Dress problem…

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Actually, most strapless dresses I own stay up without a problem! I’m not a large chested woman so I can only speak for myself but I’ve only ever had a problem with one strapless dress and that’s because it was a) slightly too big and b) had no boning whatsoever. As soon as a dress has boning, it’s like it’s superglued on in my experience. 

So if that’s your only worry, maybe insist on a dress with boning?  


Post # 4
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If a strapless dress doesn’t stay up, it’s not fitted properly. 

Post # 5
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s herwedding, if you don’t like the dress maybe you should drop out of being a bridesmaid.

Post # 6
1716 posts
Bumble bee

You only spoke to her fiancée, so there’s a chance she’ll be just fine with straps.

If she doesn’t want straps and this is no more than a comfort issue, I suggest just not wearing straps. If you think your breasts are at serious risk of coming out, then go ahead and press the issue, but I would drop it otherwise. I say this simply because I find it unreasonable when bridesmaids want to change a bride’s reasonable choice for their attire for small, inconsequential reasons. 

Besides, there are ways to keep a dress up that don’t involve straps. Maybe one of those will work. 

Post # 7
873 posts
Busy bee

That’s a hard one. yes, it’s her wedding and I tend to think people should do as the bride wants. However, a good friend would take into account your wishes as well.

Post # 8
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@vegasgrrl:  Coming from another lady who hates strapless dresses (I had straps added to my strapless wedding dress!) I understand. It’s a comfort thing. I know they are supposed to stay up, but I’d rather not even have to worry about it.

Ask your friend directly, not through a sweet, overly-supportive SO.

If your friend says no, though, just go with it. It’s just one day and (if it’s fitted right) you should be ok. Just grit your teeth and support her.

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