, then I say keep it and you’ve already got one thing to check off your list!
Post # 10
If that dress really just isn’t in your vision for your wedding, I’m sure there’s a way to make a new one work. Would a few hundred dollars be possible? I feel like that could be squeezed out of your overall wedding budget somehow… try looking at David’s Bridal. They have dresses for $500, but during their sales, you can get quite a lot of different ones for $100 or $200 (actually, at least in CA, they have one of their big sales on right now). Maybe you could even sell the dress you have to get some money towards a new one
Post # 11
@Tangled: Agreed. I don’t think I’d ever wear a dress that was purchased for another wedding.
OP – You can definitely find some moderately-priced dresses! Try David’s Bridal and look at places that sell Mori Lee and/or Venus–their prices are on the lower end!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t care if Vera Wang herself flew to my hometown, and slept on my couch for a week while she hand-sewed a dress for me… there’s no way I’d wear a dress intended for a former FI who lied and cheated on me.
The best money you’ll spend on your wedding will be to get yourself a new dress. Sell that one dear.
Post # 14
Thank you everyone! I’m interested in finding something that has a fuller skirt (I have a larger backside, lol) something more like a ball gown, with the same type of beading on the bodice. However I know that the more material involved in making a dress, the more expensive it’s going to be. My mom looked at the seams in this dress and said it doesn’t look like anything about the overall silhouette could really be changed.
This is pretty much my dream dress, but there’s NO way I could ever afford it:
Post # 16
I think I will end up selling the old dress and putting the money toward another one. Any suggestions on how to sell it? eBay? Weddingbee classifieds? I’m not sure where I would have the best chance of selling it.