- 2 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
Before you say “you shouldn’t tell adults what to wear ever,” know that I completely agree with you and have tried, over and over, to avoid telling them what to wear.
I have more than a few guests who refuse to leave me alone about what they should wear to my wedding. I have told them countless times to wear what they are comfortable in (and hoping inside that they don’t wear jeans and a t-shirt, luckily the venue doesn’t allow denim, flip-flops, or swimsuit coverups, which I put on our wedding website). I’ve even told them what my mother and sister are wearing and what FI is wearing (we aren’t having a bridal party).
Our wedding will be in the Bahamas. FI is wearing a tan 3-piece linen suit with an ivory shirt and tan/blue striped tie. My sister is wearing a blue floor-length dress and my mom is wearing a long teal dress for the ceremony (long story, wedding was originally in Boston so she bought a dress and our venue cancelled on us so we now moved it to the Bahamas, she is wearing a different dress for the reception) and a short blue and silver cocktail dress for the reception.
My grandmother suggested we tell people “island cocktail” (which we also put in the FAQ section of our wedding website) but that seems to confuse more people than help. What should I tell people? Should I expand on the website? I feel uncomfortable insisting people wear certain things but with the number of people asking me what to wear I need to do something and invitations haven’t even gone out yet (there is no mention of what to wear on the invitations, this will only be word-of-mouth/possibly on website?) so I’m assuming the number of people asking what to wear will only increase once that happens.
I don’t necessarily want men in dark suits (since FI is in a tan linen suit) but I don’t want people dressing like they’re going to the beach or just got out of the pool either (unfortunately I have a few guests who might try, one already asked if they can wear a swimsuit coverup dress over their swimsuit, ugh, luckily like I said before the venue doesn’t allow that, crisis averted), our wedding won’t be in the sand at all if that matters.