Post # 1
I’m a bridesmaid in my BF’s wedding next year. She tried on BM dresses and her SO sent me a pic of one. I asked if I could get straps on mine and SO said “I think A is specifically looking at strapless dresses…”
Certainly it’s their wedding, but shouldon’t I be comfortable? We all know the average strapless dress doesn’t stay up? What if I was not a dress wearing type even, or my religion “required” covered shoulders… Ugh, I am annoyed.
I do hope that my BF and I can talk it through and find a common ground.
Post # 3
Actually, most strapless dresses I own stay up without a problem! I’m not a large chested woman so I can only speak for myself but I’ve only ever had a problem with one strapless dress and that’s because it was a) slightly too big and b) had no boning whatsoever. As soon as a dress has boning, it’s like it’s superglued on in my experience.
So if that’s your only worry, maybe insist on a dress with boning?
Post # 4
If a strapless dress doesn’t stay up, it’s not fitted properly.
Post # 5
It’s herwedding, if you don’t like the dress maybe you should drop out of being a bridesmaid.
Post # 6
You only spoke to her fiancée, so there’s a chance she’ll be just fine with straps.
If she doesn’t want straps and this is no more than a comfort issue, I suggest just not wearing straps. If you think your breasts are at serious risk of coming out, then go ahead and press the issue, but I would drop it otherwise. I say this simply because I find it unreasonable when bridesmaids want to change a bride’s reasonable choice for their attire for small, inconsequential reasons.
Besides, there are ways to keep a dress up that don’t involve straps. Maybe one of those will work.
Post # 7
That’s a hard one. yes, it’s her wedding and I tend to think people should do as the bride wants. However, a good friend would take into account your wishes as well.
Post # 8
@vegasgrrl: Coming from another lady who hates strapless dresses (I had straps added to my strapless wedding dress!) I understand. It’s a comfort thing. I know they are supposed to stay up, but I’d rather not even have to worry about it.
Ask your friend directly, not through a sweet, overly-supportive SO.
If your friend says no, though, just go with it. It’s just one day and (if it’s fitted right) you should be ok. Just grit your teeth and support her.