Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Yeah. I’m regretting my dress.
I’m a street size 12-14 so hardly any shops had samples that actually fit me. When I finally found a sample that DID fit me, it looked pretty nice, and I was so tired of searching that I just said “Okay, this is the one.” They agreed to sell me the floor sample and it was done.
But now I’m regretting it. I think that I just chose it because I could zip it up all the way. I tried on a lot of other pretty dresses but I couldn’t tell how they’d look on me for real, since I couldn’t get most of them zipped up past the middle of my back. With this one, I was like “Thank god, it fits. Let’s get this over with.”
It’s a beautiful dress but I don’t think it’s right for my wedding. It’s a bit too formal and traditional and I wanted something a bit quirky and casual.
So here’s my question: I know that a lot of bees out there have had second thoughts about the dress. Has anyone had any luck with getting your deposit back? Since it’s a floor sample, they didn’t place any type of order with the manufacturer, so I’d really just be dealing with the shop itself.
By the way, this is the dress:
And this is it on me:
Post # 3
It looks great! Do you like the fabric flowers? I’m sure you could find some to match the model pic.
Post # 4
You could always give the shop a call and ask them.
Honestly though, that dress is so beautiful and you look great in it!
Post # 5
I bought my dress as a sample and immediately regretted it… my mom loved it and I just made a rash decision. Luckily the woman who owned the bridal shop was really nice about the whole thing and let me come in and pick out another dress with one stipulation… it had to be a sample as well. I ended up finding a beautiful pronovias gown that fit a little snug but I knew it could be taken out if I didn’t lose the extra weight (which I did). I was lucky in the fact that most of the samples fit me as I am a size 8 and most of the samples are in 10 and 12.
Hmm… its worth a shot.. I also paid cash for mine so idk if that made a difference either.
Post # 6
I don’t have any advice, but I think that dress is so gorgeous and looks wonderful on you. I also don’t think it is too formal.
Post # 7
I don’t have advice about getting your deposit back, but I just wanted to say that I think you could totally work with the dress to get the look you are going for. I see that dress as kind of a blank slate. Maybe take away the bling on the side and add something different. I like the flowers on the model.
I’d also suggest sitting on your decision for a bit, because a lot of us have had dress regret. I think it comes in waves, and everytime I second guessed my dress I always ended up happy that I stuck with my dress.
Post # 8
First of all — your waist looks impossibly tiny in that dress giving you an amazing Hourglass figure!!!
I too am the same street size as you and I understand your fustrations in trying to find THE dress. . .
IDK about getting your deposit, all you can do is try — although, you may want to prepare yourself for bad news just in case. . . but hey you never know!! If you are still giving them business they may be willing to work for you.
Second, think of what “quirk” and “casual” really mean to you, does it mean shorter? Different style accessories — i.e. like the flower instead of the beading? Or does it mean some color? In other words — would you go for the same SHAPE dress just with some change?? B/c maybe you can edit this dress into something different.
You can shorten it, you can use fabric flowers with different colors instead of beading. . you can add ribbon, you can change the color of the underlayers/petticoats etc. . .
Also your hair & shoes & veil styles can enhance the casualness of your look.
Below are some links to fabric flowers in other colors. . .
Post # 9
Dana that dress looks great on you!
Post # 10
Dana, I really think that you look FABULOUS in that dress!!! It really works well with your curvy figure. It looks fairly casual In My Humble Opinion. I just would wear your hair simply, maybe get some jewelry and shoes that would make it fun. Or maybe you might like to find a different style dress for your reception??? 🙂 Rhonda
Post # 11
Sorry you’re having regrets. For what it’s worth, I think that dress is sooo beautiful and really flatters your shape. Probably worth a shot talking to the shop owner if you’re dead set on exhanging though.
Post # 12
I agree that you look beautiful in it, but also that it’s worth a shot calling the shop and seeing if you can negotiate something with them. It’s early enough yet that you could find a different dress still, if that’s what you really want.
Post # 13
The dress looks beautiful on you! I’m am sure your going to rock it. If you want something different, add the flowers at the waist like the model picture.. Either way its stunning.. but if you want something less formal and more fun.. try that!
Post # 14
I had the same trouble trying on dresses, nothing fit right, and I couldn’t tell if it was the dress or the size most of the time. We ordered my dress in November and I spent the whole time until it came in (last week!) wondering if I had made a mistake. What really helped me was to get together the jewelry I wanted to wear and figure out what type of veil etc while we were at the shop so I could see everything together. And I had my mom take lots of pictures to head off future freak outs. 🙂 Accessories realy do make a big difference in the feeling a dress gives off, and yours fits you beautifully and could go in so many directions.
Post # 15
Try asking the salon what they could do for you? Maybe they could apply the deposit toward another dress. You never know unless you ask.
Post # 16
I”m sure by now you’ve spoken to the shop owner about your options, but my experience when I bought my sample dress and then had second thoughts about it was that they basically said that I owed them the rest of the money for the dress because they had already ordered another sample of that dress to replace the one I bought. So I wasn’t able to move my deposit to another dress, or even just not pay the remainder of what I owed on my dress. That kind of forced me to stick with my dress, and now, 6 months after the whole situation, I”m happy I did. So I hope that if you’re really unhappy with your dress, you were able to exchange it. But if you were not, maybe you’ll grow to love it again. If not, you can always sell it–it’s a really pretty dress (and looks great on you) and I’m sure many brides would love to wear it!