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You should call the venue for their opinion. Otherwise go with your gut and the sale and buy that dress.
thanks sciz!!
i suppose it should also be noted that i am getting married on a thursday during the day so there's no real reason to think i'll lose it...
@tali: thanks so much!! i am getting an awesome deal on the venue and i mean 75 is 75, you know?
You can find another version of the dress, but it'll be hard to find another venue! That's my rationale, at least. :)
@sciz: really? i think it'll be easier to find another venue and not the dress. shrugs shoulders.. but you're right i'm sure i could order it from a discount retailer for a similar price to what it is now. we will still have to visit the venue etc, i hvae never been there in person, we were planning a visit next week sometime.
Is the dress you're ordering a sample? Well, not ordering, but the one you'd be buying? That changes things. :p
I would put the deposit on the gown first. I think when you find "the dress" and it is at a good price, you should get that done first. You can always find another venue, if it comes down to it, but you should be fine on that, since your wedding is going to be off season and on a Thursday.
I say dress! I bought my dress before putting the deposit on the venue.
@sciz: the one i put on was a sample and the perfect fit. i am afraid to order one because that one was such a great fit, i'm thinking maybe it was slightly stretched or something because it was a sample, i'm not sure.... and it's definitely not a discount for ordering that one, it's the same price but i'm sure alterations will be different and my measurements are putting me in like a size 18 or 20 when the one that i tried on was a 14.. wth?!
i just added a poll as well. I cannot think of anything more than that dress in that venue, it's sooo OCD. I love it and most people love it (i think my mom is bleh on it but she's putting on a happy face lol).
The venue is the first thing you need to secure. You can't really do anything else until you get that taken care of.
I vote dress. If you feel like you can get another venue and are happier about doing that than getting another dress (which is what it sounds like to me) then bite the bullet and do it. A Thursday wedding in Dec... I'd be really surprised if your venue did book that date by Feb but if by any chance it did would you rather have the wedding somewhere else but in the dress of your dreams or the wedding at the venue of your dreams but (possibly) in another dress? That's kind of how you have to look at it. And that dress is just too beautiful on you to pass it up!
(I hasten to add that I booked my venue first, but only cause I was scared to death of dress shopping and held it off until I had the money to do it).
We did venue within a week of getting engaged and I just ordered my dress yesterday (6 months later). We had a pretty specific timeframe when we wanted to get married and wanted to make sure we found a place we loved. I always knew I could find a dress I adored (though to be fair, I didn't expect it to take as long as it did...)
I say venue (although I voted "poll" hehe, I think you were subconsciously giving your own opinion in writing that poll ;P), ONLY because I've seen so many dress regret posts, and you have a LOT of time to get your dress yet. Like, almost a year. I can't help but wonder whether you'll find ANOTHER fabulous dress that you'll love just as much - but I don't expect that to happen for your venue.
Also, didn't you already block hotel rooms near your venue? It'd be a real shame to block hotel rooms and then accidently lose the venue.
Dress! I guess youre "supposed" to have your venue before your dress, but I did it backwards and it ended up working out beautifully!
In your particular situation I might get the dress first. I booked my venue first, but I wanted a downtown venue, with a view, on a saturday, in the popular month of May so I booked that last March. I didn't order my dress until October.
Totally venue first. We booked our venue in March of last year, almost 16 months ahead. And I just bought my dress in August, 10 months ahead. I'm with the other girls - venues can be hard to come by. Some can only have one or two events a weekend. That's slim pickins sister.
And don't let the sales people pressure you into buying the sample! I almost did that myself despite the need for the dress to be let out a little, and cleaned, and maybe change the neckline... the sales person wanted to tell me all those things. But I talked with a family friend who is a seamstress before making a decision and she was like "Don't ever buy a sample!" it's much easier to make changes for the right dress. I'm really glad I bought a new gown, because it's mine and no one else has ever worn it before.
Definately book your venue first! The feel and atmosphere of your venue will guide the rest of your plan. It will also help you determine what kind of dress you want.
I am getting married outdoors, so I am glad that I chose a lace dress to complement that environment. If I were getting married at a swanky location in downtown Cleveland I would have probably chosen something a bit more formal.
Good luck!
I say venue, but I guess it depends on what you feel is more important to you. If you couldn’t get that venue, would you be very upset? Would it upset other plans (catering, hotels for guests, theme, etc)? If you don’t get the dress now, you can still get it later, right? (Although it will be more $$).
For me personally, I felt like I couldn’t really move ahead with my planning until I got my venue – deposit down and contract signed. Once I did that, I felt a LOT more relaxed, and able to plan, as I knew what space and lighting/decorations/things we were working with. I wasn’t too concerned about the dress, but I could understand how it would be different for others.
It sounds like to you, the dress is more important, which is okay :) With your month/date of the week, the dress sounds like it should come first.
Go with the dress! Especially if you think you could easily find another venue if you lost it.
Venue! And while you're at it, time of year too! I always pictured myself in a satin dress, but if I get married in the Summer I might go for an airy lace dress.
practical, practical, practical - get your venue down first. You don't want to plan a wedding and have no place to get married!
Venue... unless you are purchasing the sample dress. Venue seems more important, since you can always order the dress, if the sample is gone. You have a pretty popular day for weddings and although it's a week day, it may be gone if you don't secure that venue now.
I actually voted dress :D btw, venue isn't as important to me. No one pressured me into getting the sample I WANT the sample lol!!! It's not that big of a deal to me for someone else to have put on the dress, I am not sentimental about stuff like that at all.
As far as venue is concerned, the manager there said they had zero bookings in December last year. I suppose I am fairly flexible on my day since my sister's boss may not let her off of work. It could definitely be moved up a week or two to accommodate that. I am in a holding pattern until I find out. I know that she has pencilled me in and is having an open house February 21st, but the deposit will be paid before the open house so I am not too worried. I will try on the dress again tomorrow to make sure I can move around in it (although I had it on three different times prancing around like I was a princess or movie star lol!!!!
eta @ gabrielle: For me personally, I felt like I couldn’t really move ahead with my planning until I got my venue – deposit down and contract signed. Once I did that, I felt a LOT more relaxed, and able to plan, as I knew what space and lighting/decorations/things we were working with. I wasn’t too concerned about the dress, but I could understand how it would be different for others. That's exactly how I feel, sort of. LOL the dress concerned me the most, not the least oddly enough, everything else was like oh I'm sure I can find a bed and breakfast, etc. Even most of the places where I am blocking rooms would let me marry there and they are all equally stunning (a 200 acre golf course and a plantation although a plantation is my last choice definitely not the first one.) But this is my business as well and I am totally irritational in thinking about this the way that I am.
So I just spoke with the venue and mom. She wants to go dress shopping at the end of the month when I go home, so I guess no to the dress lol!!! I will shop for others with her although I won't find one I like better than "my dress". Oh well hopefully I can find a store close by home that has it, but i'm sure the price will be different whatever lol!!
i say the venue because although i love your dress - its a womans prerogative (sp?) to change her mind and as you have 12 months until your wedding, i say lock in the venue before the dress
I would generally say get the venue first, then the dress, but since you're getting married on a thursday in the "off" season, I think you'd be safe getting the dress first.
Oh, and bridal sizing is insane! I know we've talked about this before, but I'm a size 14, and I had to order a size 22 dress. I fit perfectly into the size 20 sample, but I'm sure it was stretched out.
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I am in a bit of a conundrum, at the end of the week I will get a bit of money in and can either pay the deposit for the dress or the deposit for the venue. Which would you do first? A possible con is if I don't pay the deposit of the dress by the 31st, it will be $75.00 more until the next sale of course lol!!
The venue had absolutely no bookings last December (it's off season in the winter). I should be able to book the venue by mid February or vice versa for the dress. What do you all think?