Post # 1
So I am having anxiety about my wedding dress and I am not sure what to do.
I only went dress shopping once. And it happneed to be during my cousin’s wedding so basically all my grandma’s and aunts got to come with me. Going into the bridal shop I had quite the entourage.
I had never been looking before or tried anything on but I had an idea of the basic shape I wanted. I wanted something form-fitting, elegant and beautiful. I was open to A line but absolutely did NOT want a ballgown. I tried on a few different selections with the same basic shape but nothing was really wowing me. I wasn’t expecting to buy a dress that day so I wasn’t too concerned. Everyone thought that most of the dresses looked good on me but non had an over the top reaction. After trying the last dress he pulled for me and not loving it, my mom pulled me aside and asked me to please just try a ballgown on for her. I said “Alright, but I am not going to buy it.” He brought in Alfred Angelo’s Belle dress 206 and I slipped it on without any thought because in my head it was an automatic no because it was a ballgown and i was dead set against one.
When I walked out my aunt literally screamed. Everyone burst into tears and literally had the most over the top reaction I had ever seen. This was before I even had a chance to look in the mirror. I was kind of stunned so when I walked up to the mirror and saw how it looked I was surprised. It did look wonderful and I was completely shocked. But the next half an hour after that I was torn as my mom and grandma and everyone kept telling me that this had to be the one. It was SO not what I was expecting. I got worried because the one thing my FI had said to me was that he wasn’t into poofy. Well, this dress can definitelt come off poofy. I knew he would love me no matter what but I really want him to like the dress I wear. I didn’t want to like it but I did. After mulling it over for a night, we went back and purchased it. I felt confident about the decision but 16 weeks later, after getting the dress finally shipped to me I am having second thoughts.
Is this normal? I am mostly uncomfortable with the bigness of the skirt. I love the bodice! I am worried that buying a different dress may be out of the question budget wise.
I posted the best picture i could find of myself wearing the dress. My main worry is this: Am I wearing this dress or is this dress wearing me? I don’t want to get lost in the dress.
I’m so sorry if this long rant comes off a whiny, I truly don’t intend to be. I am so greatful that I am in the position to even afford a beautiful dress like this and feel stupid for having these worries. I posted the best picture I got of it on below. What do you guys think? Any advice would be so much appreciated. You guys are wonderful and I trust your opinions!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I personally love it on you! Your figure looks great in it.
Post # 4
I think it’s gorgeous! And it’s not super poofy for a ballgown so unless you add to it I think you’ll get used to it. Have you tried it on again since receiving it? Maybe you could afford a lower priced reception dress and compromise by wearing both?
Post # 5
Maybe you could have some of the crinoline underneath removed so it’s not so poofy? That might make you feel better about it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2014 - Carondelet House
For being a ballgown, the dropped waist gives it more of an A-line silhouette. I’m not a ballgown fan either, but I think you look lovely. If your FI doesn’t like poofy, perhaps there is a layer of crinoline you could remove to narrow the skirt? (Not that I think it needs it.)
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I think the dress fits you just beautifully! It definitely does not wear you and I don’t think it’s really all that poofy BUT if you feel it might help to remove some crinoline layers go for it! 🙂
Post # 8
@Maddybug: You look stunning!!!
Post # 9
@Maddybug: Go back to the store (alone) and try it on, and see how you feel about it. You wont have anyone around you trying to sway you’re opinion and you’ll really get to see how you feel about it.
Post # 10
You look stunning in that dress. Have you continued to look at dresses online? Then stop. It’s like your FI- there might be another more handsome, more witty, more compatible man out there for you. But who cares, you love the one you have and you can stop looking.
Post # 11
I agree that you should go back alone to try it on and see how you feel without other people swaying you. I’d also try to remember that even though your FI may not like pouf, he will probably only see you and your amazing figure in that bodice. He won’t be looking at the skirt. He’ll be looking at your boobies. I mean, really.
Post # 12
@allyfally: +1 excellent advice
@Maddybug: I personally think it’s beautiful on you, but do YOU feel like the bride that you want to be on your wedding day? That’s what matters. I think a good way to figure that out is to go try on the dress yourself and see what you think. Good luck!
Post # 13
Wow, that dress is stunning on you. I love it.
Post # 14
@Maddybug: you look really beautiful in that dress. if i were you i would go shopping again and try on more dresses including that one. either go alone or bring 1 trusted friend– who was not there the first time youo tried it on.
i was convinced i would never get a dress with beading– my dress had beading– and it was GORGEOUS. it’s very common to get a dress unlike what you were expecting!
Post # 15
@Maddybug: Maybe you just need to spend a little more time with the dress on. I think it looks really beautiful on you.
Post # 16
I think it looks fabulous. And not over the top poofy either!
It’s a big purchase so I think a little regret is normal, but I’d keep it. It looks great! In the end, you’ll only be wearing it for a few hours anyway… not worth worrying about it. If it looked bad then I am sure someone would say something… but it doesn’t.