Post # 1
How much input did you FI have in your dress selection? While I don’t want him to come with me to choose the dress, I have been trying to get his preferences and he’s telling me nothing! I show him pictures and I’d say for 95% of them, he just says “Yep, that’s pretty.” I’m going shopping today and I told him last night that it might be his last chance to let me know what he would like to see me in and he just told me that I’d be beautiful in whatever I chose. While I appreciate the sentiment, it would be nice to know what he’s thinking!
Post # 3
He probably just isn’t that interested. All the dresses probably look the same to him. I think you should just pick a dress that you love and I bet he’ll love the way you look in it! For guys I think it’s more about seeing their bride than seeing a dress.
Post # 4
Dont worry about it. It took me a long time of describing an element of a dress and then showing him and example and that still didnt really help. Basicaly in the end I believe if you love and you think you look great he will love it as well. Its a reflection of you the dress you pick and guess what he loves you in everyway already.
Post # 5
@DeathByDesign: On the nose!
All i could get out of my fiance was that he didn’t like “poofy” dresses. Then I was watching SYTTD and there was a HUGE Pnina Tornei dress featured and he was like “that’s a super nice dress!” I asked him why he liked it, cause I thought he wasn’t into poofy bottomed dresses.. it turns out he doesn’t like tulle bottom dresses..
So yeah, guys just really dont know what they’re talking about most of the time when it comes to dresses 😉
Post # 6
Lol you’re probably right and he doesn’t know what he’s talking about. The only thing I’ve gotten out of him is that SOME dresses with one strap look weird. Very helpful lol
I did ask him point blank if he minded if I wore strapless around his ultra-conservative mother. He laughed and said it wasn’t a big deal. THAT actually was very helpful.
Post # 7
@DeathByDesign: I argree. I don’t think men would even know that sweetheart is a neckline and mermaid is a style.
Whatever you choose to wear I’m sure he will love!
Post # 8
DH wasn’t that interested but he was able to point out some things that he didn’t like–ruffles, heavy lace, anything too ornate. I let that guide me but not dictate my decision.
Maybe show him some real-bride bee pictures. He might be able to relate to those easier than model pictures.
If your FI doesn’t care, then I wouldn’t worry about it. Good luck!
Post # 9
You could be mean like me and tell him every other ‘ugly’ dress that you would never wear is your dress… 😉
Post # 10
What my FI and I did was that we went to a bridal salon, just us two, and I tried some on. I probably tried on about 30 for him that day and time and time again he kept going back to sweatheart necklines (and no, he had NO idea what that meant but he was able to point it out and say it looked the best on me) and he really liked ballgowns.
I didn’t end up getting any of the dresses I had tried on for him, but it was nice to see what he liked on me because he was right there. We had a lot of fun and unfortuinately, he also really loved pick-ups, which I did not like and he keeps asking me of I remember that he liekd them haha!
But I think most men have a hard time looking at a picture and envisioning you in the dress, so take him shopping! 🙂
Post # 11
FI had no imput, he didnt want to give any, I think all that matters to him is seeing me in a wedding dress on our wedding day!!! Just pick the dress you LOVE, take your girls with you, DO NOT TAKE YOUR FI DRESS SHOPPING!!!! HE will love what ever you pick! The first time he sees you in a wedding dress should be on your wedding day, I think it makes more special, or else its like every other dress
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If you wouldn’t normally get opinions on your clothes from him, this probably isn’t the best dress to start with! 🙂 He also could be concerned about not liking something that you have your heart set on- he’ll love whatever you pick.
Post # 13
Keep in mind that guys also don’t visualize like we do, so showing him pictures, or showing a dress on a hanger, or even on you in a cell phone pic without you actually looking like you will on your wedding day all translate into….nothing really in his head.
I bought two dresses and am selling one – when I was looking for pictures of the one I’m selling FI saw one and said “omg that’s gross” – he didn’t know why I was looking at the pic, but I know for a fact he has seen me in VERY similar dresses and practically needed a napkin to wipe up drool.
Don’t ask him – you will be frustrated that it ‘appears’ he doesn’t want to participate, and you are putting unneeded expecations on him for no real purpose but that WILL lead to you being a bit annoyed at a percieved lack of caring. I am still learning this lesson about lots of things with him on a regular basis and then still have to relearn it but it is an important one!!!
Take what you did get and go shop your heart out girl!!!
Post # 14
I really wanted his input; and I know he’s opinionated when it comes to fashion (particularly women’s fashion).
So we watched a LOT of SYTTD in the month before I went dress shopping. Looking at magazines didn’t help, nor talking it over…but SYTD certainly brought out his attention & opinions (even if I did have to bribe him a little to have him watch it with me)
Post # 15
I wanted my FI’s input, because he’s actually got good taste in clothing and has a good idea of what is flattering for my figure. I think most guys could care less about it and will love whatever you choose.
Post # 16
FI actually came shopping with me and had a definite favorite dress. I continued to look without him after I found my silhouette and found one that I liked better that is different than the one he liked. I feel ok about it because I can literally show him a picture one day and he doesn’t like it and the next day show him the same picture and he does like it, so I don’t think he really knows what he likes. haha.