Post # 1
I went into wedding planning thinking that I didn’t need to set a huge part of my budget aside for a dress. Started out thinking around $1000. Then I started looking around and decided to bump it up to $2000 (which we can afford and is still in the overall budget). THEN, I saw the Vera Wang Gemma. I am in love, compare every dress to it, have looked at everything I can find similar and can’t make myself choose something else. I’ve looked for it second hand but it is usually still around $4000. I found it for $3000 today, and I’m trying to talk myself out of buying it. I have the money, but not really to spend on a dress. I am trying to rationalize it that I could probably sell it after the wedding, but well this dress still be so popular by then (August 2013)? Someone talk me out of it!
Post # 3
How much is your overall budget? What will you have to sacrifice to get the dress? (You’ll have to sacrifice something – either cutting back somewhere else, raising your overall budget/putting in more money from savings or work, whatever.)
If that tradeoff is worth it to you (ie: I would be willing to have smaller centerpieces to afford this dress; or I would be willing to put $200 more per month in wedding savings), then do it! It sounds like you have sat on it, researched around, and can’t get it out of your head.
Post # 4
Oh, and have you investigated a replica from Jasmine’s Bridal?
Post # 5
@magicmoments: have you actually tried the dress on? I mean it’s one thing to love it on a mannequin/model it’s another to put it on for yourself
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I agree with PP. If you feel you could sacrifice other areas of your wedding to help pay for the dress than by all means go for it. Or if you could buy a similar dress and alter it in ways to make it more like the Vera dress that may be the option too.
Post # 7
@annasaf83: Yes I tried it on! I probably shouldn’t have, I was kind of hoping that I would go try it on and not like it on me as much but I did!
@NAvery: I did look at Jasmine’s, their replica is gorgeous but I’m just not sure about getting a replica. For ethical reasons and I am worried about the fabric looking cheap. It doesn’t in pictures but I just haven’t convinced myself to go for that yet either.
The trade off would basically be less cushion in our savings account. Which is why this is so hard, I am usually so practical about things and if we don’t have the money, we don’t and I get over it. But we could make it work, I just don’t know if I should. Maybe I need to look at trying to find the room in what is already our wedding budget so I wouldn’t have to cut into our savings. I just don’t know at this point where I could do that besides cutting the guest list, and I don’t really want to do that for a dress. I can’t believe I am being like this, usually I do not have crazy expensive taste like this!
Post # 8
Wow, I could easily get over it if that’s the second hand price! No way that’s too much!
Post # 9
I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but I would buy it. I’m the worst when it comes to talking people out of not buying their dream dress, I spent more than $1000 over my budget on my dress.
My thought is, its the most important dress you will ever wear and you will remember it for the rest of your life. If can can afford to cut other areas of the budget then its absolutely worth it! You can always try selling it after the wedding!
Post # 10
If you will regret not doing it, you should do it. Yah it’s just a dress you wear once, but if it is THE one then you won’t be happy with anything else. And then you might get dress regret and waste money getting multiple dresses or even buying the Gemma at a higher price. Sounds like the $3000 is a good deal, so I’d go for it personally.
Post # 11
Go for it. I’m pretty sure that you would be able to sell it easily since it is a Vera Wang and also because you will be getting it at such a great deal. Just be sure the deal is legitimate! I always want people have their dream dresses. Please get it!
Post # 12
Just buy it!! Its your big day! as long as its not putting you into debt I say go for it! Im sure once youv got it you wont regret it 🙂
Post # 13
Ahhh the divided opinions! I think I will think about it for at least a day, and hope I don’t miss it.
Post # 14
@magicmoments: If possible, ask the seller privately if she could reserve the dress for you for a few days or longer while you think about it.
Post # 15
I also have fallen madly in love with a Vera Wang. And I personally can’t imagine dropping 3 grand on a dress (let alone the 8 my love costs). If you’ve allocated it for other parts of your budget save heartache and don’t buy it. If you think you can swing it without sacraficing the quality of your wedding vision/guest comfort than totally do it. It’s your one wedding dress ever and you obviously love the dress.
I have the same issue with copycat sites. I’m just 90% sure I’m violating some dress law and pretty sure violating human labor/right laws.