Post # 1
Ok Bees I am in BIG trouble here… I have bought my dress and I am completely in LOVE with it…. it is AA eight zero one…. so all lace sweetheard neckline and a-line skirt…. the problem is this: My Fiance and I were walking past a Bridl shop with two dresses in the window… one lace (although not as good quality as mine) that was almost identical to mine but had straps and slight differences, and the other was a very traditional dress with satin and lots of beading and a bif skirt… very “Bride” I said to my Fiance ” wow that dress is stunning” and he agreed thinking I meant the satin one but when I said no I mean the lace his response was… “oh no I hate lace dresses, they are awful”…. the first thing that ran through my mind was oh S**T!!!!…. what am I going to do bees? I have found my dream dress and I feel amazing in it but isnt the whole point that he also thinks I look amazing??? What will I do?? He has never once before expressed any dislike for lace when we have spoken about wedding related things…. I don’t want to give up my beauty but the funny thing is that the dress he really liked is the exact style I had been trying on after having a bridal consultant tell me I “couldn’t pull off the fitted a-line with my figure” (I am very hour glass shaped…..)… HELP!!!!!
Post # 3
There is a HUGE difference between what’s in a store window, on a model, in a pic in a magazine and a happy blissful bride. Take my word for it, he will think you are gorgeous on your wedding day and he will not be focusing on your dress RELAX!
Post # 4
Guys are weird… they THINK they know what they do and don’t like in wedding dresses. Most of them are traditional so when they picture their woman in a dress, they picture a taffeta princess dress.
I found out my Fiance doesn’t like lace when we were discussing table cloths. He said he hates lace too but I didn’t deter me from sticking with my modern lace dress.
Like KT808 says He is going to think you look gorgeous no matter what!
Post # 5
Keep your dress! You feel beautiful in it… You’ll look beautiful in it… Your Fiance will think you look beautiful in it… And he probably won’t even remember his comment about lace dresses, if he’s a typical man haha 🙂
Post # 6
Keep your dress. I’m sure he won’t even remember. What matters the most is that you look great in it, and you said it’s perfect for you!
Post # 7
I’ve said it before, and I think I read it on the bee somewhere. On your wedding day, your groom will see you, his soon-to-be wife, love of his life, and best friend, in a dress. A pretty white dress. Nothing more will register about the dress. If you think you look great in it, he will too. Pick what you like!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry about it…..How many times have you tried on a dress that you thought you would love and it turns out you hated it?How many times have you tried on something that you didn’t really care for and it looked great on you? He will love you in whatever you have on.The most important thing is that YOU feel beautiful in your dress!
Post # 9
@Ej88: i am obsessed with lace & i’m glad Fiance thinks its pretty too. however, i also love big ball gowns or gowns with a huge petticoats under it.. & that’s the ONE THING Fiance made sure i didn’t do.
with that being said, i still went with a big poof. lol. i have ALWAYS wanted a poofy dress. so if lace is what you want, & you FEEL good & LOOK good in it, i say go for it & surprise him. i bet he’ll love it anyways.
but if you feel too paranoid that he won’t like it, maybe you should look at other options.
he loves you & thinks you’re beautiful. he saw the dress on a mannequin, not you! 🙂
Post # 10
They way I look at it is he is going to see you NOT THE DRESS! He fell in love with you not what you were wearing!
I work a new shirt today (HOT PINK and i dont own anything else like it) and I asked Fi if he noticed anything new and he said “UHHH did you do something with your hair?” lol!
If you love your dress keep it. He will notice your confidence and the glow you have by wearing the dress you really love!
Dont settle for a dress you dont love because you dont want to regret it!
Post # 11
Dont worry, it will look completely different on you!!! It is your dress, pick what you love. Guys are usually clueless when it comes to fashion, yet alone dresses haha. He will see you and how beautiful you look in that dress the furthest thing from his mind will be “I didnt like lace”. Dont worry!!
Post # 12
What everyone else said! Keep your dream dress!
Post # 13
If you had not already purchased your dress, I would say that you should allow your FI’s comments to help sway you in a different direction. However, because he has known that you’ve been planning your wedding and probably that you also have already purchased your dress, and he has never said anything about this before, I really would encourage you to not worry about this.
The one thing that your Fiance was doing with the dresses in that window — comparing two wedding gowns side by side — is something that he cannot possibly do on your wedding day. Although he may have had a strong preference for one style vs. another when they were right next to each other, he is not going to be remembering what he saw that day when he sees you, his beautiful bride, on the day of your wedding. Also, he has not ever seen YOU in another gown, so he will have nothing to compare to the way that you look on your wedding day.
I believe that PPs are very right when they said that your Fiance will think you look amazing in your dress! 🙂
Post # 14
I’m in the same boat! I got an all lace gown that I love! My Fi thinks anything lace looks like his grandmother’s tablecloths. I think I look great in my dress, so he’ll have to look past the lace. Maybe I’ll get a pushup bra to distrct him! lol
Post # 15
Don’t worry about it. Men know nothing about dresses. When they imagine a dress they just imagine a traditional one like they’ve seen before in family photos. They don’t realise how many options there are for ladies now!
Honestly, he’ll think you look lovely no matter what!
Post # 16
I agree with the above posters completely who have said that it will all be different on your wedding day. A man seeing a dress in a store window, not really understanding elements of fit and body type and all of the extras that go into it (undergarments, accessories, shoes, makeup/hair, veil..), will have opinions that won’t be there on the wedding day. I agree that if you hadn’t already purchased the dress, then fine, take what he said. But on the day of the wedding he’ll be focusing on YOUR beauty, not that of the dress.