Post # 1
I see alot of posts regarding “what do you think?” of my dress. I usually visit them to see what the dress looks like. However, I can’t help but notice that sometimes the dresses look awful on the person (in my opinion) and I feel like I cannot properly express that in my humble opinion, that you asked for, I do not think that dress looks good and I think you need to keep looking.
I fear being moderated or labelled as a bully for simply saying, like I would to any girlfriend I was shopping with, that the dress does not look good in my opinion.
And other bees feel the same?????
Post # 3
Peolpe have different taste, if i am looking at someone dress and in my opinion it doesn’t look good on her, i just don’t leave a comment.
In most case they have two to three dresses, if none looks good you just say keep looking.
Do you really want to tell someone who is on a tight budget, dress already purchase and delivered, wedding just weeks/days away, and is crazy about her dress that it doesn’t look good on her.
Post # 4
I think it depends on the situation. If the dress has not yet been purchased or the poster is not sure about their dress and asking for opinions, then I think honesty is best.
If someone is posting a “look at my wedding dress, I love it. Don’t you love it?” type post then I think you don’t post brutal honesty there.
Post # 5
You can be honest be in a tactful way. If the dress pictures are of one or two silohuettes but you think they are not flattering, you can say “Of these I chose # but I think this style would be amazing too” if they haven’t bought one yet. If they have purchased the dress already and you don’t care for it, just be curtious but don’t lie and say “If you love the dress, that is all that matters.”
Post # 6
When I first joined WB, I felt like that sometimes. After spending a few months now, I can almost always find something I like about a bride’s dress- a bow, lace detail, something. Maybe hang around for a while longer…you’ll find that there are so many different tastes and styles out there and, while they might not be your preference, they are pretty in their own way.
Post # 7
Very rarely does someone have a dress that I truly don’t like. Sometimes I’m not crazy about every element of the dress, but what really matters it what the bride thinks. If you can tell in the picture that she is just glowing & so happy with the dress, even if it’s totally not my style at all, it looks beautiful on her. If someone is really unsure about their choice & hasn’t purchased it yet, I don’t mind stating that they should keep looking & see if they find something they like better.
Post # 8
I agree with PPs. If the dress is purchased already, I’ll either leave the thread without commenting or I’ll find something positive to say.
If the thread is more about “I’m considering these dresses…” I’ll give my honest opinion about which dress I think is the better choice and why.
I guess it really just depends on what the OP is actually asking for…..validation or advice.
Post # 9
If I really don’t like the dress and it’s been purchased, but have nothing nice to say, I usually just click out of the thread. If it’s a dress in consideration, I offer my honest opinion, which can easily be ignored.
Post # 10
If I have nothing nice to say, I don’t say anything… but sometimes I don’t like their choices at all! On the one hand, I wouldn’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings, but on the other hand then if I posted a few pics of my choices, I would really appreciate brutal honesty.
Quite a dilemma…
Post # 11
Hmm…I agree that if you don’t have something nice to say, to not say something. BUT, if the dress hasn’t been purchased and it looks truly terrible on them..shouldn’t somene say something? I mean, say it being tactful and polite, but I’d want someone to tell me if I looked awful. I see this all the time and tons of bee’s are like, “OMG you look amazing!!” and no…they don’t.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I have this problem a lot. When a dress has already been purchased, I just move along or give alteration-type tips, but when someone is still looking for advice (on dresses or anything), it’s really upsetting when you give advice or your comments politely and people still get on your case for not supporting the OP. I’ll look at the polls, and like 40% of the people have said something like “keep looking” and I’m one of the only people to say something along those lines, yet people will respond with comments about how they can’t believe people would criticize the way a bride-to-be looks in the dresses she likes. Isn’t that why the girl posted?! I’m not saying it’s okay to bash, but I’m careful to make innocent, polite comments like, “I personally don’t think those dresses are doing anything for your lovely figure, though I like the top on the first one. Keep looking!”
Post # 13
It’s difficult – a lot of times I see over the top dresses that have too much going on. Not my style at all – but does that mean it doesn’t look good?
I have no idea.
So I don’t comment on dresses unless I love them. (if they are already purchased)
If someone wants an opinion between a few and they haven’t bought one I’ll give my honest opinion.
Post # 14
@mrsSonthebeach: I’m with you — if it’s not yet purchased and you don’t think it’s working, it’s okay to say something as long as you blame the DRESS, not the BRIDE. As in, “the dress has too much going on and it’s taking away from how pretty your face is!” or, as you said, “it’s doing nothing for your beautiful figure!”
And then don’t come back to the thread and defend your opinion — just state it once and move on!
Post # 15
I only give my honest opinion if there is a poll. Then its anonymous. I think when a bride says, “give me your honest opinion!” But doesn’t include a poll, then she doesn’t really want an honest opinion. She wants compliments.
Post # 16
@missjewels: I agree. It’s tough to give honest advice so I usually avoid giving advice if I don’t have anything nice to say. Dresses isn’t the hardest post for me; it is the makeup posts. I’ve seen some pics where the girl looks like she is going clubbing not a wedding.