- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’m hoping someone can talk me down from the ledge here and offer some reassurance. I have two months to go to our wedding.
I spent three months going from store to store back at the start of the year in my quest for a wedding dress. In the end I went to seven stores, all over the country. I dreamed of this dress before I went to the store, and though it looked nice on me, the halterneck was *not* flattering and meant that I could not wear a proper bra. I am very large chested, so it just wouldn’t have worked. I’ve done the whole strapless and halterneck thing before and it was a disaster. Anyway, so I asked the store if the dress could be altered from halterneck to normal straps and they said no. I was disappointed, so just lived with it. I wish now I’d been more persistent and asked my tailor who fixes my clothes all the time.
Here is a pic of the model in my dream dress.
Here are some pics of me in it. The second pic shows well how the halterneck is unflattering to my chest.
We also drove hours to the other side of the country to try the Maggie Sottero Adorae Louise. When I tried it on though it just didn’t flatter me. It looked okay, but not great.
In short, the dresses I loved just didn’t seem to suit me. So in the end I choose a dress that I had been crazy about the first time I tried it on. It was only one of three dresses that I was truly excited about. However the other two were out as the first was strapless and I don’t/do not want to go there* and the other one had the halterneck as listed above. Anyway, I was so excited about my dress the first time I tried it on, but I never felt the same about it again. However, I was running out of time and had tried on 60-70 dresses by this stage, so in the end my mother bought this one for me.
It has since come into the store and looks nothing like the dress I ordered because it is massive on me. My bust is out of control :), so it had to be ordered two sizes up to fit them. However it looks nothing like the sample I tried on.
This is a pic of me in the sample.
This is a pic of me in the too big dress.
The dressmaker says she can take it in and make it look like the sample; however I am worried. I feel like my dress is really plain and ‘unspecial’. I definitely compromised because what I wanted didn’t work for my figure, and I didn’t have any more time to shop. If I’d known what I know now I would have started shopping a year before the wedding, but sadly I didn’t know so it’s too late.
I also recently lost my job, so literally have *no* money. I am surviving on a few hundred dollars a month, so do not have money to buy another dress. Plus, my mother paid for this one anyway, and she would be upset if I just ditched it. Furthermore, they don’t sell sample sizes that would fit my bust anyway. I am a US 10 in bridal sizes in the waist, but a 14 in the bust. So samples don’t exist in this size.
Anyway, what do others think? Is my dress okay? I feel like it’s really plain and that I’m not gonna get the sculpted look of the sample. Is there anything I could do to make it more like my dream dress? It just feels so plain to me.