- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Stressed out. I feel like it would take all day to explain all the reasons why I am having dress regret but I will try…
I picked a short lace wedding dress for our March 1 ceremony. It is a very small ceremony and we wanted to keep it simple. I went ahead and ordered the dress and put a deposit down ($100).
Everything was cool until our plans changed. We are still having our small ceremony and dinner but are now having a large reception after. There will be probably 130-150 people. Now I feel like my dress isn’t nice enough. We are still trying to keep everything easy going/casual/simple but when I think about dancing, cutting cake etc in my short simple dress, I am sad and feel like I won’t feel bridal enough.
My issues now are
#1 – My mom is paying for the dress. I feel bad for changing my mind since I already put a deposit on the other dress (the dress in total would probably come to about $300 – $350 after alterations etc). I have talked to my mom about this and she is TOTALLY fine with me changing my mind but I still feel bad.
#2 – When I told FI about my dress regret feelings he got a little aggitated and reminded me that we wanted to keep things simple and just because now we’re having a large reception, doesn’t mean I need a new dress. I explained to him that I want the dress to be special and although I like the dress I picked, I have a strong feeling that I should change it.
#3 – Time. My current dress will not be in until 3 weeks before the wedding. What if I don’t like it or I am disappointed? I definately won’t have time to do anything about it. If I did want to start looking for a new dress now, would I even have time to order another one?! We are a little less than 3 months away from the wedding.
#4 – I found a couple dresses I really love. I would at least like to try them on. I told my mom all my worries and she told me that we would go back to the store and look for something else. I am afraid to tell FI because I think he will be upset that I do not want to stick to my original dress.
Also, I think I want a long dress over a short dress anyway. It will be March and it will be cold. Ugh.
Here is the dress I want to try on. It is actually a bridesmaid’s dress so it isn’t even that fancy or anything. I would get it in ivory. I don’t know what to do though. I hate dress regret.
Any advice Bees? Sorry the post is so long 🙁 I am really stressed right now.