Post # 1
So I tried on maybe 3 wedding dresses when I came across the dress of my dreams online. I bought it, I love it, it doesn’t currently fit, but I’m working on it. However, I recently had someone comment on the color of my dress. It isn’t white, at all. They asked me if I wanted everyone to know I’m not a virgin as it isn’t white (my Fiance and I bought a house, so I assume they know) and made general comments about how it doesn’t look like a wedding dress and everyone is going to talk about it. Ugh
Now I’m worried I made a big mistake. I hate making decisions anyway, so making one and then having it questioned by someone close to me is upsetting. So, here it is… here’s my dress. Should I look for a white traditional one instead?
I guess I just feel like everything has been going terribly wrong since I got engaged and the first time I found something ‘right’, I’m told it isn’t. Should I be a traditional bride or should I be whatever I want?
Post # 3
GORGEOUS dress. It’s obviously very bridal in my eyes!
That white/virgin thing went out the winndow like, 50 years ago or so? I’m wearing all white, and I’m going to be 45 on my wedding day!
You should wear whatever you feel beautiful in. It can be any color YOU want it to be! Anyone who says anything to you like “people will think you aren’t a virgin” are ignorant, stuck in the 1950’s, and being extremely inconsiderate. I think the dress is a knockout, and I also think you should wear whatever the heck you please.
Post # 4
That dress (despite not being white) is so Cindarella-esque, that no one is going to confuse you for anyone other than the bride. And I’m not sure where the whole virgin/non-virgin thing comes in, but I’m pretty sure that most brides who wear white don’t do so because they want their friends and family to believe in their chastity.. If you feel beautiful in it and you can see yourself getting married in it, then that’s really all that you need to know.
Post # 5
Oh my gosh missymoose I feel so strongly about this I have joined the site just to reply!!
This dress is BEAUTIFUL! don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!! I cannot believe someone you trusted enough to show your dress to would be so rude. Honesty is best and all that but their comments are way beyond “I wouldn’t choose it but…”
Please please don’t change your dream dress because of someone else’s thoughtless comments. It’s gorgeous and it’s your day!!!
Post # 6
Whoever made the comment, well, it’s not her wedding day. If this is the dress that makes you feel beautiful, wear it! 🙂
Post # 7
The origins of the white dress were to flaunt wealth and never had anything to do with chastity. Religion latched on to that after the fact. Most brides just got married in their best dresses (like Middle Ages we’re talking), and obviously, a white dress is hard to keep clean, then or now! So the wealthy would buy a white dress just to show off that they could afford a dress their daughter would wear for one day only (sound familiar?) and then it wouldn’t be worn again as it was most likely ruined.
That person was incredibly thoughtless (and ignorant anyway). It’s your dream dress, and it’s beautiful. Don’t let that person bring you down!
Post # 8
The dress is gorgeous btw
i dont have any regrets about my dress but i do regret buying it so soon because now i want to change things about my wedding.
Post # 9
I love that dress! Gorgeous!!! Ignore any rude comments like that..do what makes you happy!
Post # 10
I think its gorgeous! don’t worry.. I liked the “ball gown” look too and the lady that was helping me try on dresses asked me if I wanted to look like a bride or someone who was going to a prom.I was like… yeaaah okay?
people always say stuff like that… just don’t let it bother you. Get the dress of your dreams and wear it proudly! I’m sure you will look amazing in that gown no matter what color it is =)
Post # 11
It’s YOUR wedding day, go with what YOU think it’s nice. Everything else around that day we cater to guests, your dress should not be one of it. If you feel beautiful in it, it’s all that counts 🙂
Post # 12
You already answered for yourself sort of when you asked if you should do what you want. The dress is gorgeous, and I wouldn’t worry about the colour because once you put it on with a veil it will be unmistakable.
Post # 13
I love that dress, holy cats! Do whatever you want to do!
Post # 14
It is gorgeous! I say keep it in that color! It’s your day and if you love it, then that is all that matters.
If I had found one that I adored my dress would have been a different color. I never wanted a white or ivory dress.
Post # 15
Very well put menobride ! I think your dress is absolutly beautiful, and I really LOVE the colour! This is the day about you and your fiance, and if you love that dress, then thats all that matters!
Post # 16
How incredibly RUDE of someone to say that to you. I’m mad for you!!! Their comment was extremely inappropraite and they should have kept their opinion to themselves. Even though that is the case, it is hard not to let those kind of comments get to you and make you second guess everything. I personally like that your dress has some color in it, as it is probably a unique representation of the kind of person you are.
If you personally (disregarding anyone’s comments – positive or negative) like the color and the style of the dress and the fit….than it is absolutely the right dress for you.