Post # 1
As some of you remember, I’m a three-dress bride…I’m ashamed to admit it, but it’s so true. I got out of control with the idea of looking perfect for Mr. Hubby-to-be and I went crazy! Here’s my dilemma: I clearly didn’t think this through because now it’s time to put the rest of the money down on the other two dress that I don’t want and I can’t afford it! Again, shameful! I put down about 20% on each of the two dresses. When I started thinking about it, I realized it would be cheaper for me to just eat the money that I put down as a deposit rather than pay the balance and try to sell the dresses…NOW, the question is: first of all, does this go against the “dress contract” to just tell the bridal shop “Thanks, but no thanks,” and secondly, is this just plain awful to do to the dress shops and leave them high and dry with a dress that I ordered? Please don’t think I’m a horrible person…I’m just looking for the best way to back-track my bad decision-making. I want to get your honest opinions, so please let me know what you think. Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
Do you have copies of your contracts for the two dresses?
Honestly? It does put the bridal shops in a tough position because they usually have to buy the dresses from the designer/manufacturer and so they will be stuck with the costs of the dresses.
The best advice I can give you is to read the contracts and fully understand the stores policies before making a decision. It really might end up cheaper to buy them and then resell them.
Post # 4
they’re probably able to charge you for them if you leave them there. check the contract and do the right thing. at the very least, call them up and see what option you have. you kinda put yourself into this mess =
Post # 5
You can call them and cancel the order, they will tell you you are out of the deposit, but that is all you should be responsible for. Do not just ignore the store though, they could end up charging you for the whole dress if you used a credit card to put down payment.
Post # 6
I’d check what you signed. My purchase was an “all sales final” type of thing, but I paid the full amount. Not sure about deposit only.
Post # 7
it also depends on if they have started making your dress or not. since its getting pretty close to your wedding, most likely your dresses have already gone into production and you will end up having to pay in full. even girls who end up cancelling their weddings usually end up having to take the dress. if they haven’t started to make them, you may be able to only lose your deposit. you need to call them ASAP – like right now. and even if you do and they haven’t started making your dress, your contract may still obligate you to pay in full.
Post # 8
They will most likely hold you responsible for the rest of the balance if it was a custom order and not a store sample. I tried to cancel an order once and was told this is what was stated in my signed contract (and when I read it carefully, it was). I second reviewing the contract and then talking to the store to see what your options are.
Now that I think about it, that even happened to me with a hair/makeup contract. I changed my mind but the first vendor I cancelled with made me pay the full balance for “lost business” even though they didn’t have to pay a dime on me. I was so mad…
Post # 9
Kinda weird that you failed to do this the mintue you bought the last “the one” dress.
Post # 10
Thank you all for your responses! Sorry I’ve been MIA from this post, but I called both dress salons and left messages, but have yet to hear back…hmmm, I guess I will call again. We’ve been in the process of painting/moving furniture and I can’t find my contracts (plus, I super hid them so FI wouldn’t see anything about my dress per his request). I’m going to tear the house apart to find them!
Of course, I’m really hoping for the best, but I know that I got myself into this mess and I need to pay up if that’s the case.
Meliss, sorry that happened to you with hair/makeup contract as well! I guess we both learned lessons the hard way during the wedding planning process…seriously, I am normally organized, put-together, extremely decisive…but when it came to this wedding, I became a total lunatic! lol
Vmec, I know it sounds strange, but I initially thought I would be a two-dress bride: one for the ceremony and one for the reception. Then I couldn’t make up my mind which dress I wanted, so my plan was to wait until they all came in to decide. That plan backfired on me when I realized I don’t have money to pay for all three dresses.
If the dress shops can’t help me, I’ll just try to sell the other two dresses. Thank goodness weddings don’t come along all the time!!! 🙂
Post # 11
Update: over the past week, I heard back from the sales consultant at the dress shop. Before she could say anything at all, I explained to her that I decided to go with a different dress and I didn’t anticipate getting myself into this mess. I also let her know that if I am required to do so, I will definitely pay the full cost of the dress. The woman became very nasty with me and started lecturing me (almost like a child) that when a bride outs on a dress, says it’s the one, and puts a deposit on the dress, that’s the end of it. I said to her that I’m not interested in her opinion; I just want to know if there is any way to leave the dress at the shop and only be out of my deposit. She wouldn’t answer me and she just kept telling me that the right thing to do would be to pay the remainder of the balance.
Does anyone know the behind-the-scenes scenario if I didn’t pay the blaance? Would the store be stuck with paying for my dress or would they be able to ship back to the designer? I feel awful with a huge pit in my stomach because of this. Can anyone help me out with some advice? Please.